I am getting married next year for the second time. My question is, I have 3 dads. (my father, my ex-step dad, and my step-dad now) They all mean so much to me, as they were each there for me. My real father walked me down the isle the first time. And I want him to do it again, but I also want to include the rest of them. How should I do this? Would it be ok, for all of them to walk me down the isle some how?
I really need help, I felt so bad leaving them out last time and don't want to do it again.
2007-08-01 05:49:07 · 27 answers · asked by blebert2002 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
First off, no of ya'll know me or my mother. I got married when I was young and because I got pregnant, and I felt like it was the thing to do. And after being together for 3 and a half years trying to make it work, we called it quits. As for my mother, she has been wuth her husband for 18 years.
2007-08-01 06:02:02 · update #1
How about you walk alone and they wait for you at the front to give you away?
2007-08-01 06:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could always do the father daughter dance at the reception with one of the step dads or both. Your mom has to have an opionion in this and she knows all the guys ask her what she thinks. Is your dad a good day or a dad that is around mainly on holidays? Who took care of you more when you were growing up? That should be the person to walk you down the isle, the one that was mainly there for you.
2007-08-01 06:50:31 · answer #2 · answered by j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother is standing up with me on my side, but he agreed on two conditions: no bouquet, and no "walking with a dude". LOL! I can certainly accommodate those requests. We are sending the maid of honor and best man down together, then a bridesmaid and groomsman pair, and then the last groomsman by himself, then my brother by himself. Honestly, few people will even notice or remember. I know, as the bride planning every detail, it seems really noticeable, but guests really don't notice what we notice. :) If you have him go it alone and it still worries you what to do, are there any "jobs" that need to be done? Anyone escorted to a seat? An aisle runner laid out? Those kinds of things? That will make it look more deliberate that he is alone.
2016-05-20 00:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no set of rules to follow here..And I personally feel that what you want and how you want it is truly beautiful. As long as the Mom and step moms and the dad's too have no animosity towards your wish or to each other than I see nothing wrong with you having three wonderful and special men in your life walking you down the aisle. I have seen this done in my family with dads and with best men and vice a versa. It was beautiful. Good luck to you and Congratulations!
2007-08-01 06:03:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a real sweetheart, and I think it's a wonderful idea to have all three of them walk you down the aisle ... put your 'biological dad' on your arm, have your 'current step-dad' walk in front, and the 'ex-step-dad' walk behind. When the officiant asks 'Who gives this woman ...?' have them each answer 'I do,' either 'in the order they walked in' or all at the same time. And I hope you have a WONDERFUL WEDDING, because you are obviously a very caring young woman.
2007-08-01 05:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by Kris L 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, since the aisle is only so wide and you might not want to look like you have an entourage or have them trailing you awkwardly. Your father could walk you down and the 2 step -dads could be in the front row and move forward as you reach your groom. Then when the pastor asks who gives this bride they all reply 'we do'.
2007-08-01 05:56:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I say have your bilogical father on your arm and everyone already gave you great ideas for your step-dads (holding the train being in front or behind you or taking turns up the isle)...just choose one of those options and then have them say 'We do' at the all important moment.
If I were at your wedding I'd probably shed a tear at how beautiful it is that you love them all and get along that great esp. since nowadays most ppl in your situation would probably have all kinds of problems with family members like this.
Best Wishes
2007-08-01 09:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by Sassafrass 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have your father walk you down the aisle and have both step dads walk behind. When the minister asks who gives this woman have them each answer I do or in unison "we do". Are you wearing a veil? You could always have your dad walk you down the aisle, one step dad lift your veil and the other step dad walk you the few extra steps to your groom and present you to him.
2007-08-01 08:41:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have one on each side and the other carrying your train. OR You can have your current step-dad walk the isle with your mother right in front of you and have the other two dads on your sides.
2007-08-01 05:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you having a long train? If so, have your real dad walk you down the aisle and have your other two dads carry your train. That might mean the world to them!
2007-08-01 05:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by theewokprincess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can always have them all walk you down. If they mean so much to you, there is no shame in having all three of them be a part of the walk down the aisle.
2007-08-01 05:52:37 · answer #11 · answered by dr. phillian here.. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋