recently some of my family went to europe. we all went over to their house to look at photos and discuss their trip. it turns out my aunt and uncle bought presents for my two of my three younger cousins. the two boys recieved wonderful presents. the girl however didnt recieve one. my aunt and uncle never apologized they just said they "didnt have enough money for presents for everyone" but they could have easily not spent los of money on two outlandish presnts for the boys and have gotten each child a small gift. the little girl didnt seem upset, she smiled and watched her cousins recieve their presents but she did look a little hurt to be left out. i felt horrible for her and wondered why she had been left out? has anything like this happend to your family?
2007-08-01 07:26:22 · 12 answers · asked by MissSamanthaAnne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Awww.
Nothing like this has happened in my family [that I know of], but that's a bit mean.
Poor child.
:(
2007-08-01 07:31:37 · answer #1 · answered by UH HUH HER 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not mention if the boys and girl were siblings. But that's another matter.
First, a gift is just that. A gift. You should not question why someone gifts someone and not another. It's their choice. If your aunt and uncle choose to give presents to the two boys, that's their prerogative and you should not call them upon it.
I think it was wrong of them to give the gifts in front of the other child though. That was too tacky.
There may also be a reason why they forgot the small girl. They have forgetten to get her one or they are just not close to her. Whatever it is, that's their problem. Never yours. Never will be.
I think children should be taught that there would be times, they would not get what they want. This is a perfect example and I think she handled it well. She is mature for her age and kudos to her parents.
We, as an individual, should not think we are always entitled to things.
2007-08-01 14:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had 2 cousins a sister and brother and then me. We were the only 3 grandchildren on that side of the family. I was always left out. They got grand birthday presents, I never got a card. The girl and I are only 1 month a part in age so we did get the same thing for Christmas, but I always got what SHE wanted, which was never anything I wanted and then I always found out later that they got something else snuck to them. They were always hugged and loved and then there was me. The grandparents went to every party for them every school function, everthing, never attended anything I did. I didn't understand why when I was little... I don't understand why now... but I don't care anymore. I stopped caring at about age 13..... that's when they knew I didn't care anymore. I don't know. It effects her, even if she thinks it doesn't.
2007-08-01 14:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by tan0301 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Nothing like that has ever happened. I always make sure that everyone gets a gift when a Christmas comes or I go on a trip. I would take your cousin out for a girls day out and go shopping with her. Buy her one thing nice.
2007-08-01 14:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was little my grandmother believed that only boys got presents. And she would give y brothers presents and my sisters and I would just have to watch. This happened only one time before my mother put a stop to it. So instead my gma just quit getting presents at all. She still believes girls are not supposed to get presents!
2007-08-01 14:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by Flower Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i have seen it , I was a child like that, and I vowed to my self that I would not do that to any child. And through out the years I have formed many bonds with youngster that for no fault of their own have been left out , not thought worthy. Many have grown in to fine, caring ,compassionate adults. And having them in my life has been some of the bright spots , one needs to live in this world.
2007-08-01 14:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's terrible! Unless it's a birthday, bar mitzvah or something like that, you get all of the children gifts or you don't get anyone gifts. They could have brought her something, even if it was just candy. To leave her out like that is in unbelievably poor taste!
2007-08-01 14:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by suz665 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
playing favoriate always happen. My brother is better than me in everyway. So what, he can have his better relationship with the uncle and leave me out. Cause i know my uncle is an axxhole. Family problem when growing up. anyway, just forget them and share your happy moment with the one you care
2007-08-01 14:31:06 · answer #8 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats Sad....But I know a family who celebrated both of their sons birthdays but not their daughters and I could tell she was hurt...I guess some ppl dont think about that....
2007-08-01 14:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a clear sign of hideously poor manners on the part of your aunt and uncle. very bad manners.
2007-08-01 14:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by martinmagini 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋