I open the door for people whenever I see them carrying something heavy, see older or handicapped people, or when no one else is opening the door. Though I have opened doors for guys on occasion...
2007-08-01 06:21:40 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No way, it's fine...I do it all the time...it's just a nice thing to do...I do it for my boyfriend sometimes...whoever gets to the door first should open it up for the other person...
There's no rules about it though...
2007-08-01 06:26:06 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eyes 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Sure, I'll offer a dissenting opinion.
A large part of the answer depends on the other person. The politeness of an action can not be decided in isolation but rather only in the context of how it makes the other person feel. While most younger people (who care about such things) would feel that getting the door for another person is polite regardless of the genders of the people involved, there is still a considerable segment of the population that were raised otherwise. Older men may take your intended politeness, an action THEY were raised to always do for the lady, as an indication that you think they are no longer capable of performing the action -- indeed, no longer capable of being the gentleman. Is such a case, your action would have exactly the opposite effect of what you intended.
You might think that these people should just "get with the times". But I have no doubt that it will be harder for these people to change their idea of what is right than for you.
So while I agree that _most of the time_ it's fine for a girl to open the door for people, you will come across certain cases where it would indeed be rude and/or weird.
Here's a good strategy especially for people that might have been raised "the old way": Start out by opening the door for the other person but then let them decide who goes through first. If they walk through first, great. If they reach behind you to hold the door so you can through first, then you should do exactly that.
2007-08-01 14:15:01 · answer #2 · answered by ryanker1 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's neither rude nor weird for someone, out of consideration and kindness, to open a door for someone else. It's doesn't matter the gender or the age of the door opener or the person walking through the door.
I hope those who you've opened the door for have had the good manners to acknowledge your kindness!
2007-08-01 13:31:29 · answer #3 · answered by TC 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its neither rude nor weird for people to show courtesy. There was a time when a code was established and followed regarding this sort of thing. This code died about the mid 80's. Some of the highlights are as follows.
Men never wore hats indooors and if they did chances are they would be told to remove it under threat. Even by perfect strangers.
Men removed hats outdoors when greeting a lady
Men never wore tank tops to resteraunts
Men wore collared shirts when going to resteraunts or gatherings
Men held doors open for ladies and I recall seeing ladies wait for a man to open the door for her
Men always carried hankerchiefs, not for blowing their noses, but for the purposes of offer them to ladies or wipeing away messes they may have created. When learning how to dance I was obligated to put the hankerchief on my hand before placeing it on any bare portion of a lady.
Men could speak of romance with out dropping the F bomb
Men never ever discussed relationships with a lady no matter how innocient
Liquor was never carried to the dinner table. Beer or wine could be served but martini's and such never
Men opened and shut car doors for ladys both getting in and out
Men defended a womans honor
Men never went to a resteraunt after a sporting event unless they showed and dress in regular attire.
People maintained a quiet voice in resteraunts and those that did not were asked to leave
Children were to be seen and not heard in resteraunts, not everyone had to share in the agony and misery of anothers children. Takeing an infant out to the movies and resteraunts was thought of as abusive.
When guests and visitors came to the house the television was turned off so that conversations could be uninterupted
We never ate in the living room
Men always extended a greeting to whomever the met, even perfect strangers. Women were not required to extend greatings or return greatings to men.
Holding a fork properly was the mark of a civilized man or women.
The crack of ones bottom was not exposed ever
People stood in perfect silience at attention with hats off when the national anthem was played. Even the atheletes
Automobiles pulled over for a funeral procession, all lanes of traffic
Slower traffic traveled in the left lane and cuteously allowed the faster automobiles past
Business was never conducted over the telephone, only the coordination of meetings to decied. When a receptionist or other persons behind counters received a telephone call while talking to you, they said excuse me answered, told the caller they were busy with a customer and that they would call them back. People understood this.
These are a few of the things I still do as my father did and my fathers father did. I carry on the memory of them when I do them. It is my heritage and my culture.
So much of our civilization has been denegrated, please never feel weird or wrong being curteous to one another. I hope one day to see my grand children showing courtesy and receiving it in kind.
2007-08-01 14:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Rude? Definitely not.
Opening doors may make boys feel weird, but in this day and age, boys don't open doors for girls anyway!
Relax, you're being thoughtful and doing society a service :)
2007-08-01 13:30:24 · answer #5 · answered by tamatha_2002 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do it all the time. I really don't care who I'm opening the door for. You're being a kind person, (never rude)!
2007-08-01 13:59:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol no, it's polite to help someone who needs it and at least in my view if you see someone behind you when you're walking through a door it's always nice to hold it open for them regardless of your gender.
The only time I can think it'd be wierd if it was on a date and the guy was "old school" and wanted to open the doors, but then again that's his problem.
2007-08-01 13:26:45 · answer #7 · answered by aeseeke 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's neither rude nor weird. It's very kind. Keep being that type of person (helpful and kind) and you will have a blessed life. I believe in karma. That's great karma, and don't let anyone tell you different! You're a good girl. I'm proud of you, and I hope your parents are too. :)
2007-08-01 13:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by LadyLynn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats fine. no biggy. only opening the car door for a guy is werid, but only for a date. if your gonna open the door for a friend or your dad, its cool.
2007-08-01 13:25:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I think it shows good manners and very good ettiquette.
Dont let todays society of ill mannered and slobs make u feel wierd...carry on we are few of a kind.
2007-08-01 13:30:25 · answer #10 · answered by tiny small 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋