Would you, are you, or have you settled for someone when you know it won't last?

Answer 1

I did settle, not thinking about how long it might or might not last. That was over 10 yrs ago and it was a huge mistake. I married a guy I'd been dating for about 2 yrs. He was a decent guy but I married him more because I thought he might be my 'last chance' than because I was crazy about him.

We separated after 17 months and were divorced at 24 months. I couldn't handle the emotional vacuum I was living in (lack of affection). It was my mistake but it taught me (among other things) that I don't need to be in a relationship...and that settling is never the answer (for me).

I've been single for the bulk of my life since then and that's fine. My life will be as groovy as I make it whether I'm single or not. ☺

Answer 2

No, I would not settle for someone when I knew it wouldn't last. Not for money, not for sex, you should NEVER settle for anything other than true love! I've been in that situation where I was best friends with a man who I adored, but there was nothing there other than a deep love as a friend. He had money, he had looks, and he loved me for who I was, but that special something just wasn't there for me. Don't ever settle, God will bless you with the right one when you are ready...and you'll know when you are ready!

Answer 3

I have settled for someone even though it wouldn't last, and I ended up falling deeply in love with the guy and was humiliated because I was constantly worried when it was going to end. And never again will I put myself through that.

Answer 4

I think at some point everyone has the reason being...We think its better to be with someone than to be alone...I don't think it is wise to settle because sometimes you are with someone whom is abusive or that you really don't love or even care for and you tend to be more alone and miserable than if you were by yourselve, Also by settling you may be preventing yourself from being with or finding the one you are suppose to be with because you have waisted your time settling

Answer 5

The worst thing I've ever done is marry a woman because she wanted me to. I loved her. I was comfortable with the idea that we might spend the rest of our lives together. Yet in my heart of hearts, I knew it wouldn't last, that we would inevitably split. And we did.

In our society, we marry for love. Marriage is a declaration that you have found a partner so unbelievably perfect for you that live without her is unimaginable. Marriage as merely an act of kindness is monstrous.

Love and sex are serious business. It is vastly better to be alone for the right reasons than to be with someone for the wrong ones. Save yourself some serious self-loathing and do the right thing.

Answer 6

I have married a woman I know is not my true love. We've been married 6 yrs. I don't know that it won't last, but I do know that it will never be what it would if we truly loved each other.

Answer 7

yes, I am right now. I never feel any spark, I thought she wouldn't be the one. but I felt extremely comfortable. And now it is 5 years already, and turn out we have a lot more common than we thought. Time will tell.

Answer 8

no one knows if it is going to last but if you have a feeling it wont then i wouldnt try cause what if you start to like the person alot and then boom there it goes down the drain someone is alwayz left heart broken

♥ mthfcknprincess

Answer 9

No, why waste the time and effort with someone that you can't see a future with?

Answer 10

yes i have done that before. i feel the need to have someone love me even for that long. even if its going to suck.. if i know that it want work. i would still do it.