Does my case manager seem rude & judgmental?

Question

She yelled @ me because I didn't understand why my light bill was so high. & so I started crying because she was blaming me. & she said, "Why are you crying? Because you don't wanna pay your bill? Or do you owe somebody else money that you're not telling me about?" & she DEMANDED an answer. & then she told me I need to get a perm (relaxer) for my hair. I'm almost 24 & have a college degree. But this was my 1st apartment since Hurricane Katrina & I had a different type of thermostat from what I have now. I took my brother's advice about setting the T on 70 & turn it on & off & my CM called me irresponsible & told me I was supposed to have it on Automatic & 78. & now she wants to monitor every penny I spend & she wants to see how I budget my money.

I feel like a kid with no freedom. That means I can't even treat myself to something good if I wanted to because she'll use that against me & try to get someone to become my payee over my disablilty checks over 1 luxury I spent my $$ on.

Answer 1

Did your case manager stipulate how much you were to spend per month on stuff?

And for those of you lacking sympathy - these people lost EVERYTHING. ID, Clothes and family members - remember? Try loosing your home and having to move because you lost everything and recover fully in 2 years! Where is your heart, America?

I don't know much about this stuff, but surely this person has a supervisor you can take your case to; I'm tired of hearing about how people who have nothing are at fault for having nothing (those who don't believe in Darwin's theory of evolution have NO problem with his natural selection theory a.k.a survival of the fittest).

Seriously - go over her head if you feel as though you are being wronged. If you want this in your favor you are obviously going have to really fight for it.

Good luck girl and don't put up with this - you've been through enough - no thanks to Uncle Sam!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

What case manager are you talking about? I'm lost.

If you're living off the government, you're darn right you have no freedom. Make your own money and spend it any way you like.

(By the way, Katrina was aloms 2 years ago.)

Answer 4

She seems mean. Don't let her (or anyone else) bully you. Just give her the answers and reasons to her questions.
Tell her you are doing your best and don't let this idiot make you cry-Good Luck.

Answer 5

I'm not sure why you need a case manager. But if you feel abused report her.

Answer 6

Why do you have a casemanager if you are 24 yrs old?

Answer 7

Yes she does sound judgemental, it sounds like the light bill was a common mistake and she was not professional in helping you to understand what was wrong. Were you in her office to ask for more money for your bill or just for help in figuring out what was up with the high bill? Recently in my area the ececrtic company raised their rates so my mom and some other people I know called in to the company's customer service and got a decent explanation from them. For any problems with your bill it is usually for effeciant to talk to them first.
I dont think she should be giving you personal advice about your hair or anything else for that matter. You might want to think about bringing someone you trust to meetings with her, some people act better when theres witnesses about so it wont just be her word against her if some dispute comes up. Also it would probally help you to record or tale notes on your dealings with her, so for one you know what was said prommised and required of you. I would also find out somehow what her job description is, ie what she is legally required to do in your case. also what she is not responsible for as well.
You might want to try to get a different manager, perhaps you could try using personal differences or uncompatable styles in a complant to her boss. before you do though definately have things that go wrong on some kind of record. there are some people in my classes at college that use a tape recorder for their lectures, that you could use, I would say that I'm using it because I have a difficult time remembering things and it helps to go over stuff lateer at night.
I do not know if its approiate for her to talk with you about showing her your budget. It is a good idea to use one to see where your money's going and how much you have. for help with bdgets this site has some useful info http://financialplan.about.com/cs/budgeting/a/GuiltFreeBudget.htm you should be like a gereral directing where your troops (money) goes, and not like a overbearing boss micromanaging his employes to death. For example in my budget I have "needs" like Rent, Bills, Expenses, Food, Transportation, Books/Computer supplies and Other/ Miscaleanous Stuff. So I have my rent $75/wk-$300/mo. my phone, tv, computer for $120/mo. and my magazine subscriptions and journals all under "Bills", for eating out allowance, buying stuff at the local shops (clothing) is under "Expenses" at about $100/month, "Food" is for groceries but also can include stuff bought at the farmers market and snacks for lunch. My course books, paper, pens computer disks, is under "Books/Computer supplies" but might fit better under the label "College" it works for me. Other is stuff like parking fines, fees, random stuff that I need that dosent fit under other categories. I also have "wants" categories like jewelry, craft supplies, fast food/resturant allowances, games, music, exersise/yoga stuff, you get the idea. (I need sometimes to go to professional lunch/dinner meetings so the above eating out allowance is nessary for my job/ work relationships). I get the feeling your caseworker wants to look at your budget to see if your spending too much money on "Wants" categories and not enough on "Needs" like bills, rent and food stuff you really do need to spend money on first. With creative labeling you can still get things that are good for your spirit and soul as well as taking care of your phisical needs.
I myself have to be careful of puting electronic games and music into its own "want" category instead of with "computer stuff" because I know that I would overspend on things I dont reallly need. or I have to becareful of only taking as much money as I can spend to the craft store or else I will absent mindely over spend on beads or yarn that I've convinced myself that I must have right then.
So my advice is if you like eating out is to put all your food needs into the same category "groceries" or "food" and keep tract which are true needs like food for the house and which might be wants like fast food or icecream at a stand, i'm not saying dont get them just be careful of the balance within your category. The same goes for "clothing" or "electronics" or "paper supplies" or whatever else. If she is not asking for recipts, just for total numbers you should be fine.
If following your brothers advice is saving you money on your bill follow that and either tell her that, or lie and say your following her advise, she really cant find anything out unless you say something to her.
I do not think its approiate for her to moniter every penny you spend. That too sounds like she is treating you like a child. People need treats now and then, as long as your paying your bills and not buying anything illegal, or too immoral, its really none of her business. If she'll really use that agaisnt you then you definately need a new manager because that dosent sound like adult behavior much less professional conduct.
So to conclude my advise: make notes, take a trusted friend with you, dont let her know anything she dosent have a right to know, and take care of yourself first.