Theres this guy i like, and he texted me saying he wants to have sex
I want to, but people keep telling me I'm too young
I am also a virgin...
Help!
2007-08-01 09:50:59 · 50 answers · asked by sxclxc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
have sex with someone youve been DATING for a long time. it doesnt matter how long youve known them. it matters how long youve been in a relationship with them. plus, most likely a relationship wont form from this. you may just be a booty call to him =[
2007-08-01 09:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by kay lay 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on how you feel about having a baby while you are still in school. You also never said that he liked you and love was not even part of the equation.
Sex is a grown up thing - not a toy to be played with or taken lightly. When a young girl messes up she is stuck with a lot of hard decisions that will effect her for the rest of her life.
The guy, who texted and wanted to have sex, gets to walk away because he is a minor and there is nothing you can do to him.
Don't do it if you want a chance at going to college or finishing school even.
If you do cave in to the pressure - USE birth control and make him wear a condom. If he wants to do it with you that means he has probably done other girls too. You don't want to catch anything.
Texting to have sex is kinda tacky anyway. It's like he don't even respect you - just wants to screw your socks off and walk away laughing about it to his friends.
2007-08-01 09:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by Collette L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way, this jerk is pushing u so tell him no! If he can't wait until you are ready mentallyy and physically he's not the right guy. Tell him straight up you don't want that in this relationship, because the consequences could bew worse. After u tell him he should drop the subject no questions asked. And when you do it, make sure it's better than that not in a text message, this guy just wants to fool around he's not ready for the responsibilities that it can cause. good luck!
2007-08-01 09:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by raidergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy that asks for sex over a text message does not strike me as someone who is worthwile. You deserve better then that. Choose someone who spends time with you, treats you good , and can come up with a better approach, then a text message. This is something that the two of you should discuss seriously, and it should not be rushed into. You are 16 and only you can determine when you are ready. If you choose to give it up to this BOY, then make sure you protect yourself against AIDS, pregnancy, and other STDs.
2007-08-01 10:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by Mai Tai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are too young. man how long do you even know him? that just doesnt make sense. he told you he wants to have sex, in a text message? thats juvenile. wait a few more years. when people tell you that you're too young, its true!
i lost my virginity at 20, and sometimes i still wonder if i should have waited longer. you'd be surprised how fast the guy turns into a jerk after. are you mentally ready for that? it happens, a lot. also, there are a lot of stds out there. have you heard of HPV? you can get it from just genital contact. no penetration has to be involved either and condoms do not prevent it. oh and it can cause warts and cancer too. you can also get pregnant. condoms break, pills fail, and you are too young to go to the pharmacy to buy a morning after pill.
geez.. its just an all around bad idea at that age... you shouldnt do it....
2007-08-01 09:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by NAQ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not right now! For one, you gotta think about the possibilities. The many things that could go wrong if you chose to have sex at an early age. Me, I'll wait. There's a million other things that you could think about or do. Have fun and save yourself, you would definitely appreciated years from now. Save yourself for that special person. You got to realize that guys just really want one thing and that one thing is what that guy is asking you for. Is it just a fling??? Or does this guy really love you??? You gotta be very careful babe. Guys are animals, I know 'cause I'm one... but a really nice and cute animal, that is. Anyway, just be careful babe 'cause you can only give away your virginity once. You don't wanna regret it. Good luck!!!
2007-08-01 10:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by Donnie Brasco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait! Dont let him pressure you into something you arent ready for. hold on to it for as long as you can and share it with your boyfriend only! This guy is a total jerk and that's all he wants from you.
Share your body with someone you have been dating for a while like a year or so. And I would wait until after high school if I were you. It would not be worth catching an STD or getting pregnant with a guy that is only looking to get what he wants and then splits.
2007-08-01 09:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by CaliGirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is only up to you, but with the info you put out- I think you'll regret it- waiting until you are married is the right thing to do but if you don't at least wait for the right person! You may have a crush on this guy but whose tosay he likes you? Take it from me- you could get pregnant and your life can take a HUGE turn that you may not be ready for- answer this for yourself- if you were to get pregnant would this guy stand beside you? You should wait, virginity is something you should take alot of pride in!
2007-08-01 10:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by Jami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in my opinion as most people here have said no thats not a good idea.
that is just way too young to be going and doing that.
virginity is a special thing and its always the best thing if you wait until your older.
theres no point in wasting it on some guy that your not in a relationship with or a person you love.
and if he texted you saying he wants to have sex then hes trying to use you for sex if hes just saying that and rushing way to much.
if he just wants you for that hes not worth it even if you do have a crush on him...
so ill say it again no, its not a good idea.
2007-08-01 10:04:42 · answer #9 · answered by Skye-dez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't. You're not ready physically to have a child, and that is ALWAYS a possibility when you have sex. Condoms reduce the chances, and stop some STDs, but not all of them, and there's always a chance of something going wrong.
And I can almost guarantee you that if you give this boy your virginity at this point, he'll dump you as soon as he gets bored and you'll regret ever doing it.
2007-08-01 09:56:09 · answer #10 · answered by triviatm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a part of you that is given to a person when you engage in this activity. I am 26 and happily married and did not wait for my husband when it came to this area of our relationship. I wish with all my heart that I had. He is my soul mate although a part of me will never be his. I strongly encourage you two to find something else to do with your free time. Something less dangerous and committing.
I worked for an organization call "Crisis Pregnancy Center" in college. People just like you who knew they took all the precautions but still had an unwanted pregnancy or STD. As old-school as this sounds, sex is strictly intended for your spouse...
2007-08-01 09:58:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋