I am having my friend DJ my wedding so I need to tell him the times to do all the traditional things. How is 30 minutes into a buffet dinner? Or does the cake come first????
2007-08-01 09:45:00 · 16 answers · asked by Goddess B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It depends on how you want to do it. There are two common formats. The first option is to be announced, "Welcome the new Mr. and Mrs. Blah Blah Blah!" and then have the first dance right away. OR you can be announced, have dinner (make sure you give everyone plenty of time to get their food so they can all see you!) and then ask the DJ to announce the first dance. I'd allow more than 30 minutes into the dinner, though. Like I said, you want to make sure everyone has been through the line and had a chance to at least get started on their dinner before you "interrupt." You'll also want a chance to get a bite yourself.
The cake-cutting comes later, after all the "official" dances and after everyone (or almost everyone) is finished eating.
2007-08-01 09:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by corinne1029 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dancing is optional. There are no real hard and fast rules to weddings anymore. Most brides are doing what they want to now, no matter what all this old traditions are. If you want to having dancing then have dancing, if you don't want to-then don't. A lot of brides and grooms don't want a long reception, an hour at the most, then you have the couples that want to party all night long. You are right though it depends upon where you have the reception and what time of the day you are having the wedding. If you have an evening wedding, you still don't have to have dancing. My daughter's reception site did not allow loud music, so there was no dancing. They gave up the idea of dancing because they wanted the reception there. You just do what you and your honey want to make this day the most perfect wedding day for you both. Don't listen to Aunt Sally, or Uncle Bob, do what you want. That way you can always look back and say my wedding day was "wonderful". God bless us all.................
2016-03-16 05:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often the caterer doesn't let people start until the bride and groom get there. So you could have your first dance before the buffet. If you are doing a sit down dinner, you would usually do it after. The dance opens the dance floor for others to come--it is really rude for anyone to dance prior to the "first" dance. Then after food and dancing--the cake and bouquet toss come later in the evening.
My husband and I waited about 30 min. We wanted to greet all our guests and take the time to say something to everyone first.
The DJ is just wondering about that stuff b/c he doesn't know what kind of dinner you are having, what your plans are. He doesn't need an exact second to second, but a rough estimate so that he can announce when you are doing each big event.
2007-08-01 09:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my brides I reccomend they segway right into the first dance after they make their entrance as man and wife. The DJ will say "now presenting mr and mrs. jones!" You come in all happy then get onto the dancefloor and he start playing your first dance song. After it's done do your welcome speech, annouce dinner and start the party.
If you try to do it partway through the reception people are going to miss it because they will either be eating, scattered into the bathrooms, smoking...whatever. Your entrance is a great time and you know the eyes are going to be on you already.
Cake is cut after you serve dinner. I'd give people at least an hour to eat before you cut the cake and start toasts and such.
2007-08-01 17:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you want to give everyone a chance to get to the buffet table and back to their table. Once everyone has done that, then have the DJ announce the first dance. DJ's are pretty receptive about this stuff.
Cake cutting usually comes later on.....after dinner has been cleared away and everyone has done a little dancing.
2007-08-01 09:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people do it in different orders, so ask the bride or her mother or MOH what order things will be and how long they expect it to take. if they're eating AND doing cake before the dance, it will probably be about 1 hour, but they may still want the DJ there for some background dinner music. then there will be the first dance, and the bride/father dance, and possibly a grrom/mom dance.
really, ask the bride or someone ion the wedding party who will now what order they want so that the DJ can plan accordingly.
2007-08-01 09:50:29 · answer #6 · answered by Erica S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it really depends on the couple. everyone does it differently. ive been to weddings where they announce the couple and they dance right away AND ive also been to weddings where they start the dancing after everyone has eaten and cut the cake!
so just remember its your day and all brides dont go by the same schedule! do whatever you feel like----a lot of brides want a wedding that all thier guests will remember SO whether its 30 min into the dinner or after the cake anything will be great! GOOD LUCK and CONGRATS!!!!!
2007-08-01 09:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by Jenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sample timeline:
Cocktails 5:30
Dinner 6:30, then you have the program. So the cake cutting would probably be about 8 or 8:15 - so first dance would be about 8:30 or so, using this as a sample guideline.
2007-08-01 11:31:17 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first dance is usually as soon as the couple is introduced and then they sit down for dinner. After dinner, which is usually an hour, comes dancing. The cake is the last official thing.
2007-08-01 09:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Socialize for 1/2 hour
Cake cutting, for the photographer, and so the caterer can finish slicing the cake for desert after dinner
Toasts
Dinner
1st dance
2007-08-01 10:08:31 · answer #10 · answered by Darlene mouse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋