I'm 15, and since I can remember the relationship of my mom and her mom is extremely ice. My mom has a strong resentment of her mom. We have a close relationship and last week mom finally told me what happened. When she was 14 she made mistakes, things I know many teens do. Her mom was kinda harsh, though she sincerely apologized and promised she wouldn't repeat thos e mistakes. She told mom she had broken her trust and this devasted mom, that loved my grandma. Mom said for months she did her best to get her mom trust back, but she was forgiven. She got depressed but got over and when she got her mom trust back their relationship was destroyed. I understand mom, my grandma was really cruel and mom asked me "Imagine if I did that to you?/" I've made mistakes but nothing that damaged our relationship, but I think I'd get devastated too. Anyway, I like my grandma, for more than 20 years she's been suffering w/ this, I guess she regrets what she did . Is there anyrthing I can do?
2007-08-01 05:46:37 · 4 answers · asked by Edson 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your mother has carried a grudge for far too long. If grandma regrets how she handle it though she needs to tell your mother this. Encourage your grandma to tell mom this and then encourage your mother to forgive and if she wont tell her it scares you that she is so unforgiving and that what would happen if you did something so bad she didnt forgive you?
2007-08-01 05:55:23 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit them both down and tell them that.....hey.......she was a kid and she made mistakes....you were young too....you've have made mistakes too im sure...this is ridiculous...your family and you shouldnt have this hanging over you for the rest of your life...one of you could die tomorrow and the other will be thinking how sorry they were and how they just wished that they could have put the situation behind them...you guys are missing out on each others lives...im a kid and i dont need to deal with your guy's problems...i shouldnt have to worry about my mom and her mom getting along...i should be worried about pimples and boys....but i cant because im constantly trying to figure out a way to bring you to back together...i would love to hang out with both of you in the same room but i cant because you wont even look at each other...im not talking to either of you until you get this setteld...and then you walk away crying...if they have a bigg heart then they would care of your feelings and put all of this behind them...Good Luck.... :)
2007-08-01 12:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Chanelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with sitting them both down, BUT NOT AT THE SAME TIME. At elast not a first, talk to your grandma, she may have a totally different take on it.
Then try to bring them toegether, and let it go from tehre.
2007-08-01 13:01:18 · answer #3 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing to worry about it, world is big but our life living period is very short, so sharing the love between one to another, so you tell frankly before that both peoples.understanding is very important one,
2007-08-01 13:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋