this 8 year old in my cousins class came over to my cousins house one day. when they were sleeping my cousin (who is also 8) said that her friend licked her fingers and "rubbed" down there and said that she pretends boys are "kissing" down there. my cousin said she ran out of the room and slept somewhere else & they are not friends anymore.
why does this girl have such sick thoughts at 8 years old. do you think she masturbates? well anyway i want serious answers where could she have learned this behavior!
2007-08-01 10:03:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Since when is oral sex sick? How is it your concern whether this girl in your cousin's class masturbates? And how could we possibly guess where she's been exposed to the practice?
At eight, she's starting to be a sexual being. She may touch herself and find pleasure in it, although she probably does not reach orgasm from it. If your cousin is not yet at that stage, she's probably mystified, embarrassed, or thinks the whole idea is icky.
This little girl's behavior wouldn't concern me a lot in terms of its sexuality, but she needs to learn the social boundaries of public behavior and speech when it comes to things sexual.
2007-08-01 10:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
She could have learned this behavior from lots of places. I do not want to be judgemental but most behaviors such as those are learned at home via sexual abuse or witnessing family members engaging in these acts. Some little girls are more advanced than others but most that are have witnessed this like I said from the family or they also could have seen this on parent's pornographic materials. I do not want to say for 100% that this little girl you are speaking of has been sexually abused but the probability is there. If the parent of your cousin was witness to this or is highly concerned she should contact social services or the school counselor regarding these matters, it would not be a positive thing if this girl were teaching other little 8 year olds how to be acting in this matter. This is how we have 10 yo girls getting pregnant.
2007-08-01 10:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've heard it's not uncommon for girls and boys that age to "explore" their bodies, but it sounds like this friend of your cousin's is a little bit sexually advanced. It is possible that she is being sexually abused by a relative, since it is not exactly "normal" for 8-year-olds to think about boys kissing their areas. I didn't even know people DID that until I was about 14, but then again, I was a tad naive...
If you are worried about the girl, have your cousin's parents call her parents and have a frank discussion about what she did while she was at your cousin's house. They might find out she's been hiding something serious like abuse. Many kids are threatened about horrible things that will happen to them or their families if they tell what's going on. I know that teachers and school social workers are required to report strange behavior like that for investigation.
2007-08-01 10:20:15 · answer #3 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are little geniuses when it comes to learning. That's why we put them in school. They will learn extremely well whatever they are exposed to, so this little kid has been exposed to some questionable content for her age.
I don't think she masturbates. I think someone in her life talks to her in this way and may even be going further than that. She didn't dream it up on her own, trust me.
In any case, the child is being victimized. Children have no use for sexual talk or activity. They are being abused by somebody if exposed to such things at 8 years old.
2007-08-01 10:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, anyone that young with that kind of knowledge, someone has introduced her to it. Wheither she is being molested or saw something on TV - it's pretty obvious she is masturbating, what else would she be doing? Someone or something had to introduce her to this.
I have a client where I work who is an attorney. There was a case he had about two parents, mother and father who were arrested for sexually abusing their 7 year old son. They taught him to give bj's to several men - when they took the boy from his parents and put him in foster care, he was trying to give someone that lived in the house a bj. It wasn't his fault - that's what he was taught, he thought it was normal. I hate hearing stories like this, and I hope this girl gets help and gets better and gets a healthy idea of sex.
2007-08-01 10:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have a 7 yr old cuz who talks about butts, but thats as sick as he gets. its not normal 4 8 yr olds 2 do stuff like that. some1 has polluted her mind. i think thats horrible that little kids r exposed 2 that stuff. thats really gross. if i was ur cousin i wouldnt b friends with her anymore either! i feel sorry 4 ur cuz. that must b sort of scary, & now ur cuz has been exposed 2 that stuff. talk 2 ur parents, ur cousins parents & the girls parents. u need 2 know how she couldve learned that so that u cn prevent it if u ever have kids.
PS, she mightve been molested, or she might masturbate. im trying 2 b serious. here let me tell u the perviest thing my little cuz did. 1 night he runs into our room NAKED! & chases us around! it was more funny than pervy. i feel like kids that age shouldnt b exposed 2 sex scenes on tv, but they r every day. it's a shame.
2007-08-01 10:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 09:50:08 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is not normal. My first thought is that she was molested or has been exposed to these things at a very young age.
At 8 btw, you should not be having these thoughts and are NOT becoming a "sexual being", oral sex is not gross - if you are an adult!
2007-08-01 10:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by Gin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has obviously seen or participated in some activities she should not know about quite yet. Some one may have molested her or she has been exposed to real sex or porn.
I suppose some children her age may masturbate but most are not so "adult" about it.
2007-08-01 10:08:41 · answer #9 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is nasty
she must have seen someone on tv or in her home doing this
it is not normal behavior and maybe her parents should be notified or if they suck as parents call the authorities- someone may be doing it to her!
2007-08-01 10:09:40 · answer #10 · answered by aquarius78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋