My cousin and my friend just met, texted for about an hour, and then he asked her out. He's way older. He also keeps lying to me so that he won't have to talk to me and he can just talk to her. She also lied to me about what she was saying in the texts she sent him. She also keeps saying that she didn't want to date him, but only said yes because she wants to say the she has a boyfriend which I know is a lie. If not, is she being self- centered and slutty, or am I being selfish? Please help! I feel like I'm losing both of them as friends. The girl is my best friend so it won't be so easy to just stop being her friend.
2007-08-01 10:21:45 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was there when they got together so they know I know.
2007-08-01 10:33:42 · update #1
Sounds like they are both afraid of your reaction if they are honest....so why do they have to lie? Tell them that you don't mind if they date, and maybe it will all work out.
2007-08-01 10:24:29 · answer #1 · answered by qamberq 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is a funny thing. Family is a funnier thing.
If they both like each other, and you trust your cousin enough not to hurt your best friend, then just calm down and let it take it's course. There's nothing wrong with two people meeting.
They might just be lying to you because they're afraid of what you'll say or how you'll react. You should sit down with them, let them know you're okay with it, and who knows--maybe one day she'll be a part of your family :)
2007-08-01 17:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by Avillie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No! Yes because people who voluntarily lie make all situations, big or small, worse. Because it makes you wonder what else they lied to you about. No because let them do what they want. Their not gonna lose you as a friend. Just act like you don't care and they'll come back around
2007-08-01 17:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by NEveR ThE LesS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your cousin and freinds first reaction is to lie to you then they must know your gonna freak out about it, or disaprove.
I'm thinking that you might be a little jealous, and you are giving off a negative vibe to both of them, therefore they feel its necessary to lie to avoid fights, arguments etc....
Let it pan out and see where the relationship goes before you cast judgement.
Best of luck
2007-08-01 17:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by HeHateMe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad how some people can get so much value from other people that they would lie about their behaviour. I wouldn't take your friends behaviour personally, it's really their problem. I'd let her/him work it through. With all the lies going on, it probably won't last anyhow.
2007-08-01 17:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well its wrong for the chick to lie to you or to him.
You have a right to be mad, but to a point.
I think you should talk to both of them about how it makes you angry.
But sugar-coat it so u dont lose them as friends.
2007-08-09 16:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by sweetsam_goindumb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if their lying to you thats not very friendly at all.. friends dont' hide anything and if she said thats why she's dating your cousin then i would tell him... blood is thicker then water.. and tell her she was wrong to date him for that reason and you dont' feel that you should lie to him about that.. and after that let them both know that you dont' want to be apart of their "relationship".. to much stress and we all have enough of that with life it's self.. good luck and best wishes!
2007-08-01 17:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by ~broken~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If im in your shoes, i think i dont have the right to be mad at them in any way...Unless your are having an affair with your friend, or wanted him in secret.
You allowed them to meet and be introduced with each other, your concern should only be up to that level. If something romantic is sprouting in between them after that introduction-That's none of your business my child....They deserve some privacy to their affairs,..we all do...
2007-08-01 17:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It happens. You won't lose them as friends. It's just how most beginning couples start out... they're totally digging each other and they kind of forget everyone else around them.
You shouldn't be mad at them, just tell them how you feel... that they're making you feel left out.
2007-08-01 17:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by Natsumi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say just forget about it because when anything is going to happen than she can't blame u for anything and as for ur cousin he should know better if he is older than her since the rule is never date ur sister's friend becuz it would ruin her friendship
2007-08-01 17:28:14 · answer #10 · answered by kajal c 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋