i really am in love with this girl and she tells me she loves me too...but she says that we can't be together because she is having a hard time with her personal life and having a boyfriend would just make it harder on her...
i told her that i decided to wait for her to be ready to get back together...and by wait i mean im single for her...and not trying to get with any other girls...
am i making the right decision?
2007-08-01 08:34:47 · 29 answers · asked by cartooncre8tr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its not like she has cut off contact with me completley...we still talk and see each other...
i still go over to her house to see her and her family but us being together puts too much stress on her...because she has so much stress going on right now...
alot of it is family problems and i can see where she is coming from...
her grandpa is not doing at all well...and the situation looks bleak with him...
i really want to be there for her...but her past has created her to be a very independent person...shes never had someone to count on and shes grown acustomed to that way of life...
i just want to know that she is still going to be there for me when shes done fixing herself...
2007-08-01 08:50:08 · update #1
You have to do what is in your heart bud....sounds like you have your head on straight and could abide by her and your decision. Ask yourself how long are you willing to wait and is she okay with that or does she really want to end the relationship? Don't stress too much about it...if it is meant to be, then you guys will get back together. I wish you lots of luck. Stay strong.
2007-08-01 08:38:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go out and have a good time and enjoy your life instead of waiting around for her to come back to you. There is always something behind that when a person tells their boyfriend/girlfriend they need a break from their spouse... You might want to make sure that is the FULL reason she is breaking up with you. I would much rather have someone who loves me and cares for me there with me while i was going through a hard time in my life. I don't think waiting for her is going to make you happy. Why would you do that when she may be out having the time of her life while you wait at home for her call. Get out and have some fun while you're single and if she comes back then get back together. But MAKE SURE that is what YOU and HER really want. When it does happen make sure you two have a long talk about it so YOU know it will work out the next time around. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-08-01 08:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, you're a sweet guy and you really do love her. I think you are making the right decision, but only as long as you feel it's right yourself. I mean if you feel good waiting for her and you don't mind being single and you know that there's a big possibility that you guys are going to be together and happy again, then I say do it. There's a 'but' however. If you're waiting for too long, or if suddenly you meet someone else to whom you will mean the world and who really cares about you, you shouldn't miss that chance. Feelings for this first girl will eventually fade with time if nothing happens. Don't let her make you miserable or hopeless. If she means it when she says that she loves you, believe her. But don't let her be the happiness of your life now that you're not together anymore.
So what I'm saying is, she sounds like a nice girl, who's going through a rough time and she doesn't want anymore pressure in her life right now. You love her and be the best friend you can be. Help her now. Help her with her problems. Be there for her. If she really loves you, she will want to be with you again, soon.
Hope this helped <3
2007-08-01 08:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
You need to do the same exact thing and live your own life as well. Dont vow to not get with any other girls... the love of your life may be waiting in the wings. Dont put your blinders up... take this time to do your thing, hang with friends, watch sports, be messy, do whatever you would do as a single guy, and if you still dont want to see anyone, then dont. But dont VOW not to, when your girlfriend decided she cant be with you.
There was a reason this happened. So dont hold on to something that wasnt meant to be right now. The minute you get control back of your life, everything will fall into place. Dont hang on to something that isnt there for you right now. If it was meant to be, it will be. But since you dont know when... set her free.
2007-08-01 08:38:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How hard can her life be to not be able to atleast send an email or make a 10-15 min call every other day or so, or see you for a half of a day now and then? If she wanted to be with you she would be with you.
I suggest you keep your doors open for new relationships, and give her space. If she changes her mind or wants to talk to you be there for her, but don't put any pressure on her to get back together.
2007-08-01 08:41:33 · answer #5 · answered by Todd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not. The "Its not you, its me" is the oldest line in the book. I hate to sound like a jerk, but what are you waiting for? If it was meant to be then it was meant to be. When things get "confusing" or whatnot, you turn to those you love, not break up with them.
You are wasting time. Move on now before she does and you wind up hurt. Yeah, this happened to me. I waited for a while and then my friend sees her on a date with some dude. she says, "we're broken up...why are you mad?" Whatever, I learned then and there, NO WAITING AROUND! I quickly forced myself to move on and once I really moved on, she was all upset and calling me. I will not lie, it felt good.
Now, over 7 years later, I am happily married and in a great position in life. My wife makes me happier then she ever did and there was never the foolish, stupid games.
Move on! Move ON!
2007-08-01 08:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by AntDU 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sir. Do you trust she will follow the same rules? Loving someone through the good and bad times makes a relationship that much more special. I would just be her friend and be open to other ladies.
2007-08-01 08:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by El Niño 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. And No. If she feels she has to "get it together" and you were to continue dating you would have no end of problems in your relationship. She may never "fix" her personal problems. You should not remain single for her. You might call her once in a while, but that's it. For God's sake, date other people. And fast.
2007-08-01 08:40:31 · answer #8 · answered by CarolSandyToes1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are, but do not expect her to come back, in case she does not. i have been through this a few times, and giving her the space and support she needs will make the relationship even stronger if you get back together. but do not pester her, and tell her to call you when she wants to talk to you. it's hard, but if you can hang with it, more times than not, the gold at the end of the rainbow is worth it!
2007-08-01 08:39:11 · answer #9 · answered by MAN ON A MISSION 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really a personal thing no one can know but you. If you truly love her and don't feel you're wasting your time . . . Just don't give her forever to get together or let her walk all over you in the name of finding herself. (Like becoming the town whore or something).
2007-08-01 08:38:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋