My first year of college, i met a guy who quickly became my best friend. I was a sheltered kid in high school and didn't have much of an oppurtunity to experiment, and he kept me out of trouble and safe, while letting me see what the college life was really all about. he had a serious relationship but it had been going down the drains for months and months before i had even met him, and then they broke up. he and i already spent so much time together, that it seemed only natural for something more to develop between us, which did and then one night he kissed me. we had a good relationship but the trust was always an issue so we called it quits and i later found outh e was lying to me about a lot of things. He was an alcoholic, but has been sober for six months and really grown up and figured things out. We're closer than ever now and we've taken time to re-evaluate the situation and i do want to be with him, i just don't want ot make a stupid decision. should i try it again?
2007-08-01 09:47:16 · 15 answers · asked by kenz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes...but I'm not so sure you should try so soon after the recovering alcholic period only being 6 months.
2007-08-01 09:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're the only one who can make this decision because you're the one who's known him for so long...i know it's confusing and scary to get back into a relationship that already ended once but u have to make an assessment to the whole situation on one side the good things and on the other the bad things you're getting out from it..like for example there's a trust issue but at the same time u feel safe with him and familiar to him in many ways...
i hope you'll be happy in whatever decision u take..
2007-08-01 16:59:01 · answer #2 · answered by bsf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO. NO NO NO NO NO. Once a liar, always a liar. Once an alcoholic, always an alkie (even if he's not still drinking, he's a dry (for now) alkie. Be friends, but do not get involved w/him again. BIG MISTAKE. Consider yourself lucky that you found out what you did when you did before things could get more complicated. There are plenty of fish in the sea! Go fishin'!
2007-08-01 17:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by napqueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Speaking of experience, (ok I know im a guy) but anyway..my answer would be yes, everybody deserves another chance..
look you never know until you are in it.. it takes 2 to tango...
but yes if i were a girl and seen the guy has really changed..
well i would give it another shot, but on the contrary, take it slow at the first 2 or 3 months, and get to know him again in the way he has changed...but yes i would...
take care and good luck..
2007-08-01 17:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by David M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you honestly believe his previous behavior was due to the alcoholism, then give the relationship another try. If you think his previous behavior is just a part of him and will never change, then beware. Best wishes - hope things work out for the best for you.
2007-08-01 16:50:03 · answer #5 · answered by MJ MCK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would really reconsider giving it another chance. My husband I split up for him lying about many things so I had left and then we started working it out and now I can honestly say that I am so happy now. If you truly love him and want to be with him, then I would give your relationship another chance. If he starts doing the same things like lying, then I would probly leave and then you can sit and know that you did give it another chance and he really messed it up. I hope this helps, and good luck...
2007-08-01 16:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by Lovingwolves25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can know if he's right for you. The fact that he is a recovering alcoholic worries me, but everyone deserves a second chance. The lying also worries me, but you didn't say what kind of lies they were. Was it a "No, really, it's delicious" kind of lie or a "She and I are just friends" kind of lie? Let your heart be the fuel of your life, but let your brain steer.
2007-08-01 17:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
six months is not very long for him to have quit drinking! It's way to soon to tell if he is really got himself straight or not. I wouldn't trust him for a very long time, he lied in the past. Sorry, doesn't sound very good to me! Not that people can't change, they do, but he need way more time to prove himself!!
2007-08-01 16:52:25 · answer #8 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart! If you both feel like there is something still there then go for it maybe he just was not ready for the type of relationship that yall had.
2007-08-01 16:52:19 · answer #9 · answered by *~*love always*~* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with your heart, if you want to be with him, people can change maybe not being with you he figured out how much he loved you, can you forget the past, and look foward to the future if so , give him a chance
2007-08-01 16:51:04 · answer #10 · answered by be real 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋