How should I regain my girlfriends trust?

Question

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 11 months now and I am completely in the dog house. I was having problems with myself and didn't know if I really wanted to be in this relationship. So I started flirting with one of my old friends through email saying "I want to rip your clothes off" and one day she went through my stuff and found that. we almost broke up and I feel like a worthless peice of scum. Im not friends with him anymore and I barely talk to anyone else anymore for that matter (mostly because im not allowed to if i want to be with her). How should I regain my girlfriends trust? I love her so much and would do anything for her...please help!

Answer 1

It will take time. It will take time to regain that trust but it can be done depending on how forgiving she is. If you truely love her it will be worth the effort.

Answer 2

As a girl who has been lied to in a relationship, i can tell you right now that there is nothing you can directly do or say that will make her trust you, or fix it. But I can tell you, that i am still with my boyfriend, after an 'incident', and been together seven months. So how did it get fixed? I, as the girl gave it time and eventually i began to trust again. I needed reassuring that he loved me, and a bit of affection sure. But, even to this day, sometime i doubt things, and wonder if i made the right decision, in trusting him again. You just have to be there, and let her know how you feel. Put everything up front, she will be less confused then. You probably could leave this question, open on your computer, and hope she sees it, or let her know what you wrote. Because it is obvious you care, and don't want to lose your relationship, but you need to tell her that. Good Luck :)

Answer 3

i don't think u can, and honestly anything i say won't make u change, it has to come from u. trust is somehing very hard to gain back, and u screwed it up, sorry to tell u. You can't make anyone trust u, it comes naturally in a relationship. What u have 2 do is be loyal to her, and don't do it again, and if she's not the one tewll it to her face, before doing what u did because that honesty.

Answer 4

Once someone loose trust in you it's hard to regain that. You may gain her trust may soon or you may never gain it back. Just ask yourself how would you feel if the show was on the other foot.

Answer 5

Show her that you love her, but if she's making you cut off all your friendships, then its not right.
Stop talking to that one guy but dont cut-off from everyone else, cuz if this relationship doesn't work out, then your not gonna have anyone to go to b/c u've cut urself off from ur other friends.

Answer 6

tell her just that.

you said it right there.

now with your relationship, trust is doubly important, because the rest of the world can get rather acrid around same-sex couples. *sigh* wish it weren't so,

but look, I see where she's coming from, and since she loves you, I think she'll understand. try telling her just that. what you said. that you didn't mean it, and that the world was wearing you down and such

Answer 7

hey get back with ur friends

if she is bossing u around and u can't do notin but be wit her then i will dump her

wen u was flirting over email and u liked go with that friend

it might be better

Answer 8

If you loved her you would have never wrote that to someone else.. You made the mistakes.. talk to her tell her you did it and ment nothing by it.... tell her you are a jerk tell her what she wants to hear.... tell her your sorry... that seems to open the door to a great and long lasting relationship!!!

Answer 9

you can still talk to your friends. thats over the line. do whatever she asks. except cutting off friendships. except with that one guy. show her this.

Answer 10

go to her and tell her how much you love her and care for her