Girls, would you be offended if...?

Question

...a guy you just started seeing asked about you recent sexual history? I want to know because I hooked up with a girl I started seeing and she said she was on the pill. I didn't think of it at the time but she hasn't had a boyfriend for almost a year and I do really know too much about who she's been with. I didn't use a condom last time we hooked up, I'm going to next time, but I just want to know if she's been with some other guy recently or something like that. Would you be offended if a guy asked you something like this? Or what is a good way of finding out what the deal is with her sexual past?

Just trying to be safe here, thanks for the help.

Answer 1

Easy go to a health clinic and see if you caught anything. If your green then you cool. If ya ain't let her know. Otherwise don't worry about it.

Answer 2

God how stupid are you, "she said she was on the pill"
She could be pregnant for all you know because YOU refused to use a condom. Next time won't help you if she's knocked up or if you have some disease. Just because someone hasn't had a BF in a while doesn't mean she hasn't had sex. She hooked up with you didn't she?

No woman should have to pull teeth to get a guy to wrap it in this day and AIDS but apparently guys don't even care about their own health. Any woman that wouldn't insist you wear a condom is suspect. You should be less worried about offending her and more worried about your own health. If you were just trying to be safe you would have BEEN SAFE and wrapped it.

Get tested for everything www.plannedparenthood.org
I hope you can do THAT correctly

Answer 3

Definately would not be offended - To find out about her sexual past, create some quiet alone time to talk and then just be open and honest - the pill does not protect her from STD's and therefore her history is a very important topic that affects your health too

Answer 4

I think that if you weren't aware of her sexual history, you should've used a condom from the start... until you got to know her and maybe even get tested for STDs, bfore you have unprotected sex...
However, answering your question... It depends on how you ask about her past... if it sounds like you're trying to compare her history with your own, or you sound a bit jealous of her, and all those things. But also, be prepared for what you might hear... you may or may not like the answer... I probably wouldn't be offended though...

Answer 5

I don't think I personally would be offended because I have always been a responsible partner. If someone is willing enough to be intimate with you then they should respect you enough to let you know if there may be risks involved. The question you may want to ask he instead of how many, etc, is is there any reason I should be concerned with "our" sexual relationship regarding my own health issues. Any respectable person should have no problem making sure that a person they regard highly enough to be intimate with is comfortable with the situation on all plains!

Answer 6

Anyone who would be offended by questions such as:
when were you last tested
are you on b/c
do you use condoms
do you have various partners, etc

is an irresponsible person you don't want to be having sex with. You owe it to yourself to be responsible when you have sex.

However, her staying on b/c doesn't mean she's had sex since her last relationship ended. I've kept on my b/c since my last one ended over 3 yrs ago...yes, it's pregnancy protection if we do decide to have sex, but it's also convenient to stay on because it takes a while for it to 'activate' once we start (esp the pill) and it tends to regulate our periods (or in my case, stop them) and for many women that's reason enough to keep taking it.

Do take care of yourself, but don't jump to conclusions just because a woman is on b/c. Do ask her about any sexual issues that could jeapordize your health though.

Answer 7

I wouldnt be offended if a guy asked me about my sexual history but there is a certain way to ask. Dont just be like so how many people have ya ******? Ask her if she minds first that you ask her a question about her sexual history and if no then dont ever try and go there.. but if yea then just casually ask how many people was she with that she had relationships with or just how many people has she been with. Share your number so she doesnt feel like an idiot if ya want to.

Answer 8

I wouldn't be offended by that, especially because I'm going to ask that same question and try to weasel a few other answers out of you without you knowing it.

You can't be too careful these days, and I don't like sex with a condom, so I always try to find out what I can.

By the way , it's not like I sleep around, I have two steady partners that are exclusive at the moment.
(one male, one female)

Answer 9

It wouldnt be offending if you eased into the question. It would be more offending if you corner her and ask bluntly. I think you should always wear protection anyways, even if she's not with anyone else just to be safe. Another way to find out is to ask her friends and/or family if you know them. They are most likely going to tell the truth if they know...

Answer 10

If she's on the pill, it may be for health reasons. The pill is used for more than just contraceptive.

If you are unsure, ask her history in that area. If she wants the relationship to go anywhere, she will tell the truth. If she lies, or you think she is lying, ditch the *****.

Also go to the health clinic and get BOTH of you tested before you start any hanky panky. You don't want anything from her (or vice versa) that will mess up your relationships for the rest of your lives.

Answer 11

I wouldnt be offended. It effects you. You have a right to know. I think that anyone having sex is completely entitled to know about the other partners sexual past. Esp if they are in a relationship. If you plan on having a one night stand, dont bother asking, and just wrap it up.