My boyfriend (well ex) and I were together for only a few months. I ended up going through a bunch of baby momma drama and family issues with him and stuck it out and stayed by his side the whole time. I was more faithful to him than I have ever been to anyone. He told me he was in love with me and that I was the first girl that he's ever fallen in love with. I like him alot and cared deeply for him but I can't honestly say I was in love.
Yesterday I found out that he's cheating on me with someone he met on myspace! They have only been talking over the phone and myspace. Come to find out, I know the girl because she was cool with my ex boyfriend! He told her that he was single and that I was just a friend. He won't talk to me on the phone or in person. Only text. I didn't really wanna do it but I was forced to break up with him (through a text). Now I'm hurt. The only remorseful thing he said was that he wasn't happy. He didn't even reply to my breakup text. :( How do I get over this
2007-08-01 09:20:45 · 20 answers · asked by Beautiful1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Darrielle H,
Poor thing I'm sorry you are going through the heart ache but since you are not in love and you know he cheated, you cheated, he couldn't talk to you or meet you in person, has baby mama drama, family issues........Wait why are you upset again keep in mind shug you guys were together months not years. Keep it moving you deserve better jus think of this you could have really been in love and hurt 3 years from now when you found out be happy you found out now before too much energy, time, money etc was spent good luck this too shall pass
2007-08-01 09:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by Blaqchinah Violation Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take a time to get over it and it wont be easy. But you just have to realize that if he really loved you he would not have hurt you, and thats the bottom line. I got hurt really bad by a dude that claimed he loved me and he cheated on me and i have to see him everyday b/c we work together. So everytime he pass by and I just make myself not think about what he did and its cool now. And that's what you have to do DO NOT let yourself constantly feel hurt or angry by it. Everytime your ex or the situation comes to mind try your best to think about something else and it will get to the point where it doesnt even matter at all, but of course that takes time like i said before. So just stay up and know that he not worth your tears or time and you will find someone wayyyyyyyy better.
2007-08-01 16:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by Prty Blk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW it sounds like he is not worth your pain. It does not sound like this guy cares about your feelings at all. You need to use the love you have for yourself to get over this and move on! You need to look in the mirror and tell yourself you are too beautiful of a person to deserve anything less than the best. You need to go out and get involved in some hobbies. Join a book club, go skating, go to the beach, take some classes in the evening, learn a new craft, and write some poems. Watch a movie like "Jason’s lyric, sprung, love jones etc” I suggested those movies because they each go through difficult situations but the love brings them through. I know it’s just a movie but movies can help to remind you what love could possibly be like. Nothing is perfect but you have to believe you deserve to have a man who respects you, appreciates you and someone who will be faithful to you. All relationships have their ups and downs but you dont deserve someone who is constantly cheating and lying to you. You deserve better than that! It will take time to get over your pain but just remember “the sun shines after the rain” Stay strong and love yourself first! Don’t put any man over you.
2007-08-01 16:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by mizzmaya79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you're better off.
He's too immature to face you.
No worries, I'm sure he'll regret
it in the long run. Just remember,
you did what you had to do, you
were the loyal one. And you don't
need some jerk who finds chicks
to hit on on Myspace (which is really sad.).
You live, you love, and you learn.
Take it a day at a time. You'll be
suprised at how much strength you
have in you.
Best of luck to you.
2007-08-01 16:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by ace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that situation just get over it!! y even waste ur time and space to even think about him? he is a dog let it go . u should ve been out when the Baby momma drama kicked in !!!!! honey y even go there?? oh no he isnt happy now! not becuz u broke it off with him.its becuz he dont have a dummie on his team anymore .it is more fun to cheat on somebody then nobody for sum people
2007-08-01 16:28:46 · answer #5 · answered by sean a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get over this by realizing he couldn't be honest in the first place, as is difficult for many young people when they no longer want to be in a relationship it would seem...You consider it a part of life's experience, a painful one, and there may be others ahead. There is no joy without pain in this world dear...we are human and as long as we feel our emotions as we do - we will have both entwined within our lives.
Now you wouldn't truly WANT to be with a guy who didn't feel the same way about you as you did hiim, right? You WEREN'T admittedly in "love" with him as you say...could be its just a feeling of being wounded that is bothering you. Time, more activities that you can focus on and meeting another will erase if not bring this situation into life proportion, will ease your current stress. Allow yourself that and understand how perfectly natural it is in most human lives. As for his failure to communicate in the manner you thought more appropriate, young people haven't always the life experience to know how to say the right thing and deal with these situations and go about it rather blindly...just a part of growing up dear. He'll grow up in his time, as you will in yours - key operative lesson here: each of us grows in OUR OWN TIME, not that of another.
Best of luck...
Grace
2007-08-01 16:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the question that EVERYBODY wants answered. It's hard. We've all been there and sorry to say that it is true that TIME is the answer. It takes some time for you to realize that if he really wanted to be with you, he would be with you, not cheating on you.
I wish there was a magic pill you could take to make it go away, but you have to pay your dues like everyone else. :(
2007-08-01 16:26:01 · answer #7 · answered by ccartertn2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all...I just got dumped yesterday and look at me...already back to being sarcastic....Actually I would rather not work all day and answer questions to take my mind off of it....I want to just sleep a few days and then everything will be brighter...do the same it will work for you as well....I promise. Then I am going to jam to some loud *** empowering music...and focus on the things that make me happy...no new bf for me for a while... and same for you. Take time to discover who you are...then some one will come along.
2007-08-01 16:24:19 · answer #8 · answered by MY truth will set you free... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to lie to you, it's going to be hard to get over. Only time is going to heal the wounds he has inflicted on you. Just keep thinking to yourself that you can do better than him and trust me, you will. Talk to a close friend. Try to get your mind off him. Go shopping. But as I said it will take time. Each day you'll feel better.
2007-08-01 16:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by Leena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww hun.
im so sorry..
just remember that you have to go through pain to find happiness....life isnt always a walk in the park but it gets better.
i just got broken up with and it hurts...im in pain too.
2007-08-01 16:30:44 · answer #10 · answered by tinkerbell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋