generally if i am at home, my sister sits on the couch and lets her 19 month old baby wander around, upstairs, downstairs, everywhere. so i normally end up watching him, making sure nothing happens to him.
i have just lost a baby myself, so it's really hard for me to basically be looking after a baby full time that isnt my own. i love playing with him, but at the same time i cant discipline him or comfort him because it's not my place.
i have been really sick after the ectopic pregnancy. and i had to go to the hospital today. i told my sister i couldn't look after him today, i was in the bath and he fell down the stairs. she wants me to look after him full-time but then she can take him away at any time. and is getting too attached to me. like a 2nd mum or a dad. i find it hard to just leave him to get hurt. what should i do??
2007-08-01 09:11:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Be honest with your sister and let her know she was old enough to have a child so she's old enough to take of the child. It is her responsibility not yours. If the child was right there with you then that might be different. I understand your problem by being there. If it's your house then set some kind of rules down and if your sister doesn't like them then tough. If she works she could hire someone else to watch him when you cannot handle him. Fair is fair and she needs to grow up and take responsibility.
2007-08-01 09:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by insane one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, perhaps she needs to be told that if she doesn't start caring for her child, someone will have to call the authorities because of her neglect?
i dont' know what else to tell you, hon. the child is probably very adorable, and i know you love him... however, not your responsibility. your sister is taking advantage of your good nature.
i'm sorry about your physical troubles and that you've lost a baby. i hope you heal in time. sending hugs.
2007-08-01 09:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear your dilemma. The best thing to do is speak to your sister. She will understand that right now you cannot do it. If she doesn't then it may be just a problem of taking advantage of other's. Hope this helps :)
2007-08-01 09:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by Sprite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister to grow up and watch her own child. You take care of yourself. Eptopics are tough in more than just physical ways. If you can get some therapy. Trust me, you will need it.
2007-08-01 09:18:50 · answer #4 · answered by Kathy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know and understand how hard it is to just tell ur sister how you feel but i think for the baby's safety u should its not fair to you. its not fair for the baby aether i feel the truth is always the best way. she may be mad but set Ur boundary. tell her u love him but u can't let her use u as a babysitter 24/7
2007-08-01 09:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by tinker bell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt be living with her if you do. If you think she is unfit mother, please call child protective services. If that baby has concussion or other brain damage from falling it will be a nightmare. Can you talk with her or doesnt she listen? Isnt there a father involved? Gee this makes me so so sad
2007-08-01 10:11:10 · answer #6 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋