The sex is amazing, but its always rough and crazy. That's great most of the time, but sometimes I just wanna slow down and really savor the moment. How can I let him know without hurting his ego??
2007-08-01 08:18:49 · 17 answers · asked by Girlofthenorthshore 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Exactly how you wrote it. That the sex is amazing but sometimes you are in the mood for something a little more sensual. You have to say something cause if you don't you are going to start getting tired of the sex and it wont be amazing anymore, just annoying, lol. A lot of young guys tend to have sex like that, rough and crazy and yea, at first it's AMAZING but after a while it becomes boring and basically you are just f***ing and not making love, which is want you are looking for. An intense love making session, that's intimacy. I had the same problem with my man. OMG! He was amazing that 'thug' sex (LOL that's what I call it) but like I said it became boring and I wanted something more intimate. I told him exactly how I felt and guess what?? He is even better when he slows it down! 6 years later we are still having amazing sex. Believe me, it will be much better for both of you if you just tell him how you feel.
2007-08-01 08:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by SexyMommy2B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. I solved it by initiation sex slowly and every time he wanted to hurry it up I would grab his butt and say softly no (with a dirty little smile on my face) it's my turn to show you what I like sometimes. Now we have incredible sex because we let each other know what we like and how we like it. It won't hurt his ego. If he wants to spice up the sex life he will listen. If he is only interested in his own wants he wont. Good Luck!
2007-08-01 08:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by kattylove89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. He can't know what you want if you don't tell him. If he really loves you, NOT knowing this will hurt him more than you telling him. Just sit down and discuss it when you are NOT in the middle of the act, and he'll be more thoughtful about it next time. If he isn't, then he's not a very good partner. Just make sure you do it in a positive manner, i.e. tell him what you want, not what he is doing wrong.
2007-08-01 08:22:30 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the leader.... if you start it that way... and just keep doing it softly... and more sensually and he will like it... and should be able to follow along... if he tries to get faster... say "no lets go slow.. savor every moment... every feeling" he will like it.... specially if you are treating him that way too....
2007-08-01 08:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by Lori S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him what you just told us. Tell him the ruff and rowdy is kool some times but there are times you would like to play more gently. add in he's great in bed to stroke his ego ... people like to have their egos stroked every now and then. Good luck!
2007-08-01 08:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by Done Cryin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You simply tell him...if you're close enough to be having sex, there shouldn't be anything you can't talk about.
Next time you start fooling around, tell him want it slow and sweet...more love making than phuquing.
2007-08-01 08:22:18 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with the others... you should tell him or be on top to start and just go slow. He'll figure out what you what.
2007-08-01 08:26:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take charge. You take the top and tell him not to move. Trust me, his ego won't even notice.
2007-08-01 08:22:22 · answer #8 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you want him to go slow and really want to enjoy him. He wont get mad and it'll boost his ego.
2007-08-01 08:22:21 · answer #9 · answered by Howie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not tell him anything, just lay him on his back and ride him as slow as you want to. when he tries to role you over, or go fast you just stop him, and tell him, slow baby, dam that is the way i wanted. nice and slow so i can feel every inch. bd
2007-08-01 08:22:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋