Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 5 months now. We have never had a fight, and or personalities just seem to mesh real well. I think he is "the one". But since we haven't fought or anything yet, do you think this is too good to be true? and do you think it will all fall apart later in our relationship?
2007-08-01 05:40:01 · 32 answers · asked by Renee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you never know someone until you fight with them....i bet this guy kisses your *** like no other????
2007-08-01 05:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by MCK_23_L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, I have had both. Had relationships where we fought all the time about anything and eventually broke up. Had others where it seemed perfect all the time, never argued but then we just drifted apart. So it's hard to say but if you both really "mesh" well and are both happy and give each other what the other person needs then I think you will be fine. I think my problem was we just got bored of each other. Another thing is that 5 months isn't really enough time to tell....I haven't been in a relationship that was less than a year before. Good luck to you dear and just be honest with him and yourself.
2007-08-01 05:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One, you haven't been together long enough to encounter the major relationship issues, i.e. finances, tempation, how to raise children, religous issues. Two fighting or argueing is just another word for intense communication. Since communication is the foundation a solid relationship is built you have to make sure that you can communicate over heated topics. Me and my finace didn't fight for the first eight months together. When we finally did we manage to argue our points and come out with an understanding of each others views. We certainly didn't agree with the other person ( not essential) but we did validate and understand where the other person was coming from ( essential). Three, make sure when you do start to argue you don't argue about the same things over and over... this means there is a lack of communication if you are constantly fighting about the same topics... Hope this helps...
2007-08-01 05:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boy and I were the same way. No fights at all. We're on 2.5 years and going strong. It can work out! Just make sure that if something happens, talk it out before it starts a fight. As soon as it happens, address it so that you don't have to worry about it later. We've done that and have avoided a lot of fights and hurt feelings. =)
Relationships take two people. Don't ever forget that.
2007-08-01 05:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by theewokprincess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont assume just because a fight might be coming up or looming overhead that your relationship is doomed! Fighting is ALL part of a relationship and even though you havent yet, you will! Do not be worried, it happens and if you two are truly in love with eachother, it shouldn't be something huge to worry about. Me and my girlfriend I am with now did not fight for the first 8-9 months or our relationship... but it always happens, just due to the fact that you two will have different opinions.. good luck and have fun! you two sound great together and its adorable that you think you've found the one! ;) congrats.
2007-08-01 05:44:42 · answer #5 · answered by Jack B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are overthinking this one. I say give it a year then decide where this is going. Five months is not a lot of time to determine how a relationship will be in my opinion. Get to know him inside and out. Some people dont start showing their true colors until a year later so give him some more time. And don't rush it.
2007-08-01 05:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by CaliGirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 months? Slooowww down there, partner. Why not give it a year. And then another. Then you'll know if he's "the one". Please, don't jump to any conclusions based on 5 months, for your own sake.
My cousin got engaged to a guy in about that much time, and broke it off after finding that there was more (bad) to this guy's personality than met the eye.
What is it with girls and their need to enter couple-for-the rest-of-their-lives mode as fast as possible? Just enjoy the ride for now.
2007-08-01 05:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by Underground Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait on the idea of him being your soul-mate ( or "the one").
Five months is not even close to being long enough to decide on this.
I know, I know you love him and all, but no.
Usually when there aren't any fights, (I mean little arguments are normal ! ), there isn't even a real relationship.
Unless he is a carbon copy of you, you shouldn't get along perfectly. I understand, some things fitting, but there usually are a few differences between you two.
But, wait awhile, and then see.
Don't screw up your life by rushing into something.
2007-08-01 05:49:05 · answer #8 · answered by Sakura-chan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at 5 months you are probably still in the "honeymoon" stage of your relationship. I dont necessarily think that it is "too good to be true" but dont become complacent. All relationships take work, even really good ones. Just know that one day you will probably fight, but if you really care about eachother you'll talk it through and make it work. Good luck!
2007-08-01 05:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by dictatortyrant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I only dated for 6 months before we go married and never had a fight. We have been married for almost 9 years and have 3 beautiful children. We are very happy. We do on occasion have arguments but we always work it out.
2007-08-01 05:53:07 · answer #10 · answered by motherof3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl be happy about the way things are going. I was the same way when i met my husband, i thought it was too good to be true and that something must be wrong and their wasnt....Their really are good guys out their...we have been together for 3 years....married for about 6 months....and now im about 5 to 6 weeks pregnant...So just enjoy it and be thankful that ya have eachother...I wish you the best of luck...
2007-08-01 05:45:53 · answer #11 · answered by puertolinda2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋