I was wondering if that is the norm..... my mom expressed that she felt a little insulted that I'm a bridesmaid at my best friends wedding and that she and my dad weren't invited. Is that even a normal thing???? I didn't even think about it until my mom brought it up. I didn't know if that was proper etiquette or not.
2007-08-01 06:51:28 · 30 answers · asked by Katia 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
my best friend knows my mom and dad... I wouldn't say they're super close or anything. She's been my best friend for 8 years.... so ya they've talked here and there..... I share a friggin tattoo with this girl attesting to our friendship.... that's how close we........ use to be. (long story)........ but we are still best friends.......
2007-08-01 07:05:27 · update #1
Well.. it is kinda rude, if its your best friend then she should have invited your parents as well.. but hey its her wedding and she can invite whomever she wants...but no thats not normal.. i wouldnt say anything about it personally, i would let it go but.. you can mention it to your friend if you want, do it nicely.. like o would you mind if my parents came? and just go from there
2007-08-01 06:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by jhesikah 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it's fine to invite the bridesmaids parents if the parents know the bride or groom. If she is a friend from college they don't know, the answer is no. The only other reason I would say no is if the wedding is small and they are on a tight budget. In that case, if I were your Mom, I would buy a gift and send it with you to the wedding to wish them well. No hurt feelings but just a nice gesture.
2007-08-01 06:55:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if the bride knows them very well. Or if she invited the parents of all the other bridesmaids. Otherwise I don't think that is normal. Weddings can get out of control very quickly and people need to be cut from the list. Unfortunately parents of friends are the first to go.
2007-08-01 09:44:22 · answer #3 · answered by JM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this like an adult best friend that your parents have met only a couple of times if at all or someone whom you have known since childhood and used to hang out at your house, etc?
For the former, I would say it is completely normal for only you to be invited. If it is the latter, I could see how your parents would be hurt to not be invited if they know her well. Weddings are expensive though and the couple may not be able to afford inviting more than the requisite friends and family.
2007-08-01 07:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by Brian A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a bridesmaid because you have been a long time friend of the bride and she has been at your house often and a good part of your life then it would be appropriate to invite your parents as they are probably feel pretty close to this friend also. If it is a co-worker or a friend you found later (like after childhood, high school time) and your parents would not be as close to her then I would say it wouldn't be appropriate. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-08-01 06:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The parents of the attendants are not usually invited unless the bride or groom or their parents knows them very well. Maybe your mom feels insulted because she thought the bride considered them to be friends since she has met them several times and you are a good friend.
2007-08-01 08:23:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your friend is exceptionally close to your parents, no, it's not customary for the bride & groom to invite the parents of the attendants. When we got married, some of the parents of our attendants were invited (like my best friend of 20 years, friends of the groomsmen that my husband has known his whole life, etc.), and some were not.
To that end, it may simply be a guest list issue - she may like your parents, but simply not have a big enough budget to accommodate everyone.
2007-08-01 07:47:01 · answer #7 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES IT IS POLITE TO INVITE THE PARENTS OF THE WEDDING PARTY...HOWEVER...
If your friends never met your parents I can see why they have not invited them.
If the bride and groom are having a small wedding then let them know this.
Tell your mom that she shouldnt take it so peronal maybe the bride assumed you would invite them or pass them an invite.
2007-08-01 07:03:43 · answer #8 · answered by MS.veronica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never been to a wedding where the parents of the bridal party were invited unless they had a close relationship with either the bride or groom or the parents of the bride or groom.
2007-08-01 06:56:25 · answer #9 · answered by WilmaF 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
well it's not a rule that the bridesmaids parents need to be invited. It would all depend on if she is having a big wedding or a small wedding really.
2007-08-01 07:28:34 · answer #10 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt think it is customary to invite your parents just because you are a bride's maid.
If your parents were good friends with the bride or her parents then I would maybe but that is a different issue.
They should not feel insulted.
Good Luck.
2007-08-01 06:56:16 · answer #11 · answered by Dimitar A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋