Will I ever find love again?
why is it so hard to just find someone who understands me. I feel like I've been dating little boys. I'm getting tired of it. I'm almost 20
I may be young but I'm def. mature for my age and this my friend is the truth
2007-08-01 10:51:38 · 6 answers · asked by . 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
The quick answer: yes
The longer answer: Of course you will, and it will happen faster if you don't strive for it. There are a lot of challenges when you are in love (of course, there's good stuff too). Take this time to really enjoy the friendships you have and spend time with family. Make sure to put your own priorities first, develop yourself and your hobbies and interests. It will make you a more interesting person, and it will take the focus away from searching fruitlessly for someone to fall in love with.
Being in love just sort of happens, it is impossible to force it. Focusing on yourself and your interests will put you in a position where you'll meet people that are compatible with you, rather than compromising.
2007-08-01 10:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by todd 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While I can understand your feeling,
I can also see life as a much longer lifespan.
Typical feelings in the late teens, early 20's is an urgency and a desperation toward finding and establishing a "couple's relationship" with some permanence, that go along with strong emotional elation and physical attraction.
This may seem like a silly exercise, but it may assist you in visualizing the length of your adult lifespan as it stretches out before you. Take a piece of paper, write numbers 10, 15, 20, 25, 30...................up to 100. Now circle or place your name under the 20. Sit back and look at your lifespan, and consider what may be ahead.
Consider when you'd like to finish school, travel, work, marry, buy your first house, give birth to your first or second or third child, look at which ages you'll be while your children are in school, consider training for a second career, when might you be wanting to retire - with the money saved and invested? When would you anticipate your grandchildren will be born? Are you going to be their babysitter? ...............Or will you be traveling, or still working?
This is an excellent exercise for someone in your age group.
Now back to your QUESTION. WILL I EVER FIND LOVE AGAIN. The more you learn and experience of life, the more you have to offer in a marriage relationship. You will have greater understanding and perspective on life. You can share goals, both short term and long term. AND YES, you can share a secure-alive-passionate-caring-lifelong-loving relationship with a man who is searching for you.
As you wait and look for him to appear on the horizon of life, realize your waiting is allowing him to gain in his own maturity so he will be ready to settle down and be devoted to you and the family you build together.
Short question - long answer. Don't rush it. Live it well with no regrets. And save the sex for the guy who you are going to marry. He will appreciate it immensely, and love you even more for it.
2007-08-01 18:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how u feel,iv been there before.but your still to young to rush into love.relax! take it easy, patients is a virtue believe me!! don't look for love let love come to you.sooner or later that one special guy will come along!!and yull know that it was worth the wait!!BEST OF LUCK!!!
2007-08-01 18:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
God is Love. Try Him first...and He will send the right person your way.
That's the better top priority.
2007-08-01 18:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by BLI 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you will. You sound like a great person and one day the right person will come for you.
2007-08-01 17:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/TheOpenDoorForsupport/
2007-08-01 18:09:25 · answer #6 · answered by LACY LYNN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋