I've fancied this woman for 2 years, and we have been best mates since we met, however since i've known her she has had a bf. When we were talking to each other we both said we liked each other, but were to shy to ask each other out. About a year ago i moved 200miles away and while i've been away she asks how i am, and if need of anything would do anything for me, even said she would drive 200miles 2 bring me back 2 c mates. I saw her for 1st time in 12 months last weekend and she was so happy, her bf went away and she's not happy wiv him. While he was away we went to cinema, nightclubbin and i met her parents and went to her house on three seperate occasions, she keeps holdin my hand, wantin me to hold her, confides in me, says she wants 2 dump her bf but can't cos she loves him. Then on saturday says she fancies me still but wouldn't cheat on her bf,, she smiles all time when i'm around and complements me, she always says she love me and misses me, should i make a move.
2007-08-01 05:41:18 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
rachel said "obviously he liked you" not "obviously he liked you more"
2007-08-01 05:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by answer queen 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hi,
I think the amswer is in your question: "she wants 2 dump her bf but can't cos she loves him."
She sounds confused, but I think if you've known this girl for 2 years and nothing has happened between you yet, there is probably no chance of anything happening now. Girls tend to be friends with boys. She sounds as though she's treating you like a friend, offering to drive 200 miles to run errands for you, confiding in you etc. She says she misses you, but as a friend misses a friend. Imagine what an awful relationship iot'd be if you were dating via a 200 mile gap. Paranoia would eventually break out on your part, especially if she two timed her current BF with you. You'd have so much heart ache, missing her, being lonely....
She may have low self esteme at the moment and is enjoying all the attention you're giving her.
She loves her boyfriend and she'd never cheat on him...she has blankly told you that. I'd take that as a sign. I have make friends that I flirt with and they flirt back. It'd ruin our friendship though if either one of us made a move, we feel we can flirt safely as we are only friends.
Sorry, probably not the advice you'd like to hear. I wish i could say "go for it" but I feel you'd loose her as a friend if you did.
2007-08-01 06:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tricky one, you went away a year ago, so i would be thinking, if she seriously wanted to be with you as a couple, then, your going away, would have made her realize it was you she really wanted to be with in a relationship, you have to be careful that she doesnt just see you as a real friend and its nice having a guy friend, whom you can trust with every aspect off your life, i think if she was sure of her feelings for you, she would just dump her bf, and get with you, are you sure you are not just reading too much into this hun? all the things she does with you like going out having fun, even holding your hand etc, it doesnt mean she wants to be with you , sorry if this sounds harsh hun, it may just all be a little harmless flirting to her, ego boost and all that for her, i think you should just find yourself a nice girl, and move on, good luck hun.
2007-08-01 05:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by wise lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, i know that you seems to be confused about this subject, and u'll never keep askin ur self if she loves u more than her bf. but believe me if she really loves you she would do that move not u coz u have nothing to do with it. so ask her if she wants u or her bf. and take an action. gd luck :)
2007-08-01 05:52:57 · answer #4 · answered by nona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out what the deal is with her boyfriend - you say she loves him but wants to dump him? why? - she needs to level with you about whats going on there, then you need to come clean and tell her how you feel if you want the relationship to move forward.
2007-08-01 06:41:03 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleybumple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does her boyfriend know about you? Did he know you guys went out? If not, then she already cheated on him in a way. Sounds like she wants her cake and eat it too. I'd just let her know that this teeter tooter crap is too hard emotionally to deal with. You got a life to live here. Don't waste your time like this. Go on to greener pastures.
2007-08-01 05:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by Brad M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is sending lots of mixed signals
if she fancied you, she would get rid of the bf! she plainly said she loves him... you could tell her how you feel, and ask her to get rid of the bf, but if she wont do that, you should move on, because she wont give him up for you...
2007-08-01 09:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is of that type who would take the first step. She wants you to force her into dumping her bf....i mean she doesnt want to do it herself...but if you make a move then she will follow. She wants you to take control, seize the opportunity....if you like her go for it man !!! she is waiting for you.
2007-08-01 05:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by Kunal B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
in the real world no if your a real gentleman. you know about her bf so would be wrong, but its also wrong of her to be doing that to u as well. id tell her to stop.
2007-08-01 05:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋