I have a co-worker that wants to introduce me to her daughter(whom in the picture looks very attractive), but I have heard she is very stubborn/difficult person.
I have been with a girlfriend whom I dated for 9 years(and left 2 months ago) and in reality, she never wanted a partner, but someone to control, and lacked any real intimacy as a human being.
How do I tell this co-worker that I have no desire to ever go there again? My belief is that when some already let's you know this is a difficult person right out of the gate, that's a huge red flag.
Should I just let her know I am seeing someone else?
2007-08-01 08:06:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. Never trust what you hear until you see for yourself.
2. If there was no intimacy and she wanted to control you, why did you let her do it for 9 whole years....some part of you liked it and you need to come to terms with that.
3. If you don't want to meet her, then just say you'd rather not date right now and not a co-workers relative.
4. Lying just makes you a bad person.
2007-08-01 08:10:45 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just a meeting, nothing else has to come of it, but tell your co-worker this ahead of time. Say hey, I'll meet her but I'm not sure I'm ready for another relationship. Just so that if things don't work out there won't be issues at work. Give the daughter a chance, feel the situation out. If it's not what you want bounce, maybe she is stubborn/difficult, but maybe she isn't...make your own decision about her first, try not to be biased.
2007-08-01 08:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by pcgiant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just assume that this woman will want to go gung-ho with you either. Take it slow, it's just a date. If you're not ready to date, you need to be honest about that and your co-worker will appreciate your honesty. Here's something to think about to, who was the one who told you she was difficult? Maybe that person will have a different opinion than you will once you get to know her. Don't judge a book by it's cover. I went through a similar situation, a rough divorce, then immediately was being set up by all my friends...it was fun, but I wasn't ready to settle down and I knew that so I kept all the dates strictly platonic. Take it slow, move on when you are ready! Trust me, it gets easier if you listen to and trust your own soul!
2007-08-01 08:13:15 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess being polite is the way to go.
you could meet her, its not like you guys would date or have a relationship after you meet, it will still depend on whether you want to proceed to the next level or not.
i say meet her, you have nothing to loose.
this way you don't strain your relatioship with the very nice co-worker who wants to see you happy. you also get a chance to meet someone and expand your circle, she may not be girlfriend material but she could be a friend.
2007-08-01 08:13:07 · answer #4 · answered by shiela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go on a date with her...what's the worst thing that could happen? you guys don't click and you go on about your business. but, she might suprise you and be what you are looking for. besides, she can at least help you take your mind off your ex. and if you really don't want to go on a date with her daughter, then simply tell her that you're not ready to date yet...that's all.
2007-08-01 08:11:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't lie. If somehow they found out that you weren't seeing someone else that would create a negative work enviroment. Just be honest. Say "You know what? I really appreciate you looking out for me but I'm not interested in a relationship yet"
2007-08-01 08:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you seeing someone else? If not, don't lie, you work with this person, it'll catch up with you. Just tell them you appreciate the offer but you think you will have to pass as you are still getting over your broken heart.
2007-08-01 08:10:27 · answer #7 · answered by tan0301 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just tell him that at this time you are just looking for a sex partner and not some one for a relationship and you will see how he will say thats not going to be my daughter
2007-08-01 08:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the fact of just meeting her doesn't mean that you have to go out with her....that is all up to you....no one can make you do something you don't want to do...just rememer that...
but who knows, she might end up being the opposite of what you herd....
and remeber take it slow
2007-08-01 08:13:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just play it by ear. That's my advice for ya man.
2007-08-01 08:10:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋