I'm getting married in November, the problem I'm having is that it's my second marriage. It's formal, but I see no point in having my father give me away AGAIN, and neither does he. But, I don't want to walk down the aisle by myself, all eyes are going to be on me regardless, but I'd like to have someone to lean on in the process. Would it be ok if the groom escorted me himself? Or should I find a male friend or relative to do it?
2007-08-01 05:26:36 · 27 answers · asked by Orchid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think having the groom walk you down would be nice. because this is your second marriage anyone else seems weird to me. No one is giving you away. you and the groom can walk up together as a symbol of joining together to be one.
2007-08-01 05:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by bekaj13 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I love the idea of having your Groom meet you at the beginning of the aisle, and walk with you. This is great for the families on both sides of the aisle, who get to enjoy seeing you as a couple going to make your vows together. This is actually done in the Orthodox church, which has a little betrothal-commitment prayer at the door. The Priest and Groom wait at the alter, and when the Bride appears at the door they go to join her for a brief betrothal ceremony before the couple walks together down the aisle.
A male friend or relative wouldn't be able to "give you" away, which is the traditional reason for the escort. You want to make sure that any question about "who gives this woman" is deleted from the ceremony. You could consider having an honor escort by the Best Man, Maid of Honor (or even as a less-traditional option having your Mom take a turn), if you decide not to walk the aisle with your fiance but want someone to be with you.. Best wishes for a fantastic wedding day!
2007-08-01 06:07:34 · answer #2 · answered by Neonzeus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a son or daughter? My cousin had her two little boys escort her down the aisle when she got married the second time (after becoming widowed). It was adorable!
The groom can escort you as long as you don't believe in the tradition of hiding the bride from the groom until the service. Or have your maid of honor or best man do it!
2007-08-01 05:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by theewokprincess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want someone to escort you down the aisle I see no problem having your father do it again. It will look strange if you have a male friend or something walk you down the aisle if your father is still alive and a part of your life. And while I'm not a stickler for tradition, you might miss out on a fabulous moment if you let your fiance walk you down the aisle. The moment when he first sees you is something that is priceless, why give that up?
My vote... walk alone or let your father give you away again.
Good luck and best wishes!
2007-08-01 05:32:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Even in a second marriage, it is proper and expected to have your father; however an alternative, would be a brother, uncle, cousin or God father that you're really close to. The groom's place is up front, waiting and watching you come down the isle. If it were not a formal wedding, you could eliminate the isle walk and all just meet at the alter.
2007-08-01 05:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by ~ Floridian`` 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Traditionally the giving of the Bride requires that someone (father, son, trusted relative, close male friend) consents and provides their blessing on the wedding. If you have a son this will be his new "father figure" so he could give his "blessing" on the wedding. I don't think it would be appropriate for the Groom to escort you down the aisle.
2007-08-01 05:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by texascutie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you and your groom may walk to the altar together. In fact, I think that would be lovely for you.
If you prefer to be escorted to him by someone else and don't wish your father to do it, you may choose another friend or relative - perhaps the person who introduced you to your guy - but be very sure you make it clear to your father that it isn't meant as any sort of insult to him. And if it hurts his feelings badly, you might want to reconsider.
After all, he says he doesn't see the point, but that's a far cry from wanting to see someone else do the job.
I'd be inclined to go with the idea of walking proudly with your guy to greet your new life together.
2007-08-01 05:59:39 · answer #7 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have my father walk me down the isle regardless. I would opt to skip the part when the officiant says "who gives this woman...." But I think if it's a formal affair then it might be a good idea to stick to some sort of tradition.
Besides, who else better to lean on during this day than your father!
2007-08-01 05:46:32 · answer #8 · answered by Not quite perfect 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and the groom could walk together....I think that would be excellent.
Doesn't have to be a male escort either.....perhaps your mother or another special person who might be female.
I worked in the wedding business for years and years, and there are really no rules anymore......do what makes you feel comfortable and happy.
Note: I don't think God will care who escorts you down the isle, as the focus is on your committment to each other once you get there! :>))
I never wanted to be escorted or given away......not appealing to my independence as a woman. My choice was to walk down the isle myself.
2007-08-01 05:34:41 · answer #9 · answered by Grace 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have both your mom and dad walk with you this time. Or your favorite male cousin or uncle. Maybe even a grandfather if you still have any alive. Or a grandmother. Whoever you fee close too. It's your wedding, just have someone who's really important to you walk with you. But I don't think it's good for the groom to do it. You want his face to be a priceless surprise look of awe and love when he sees you for the first time walking down the isle in your dress.
2007-08-01 05:36:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋