Ok, I'm just posting this to get some friendly advice from everyone so dont leave rude answers.
I knew this one guy that lives in Illinois since the end of May and he wants me to move to Illinois to live with him and start a family (this weekend). The problem is that i've got a 2 1/2 year old daughter and i dont want to move there and find out that hes a murderer or rapist and me ending up dead and my daughter ending up being a sex slave. I've told him that i wanna get my **** together, get a better job here etc., but he wont listen to me. My mom and sis both told me to express my feelings to him, which i have been doing but he wont listen. I think i'm just gonna stop talking to him all together if he doesnt wanna get it through his thick head. Any advice will help. Thanks!
2007-08-01 07:50:14 · 17 answers · asked by tommi_ghurl_2006 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to look after your daughters honey...Stop all kinds of communications with him and never ever pick up his calls for the rest of your life...take care and i hope you will make wise decisions...
2007-08-01 07:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your decision to stop dealing with him, because it is a smart choice.
Your concern should be about making a life for you and your daughter, and this guy has no business interfering with that.
The problem isn't him possibly being a murder/rapist, although it is good your watching out for that, but your life is where you live now. It's smart of your to try to get a better job and get your life together. This guy is just a distraction in general, and you really shouldn't be dealing with him.
Just disconnect him altogether. That's the best choice for you and your daughter.
2007-08-01 15:00:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You can't tell people what kind of answers to leave you. If you want a specific type of answer then only ask people you know that will give you that answer.
2. How stupid are you that you are seriously considering moving in with a stranger when you have a daughter to think about? You're not just putting yourself into jeopardy but ruining her life too.
3. If he's not listening to you now, what makes you think that may change later? It won't.
2007-08-01 14:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's way to soon to move in with him specially because you have a daughter, even if he was a good person don't rush into things, moving in with someone is a big step specially if its far away and you don't know the person too well. Do what you feel is right for you and your daughter and if he's already not listening to your needs and wants, well what does that tell you?...
Good Luck!
2007-08-01 14:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by #25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah if you don't know him well enough to not think he's a murderer or rapist you are definitely not ready to live with him. Be a man and be clear about what you want or be a p ussy woman and just stop talking to him. But since you are a woman, I guess you should go with the latter.
2007-08-01 14:54:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont you think if he cared about you he would let you do what you want, and give you time to make up you mind instead of trying to push you into something you arnt ready for, i really think you should keep that in mind when you are thinking about making this decision, and its not only your life you are changing but your daughters too. I think you have the right idea about backing off from this guy a little, seems a little fishy to me. but good luck in whatever you pick to do!
2007-08-01 14:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants you to start a family in a few days? it's like less than 3 months. I dated 5 years, recently I have a new job and moved to another state, my girlfriend is still thinking if she wants to come because of the job situation. Think about yourself first, it is a big mistake to follow some guy you don't know.
2007-08-01 14:54:19 · answer #7 · answered by Carborane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every person has to answer two questions in this order...
-where am I going?
-who's coming with me?
If you mix up the order of those two... you're in big trouble... you have to focus on your own life, what makes you happy, etc. If you follow someone around, you're not pursuing your own happiness. I would say unless you know you belong in Illinois then you need to focus on you and your family.
2007-08-01 14:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by AZ Foodie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh yeah u sld just dump him and stuff cuz if he wont listen,it is ur life u sld be able to do stuff wuth a CHOICE made by U not by him so yeah start ur life and have a awsum 1
peace<3
Caitlin
2007-08-01 21:57:52 · answer #9 · answered by music_luva_95 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u gave urself the perfect answer in ur question.....
"I think i'm just gonna stop talking to him all together if he doesnt wanna get it through his thick head."
2007-08-01 16:40:12 · answer #10 · answered by youngavarice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋