He is ignoring me?

Question

I split with my bf a couple of weeks ago after six months. He was still hurt about his ex gf who has got serious with another guy. We agreed to stay friends and have hanging out and talking most days. Then suddenly from last Friday he says he is working on a project and couldnt chat, then nothing.... I have text him and left a couple of ansaphone messages and he has completely blanked me. I hit a car today and now dont feel I can ring him to tell him. I havent even told him about this accident as I feel he is ignoring me. I feel really really upset as I thought he really card about me. Any advice would be appreciated. Should I wait for him to call.....

Answer 1

It looks like there is 3 people in this relationship. what gets me is if he has spent 6 month with you i would have thought he would have been over the ex by now and even so cos his been seeing you too so that would have helped. i would also have thought that after seeing you for 6 month his feelings what he would have would be for you cos of this length of time you have spent together. i can understand where his comin from but at the same point his acting rather selfish as their is 2 ppl in this relationship you and him and what about ur feelings, he cant just get upset and drop you, his selfish and has no respect. im not being funny when i say this but it sounds like he still has feelings for her cos why would it bother him so much and if it was you who he had more feelings for he would not be so ignorant. you should never have getting involved with him cos its faulse and ur 2nd best. when he broke up with her he should have had time to gather his own thoughts and feelings together and made the move on a new lady when his head was sorted because ur paying for it now. im suprised after 6 month i really am. ur his rebound to get over his ex. what you need to do is go round to his house, forget the phone calls, and tell him to be straight with you, he should be adult enough and tell you that maybe he cant see you for whatever reason and stick to that instead of saying oh were friends then ignoring you etc. but honestly why get involved with someone with problems, its not fair on the other person, he should have had single time first. make a point to him then leave it. please dont wait for this man, but i bet if you never seen him for a few month he would realise what he is missing and the real truth. he is mixed up, but his not being fair with you cos his messing you around, but then again what do you expect for getting involved with a rebound. go to his house, and be adult about it then walk away. if his no good at making a choice you make it for him by leaving him be cos as long as his still moaning over her ur gonna get messed around, so you do him a favour and leave him to be single, moan over her, and he will start a relationship off again when his ready.

Answer 2

Ask yourself this...would he be wondering about waiting for YOU to call? I can tell you, NO. As has been mentioned in other answers, if he's still hung up on his ex, then that means he still has feelings for her - you've said as much - 'she has got serious with another guy'. Why should he care if he hasn't got feelings for her?
You deserve someone who can devote all their attention to you and doesn't have emotional baggage with past relationships. He should have been more sensitive in terms of contact - it sounds like you're initiating it and he's just being there because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings anymore than he has done. You need to have a clean break from him. Completely. Then once you're over him you can think about being his friend - at the moment it's too complicated. You're probably hoping he's going to come back to you and by keeping up communication with him this will help speed up this process. Wrong. If you keep texting/calling him etc. this will drive him further away. Remember, as much as it hurts, he broke up with you for a reason.

Talk to someone who really cares about your accident ( I hope it wasn't a big one!) You have friends and family to support you, spend more time with them and start looking out for yourself more - don't wait in hanging off a phone. Eventually you'll find someone who will make you happy :-)

Answer 3

i think u still feel like hes ur boyfriend even though u guys have split up and that's b/coz u decided to stay "friends". this arrangement usually doesn't work if either one of u still has feelings for the other which u do in this case. i think the fact that u guys still chat regularly would make it impossible for either one of u to move on. he wants to move on and this could be the reason he is trying to break contact with u. this doesn necessarily mean that he doesn care about u, he probably just trying to get on with he own life. give him a break and u deserve a break urself. don't contact him anymore and try to talk to other friends when u feel like u need to chat about stuff. am sorry u hit a car today.

Answer 4

If he was 'still hurt' about his ex then that prob means that he still has feelings for her. He is being a rather inconsiderate friend if he hasnt been returning any calls or text. I think you should try and forget about him and go out and have some fun- who knows, you might meet another lovely man who'll whisk you off your feet!!!! Sounds as though your slightly dependent on him but Dont sit around and sulk or wait for him to call..... Carpe Diem girlfriend :)

Answer 5

Honestly you need to just let him be if he wants you he'll come to you . Give him his space. Dont text call letters nothing. And when he does call you dont sound sad. And when he askes you what you have been doing tell him everything the oppsite.Dont sit there and saying nothing thinking about you. Say going out with friends to the movies, mall , etc...... Be happy this is only one guy out of a trillon. Good luck

Answer 6

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Answer 7

It seems he doesn't want to know you, my advise is don't ring him or text him, let him contact you, if and when he does then tell him, i think you should give him some space, you cant have what you had before, situation has changed.. so be patient..

Answer 8

NOPE! If he doesn't have common courtesy to let you know out right, I don't think he is worth wasting any more of your time. Move on! Life is too short to wait on someone like that.

Answer 9

Two options: 1) do the right (hard) thing and wait for him to call. 2) Stalk him, ring him until he answers and don't give up. i'd go for number two.

Answer 10

You dumped this guy but now you are hurt that he isn't calling you back? Wow kind of all about you isn't it. If he has moved on (or is trying to) then give him some peace.