I am going to be a bride's maid in a wedding and am brining my six week daughter. My husband and I are divorcing and he will be out of state the night of the wedding. The reception starts at 7 and ends at midnight. I want to stay for the whole reception. I am not hiring a baby sitter because all of my baby sitters will be at the wedding. I plan to put my daughter in her baby carrier in a quiet corner at bedtime. Is this a good thing to do or should I leave earlier?
2007-08-01 09:17:52 · 30 answers · asked by Jasmine 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My husband is also not aloud to see our baby, I have full custody.
2007-08-01 09:18:14 · update #1
I probally will leave early. But not at 9 o'clock. Probally at 10:30. Their are going to be kids at the wedding and their ages range from 7-12. But their is going to be a kid corner which is where I am putting my baby. Their is going to be a parent their who will entertain the kids and will tell the kids and my baby and it's curtianed off so the kids can't hear the loudness.
2007-08-01 09:28:01 · update #2
Your right about how she won't be happy the next day if we stay too late. I will probally leave 10:30 since that's when the dancing will die down and the people will start getting drunk.....
2007-08-01 09:31:35 · update #3
Both the bride and groom are fine with my baby sleeping. They understand because my friend (the bride) has a three month old that will be attending. I also just want my baby to be prepared for weddings in the futre, like if I get married again or if her father gets married again (she'll be aloud to see him then).
2007-08-01 09:33:57 · update #4
I would never leave my kid or any kid in a 110 degree weather in a car. That's just mean and rude and dangerous. FYI I carry my baby everywhere. And I'm not a little Miss Britney Spears. I hate her and am against her.
2007-08-01 09:35:58 · update #5
Okay two things:
1. Only five other kids will be at the wedding.
2. After the dinner portion of the evening I am putting my baby with the baby sitter. That will be for two hours. Not the whole night.
2007-08-01 09:38:14 · update #6
I brought my 7 week old to a wedding. Parked the stroller in the corner and had no problems. It was a 1pm-5pm reception though.
A month later I brought the same baby to a different wedding. No problems again.
A year later my daughter slept in a car seat through my wedding reception.
I think you are doing the right thing. A baby will sleep anywhere when they are tired enough.
2007-08-01 13:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by ee 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Since you deleted your first question, I can't remember exactly what my first answer was but it went something like this. First you said you planned on staying until midnight and was going to have someone else watch the baby so you could "do things on your own". Now you're saying you're only staying until 10:30pm (which is still too late in my opinion) and some poor woman will be watching a whole corner full of kids. I would much rather have one person watching my baby by themselves rather than a whole corner of kids because your baby is very, very, very young and needs the majority of the attention. That won't happen if this poor woman is watching a boatload of kids. I would just be a responsible mom, enjoy the wedding ceremony, stay for dinner and cake at the reception and make your way home for your baby's sake. Besides, the later you're out with your baby, the chances of being on the road with drunk drivers are a lot higher. Your life doesn't have to be over just because you have a child but your life does need to contain some sort of sensibility and responsibility when it concerns the welfare of your baby.
2007-08-01 16:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Is your baby a deep sleeper who sleeps through noise? My brother could, but I couldn't when we were that young. That would be important to know. Is it a loud adult party or a low key one where it won't be loud and people can help keep an eye on the baby?
Is it okay with the people hosting the wedding? They may feel odd having a sleeping baby at their party. Are you sure you're using all your resources? What about a co-worker you trust or a relative or someone from a church group or something? Surely the wedding hasn't used your entire friends resource list.
Check with the bride or groom and see if they're okay with it, then, if you must, take the baby until s/he can no longer be at the party without distrubing the guests.
2007-08-01 16:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by J-Cek 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most likely your daugther is going to sleep through the wedding. Just have some one keep an eye on her during the ceremony. Then for the reception she can stay by your side in her little carseat. But the best thing to do will be for you to hire a babysitter for the day so that you can enjoy the wedding. Since you really want your daughter there just go with the first option.
2007-08-01 16:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by needanswers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is fine to take the baby along, plus I am sure you will have tons of people asking to hold her. I am not really sure what you are planning on doing while the baby is in the quiet corner.... She probably shouldn't be left alone, especially with that many people around. If I were in the situation, I would see if one of the babysitters that will also be at the reception is planning on leaving earlier and let them take her home with them until you decide to leave. If none of them are planning on leaving early, I would suggest you leave early and let the baby get a good night sleep at home. You can always decide what to do at the reception, if you get tired and bored maybe you will want to leave early. Have fun!
2007-08-01 16:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's not the most awful plan, but she won't be a very happy baby that night or the next day. you should really see if someone could take her for the later part of the evening. if you have any other family or friends going to the wedding that will go home earlier, or that are having their own kids being babysat that night, see if your daughter can go home with them or stay what that same sitter while you're at the wedding.
2007-08-01 16:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by Erica S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally think as a responible parent, you should attend the wedding and reception with the baby. As for the ceremony, ask one of the sitters that are going to be there if she will watch your child durning the ceremony. Then at the reception, take pride that you have your child with you. When it is the childs bed time, take him home. You are really not going to miss anything and if the bride is a real friend she will completely understand.
2007-08-01 16:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by Va princess 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Look I suggest you just play it by ear. I have always taken my babies everywhere with me. I would just make sure you feed her and then pop her in her pram and rock her off to sleep. Hopefully she will have a good night and sleep thru. My babies would of just slept there.
Obviously if she is fussing or upset, you might have to leave early, but I see no reason to not at least try. There is always a powder room where you can sit in the quiet and feed her off to sleep. It might mean you miss a few things, but you will also find that people love a tiny baby and you will have many willing helpers wanting to hold her for you, while you have a dance and eat.
Go for it, just because you have a baby, doesnt mean your life has to end. Just stay calm, babies often fuss if they pick up their mom is stressed.
2007-08-01 16:34:30 · answer #8 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't find anyone else to help watch her, then you will probably end up leaving early. You can't stick her in the corner with the other children who are being watched all night! Maybe for an hour while she naps, but let's face it- you cannot PLAN on leaving her there all night!
I'm sure there will be plenty of moms, aunts and grandmas who will want to hold and cuddle your little one but don't count on that either! Plan as if you are the only one in charge of her care. If it so happens that you get to stay until midnight, then fine, but plan on other scenarios as well.
2007-08-01 16:34:58 · answer #9 · answered by Amy P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a fun reception is planned but this is where the responsible part of being a mom sucks. I love football season and having a good time but I cant do it now because I come home and take care of my daughter....sucks but thats life.
Leaving her in a carrier may sound like a good idea but what if your hubby finds out that you did that and it comes up in court? "I'm sorry your honor but I wanted to party with my friends" isnt gonna hold up and may jepordize your custody arrangement.
If you cant find a babysitter, even hiring a new one for the evening, your priority should be keeping her on her schedule and putting her to bed at home. I'm sure there's going to be drinking if its that late of a reception....would you want a drunk groomsman tripping on her carrier?
2007-08-01 16:28:37 · answer #10 · answered by GAjen 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋