To still make your boyfriend happy...i mean is it realistic to think that you can have a good relationship w/o sex? i feel like i want a boyfriend but i dont want to lose my virginity...?
2007-08-01 07:42:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its called 3rd base
2007-08-01 07:44:32 · answer #1 · answered by Whiskey 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First you need to decide what is sex. How do you define it? That is important to know because we all define it differently. Are you going to include oral sex, anal sex, dry humping, phone sex and cyber sex? Plus, if you've already done everything under the sun except for vaginal sex then what's stopping you? Because if you have then I would have to ask 'is your virginity THAT important to you'.
To answer your question....well I think you already know the answer to that...what you're really asking about is giving oral sex. Given that your virginity is so important to you I assume you would say that there is more to your relationship than just sex. So if you really think that this relationship is going somewhere then do it (be honest with yourself)....but I have one question for you....'what is he doing for you'. I hope this relationship is not one-sided because if it she you should not be doing anything.
Also, how old are you? Are you over 18? If not you should reconsider doing anything until you are older. I'm not saying wait until marriage just wait until you're older..that's all.
If you are over 18...I just really want you to consider this: what is sex to you (be honest to yourself!!!!) then question really how important IS your virginity if you have already done many of the things I listed earlier.
We may be able to tell you what we did/would have done but only you can answer what is right for you.
2007-08-01 08:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by RMT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, a good guy won't force you into anything. find one of those, i know they aren't the easiest to find, but they are out there. but also don't feel like you need a boyfriend, you are strong and you don't have to be with someone. you can definitely have a good relationship without sex, i know many such couples, maybe because i go to a christian college where sex isn't always the first thing on peoples minds, but i know many others as well who feel that sex isnt' necessary for a healthy and happy relationship. trust in yourself, don't give in to just give in. be strong, and i know you'll find someone special where the issue of sex won't be an issue.
2007-08-01 07:49:51 · answer #3 · answered by shdw313 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a boyfriend is not about sex. If you think you will lose your boyfriend if you don't put out, then you have the wrong boyfriend for the wrong reason.
You don't date someone to get laid. You date to find out if you are compatible for marriage or to have fun. Most people rush into relationships and commitment to have sex, then they wonder why they're heart is broken every other month.
2007-08-01 07:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he respects you and your decision, then yes. But I would not give up something to him if it was improtant to you. You can not make your boyfriend happy, he needs to make himself happy. You can have a good relationship w/o sex, but for how long and at what cost. Only you can decide if he is deserving of the one thing that is important to you. But don't give in for fear of him leaving. Say by and move on. God Bless and Good Luck.
2007-08-01 07:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by 1TON 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i guess the question really is, How far are you willing to go without hitting a home run? If you are willing to do anything besides sex, go for it, just make sure that your boyfriend knows that you don't want to have sex.
2007-08-01 07:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not call it a relationship if there was no sex (unless you are under 18), at least not a full one. I, and most guys, are interested in a full relationship. I would stop watching baseball if in the 8th inning all the players went home with no clear winner.
If you want to be with a man and not to have sex, make it clear.
2007-08-01 07:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is hard but if your boyfriend is willing to accept that you want to have a relationship without sex than that's Great but if he don't...then I adv for you to find someone that will.
2007-08-01 07:51:18 · answer #8 · answered by BlkWidow 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if you are doing this for religious reasons, then all forms of sex are sex, and you will not be a virgin in gods eyes...but if your just wanting to stay a virgin vaginally, then i would just have oral sex until i was ready
2007-08-01 07:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the both of u. but umm...if u dont wanna lose it then u need to explain that to him n if he's cool then find other means to compensate for it. but it depends if he wants to stick around or not. ive done it b4
2007-08-01 08:14:36 · answer #10 · answered by youngavarice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Two days after I met my last bf we had sex
2007-08-01 07:51:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋