So my brother in law and his GF came to visit recently and every time they got ready to go out they would take a shower together.They stayed for 5 days!!My husband thinkd it's fine because we save on water, I think it's inappropriate to do in front of children.Our shower isn't even big enough for two!! I don't think it's right for him to do that in front of his niece and nephew,what do you think? They are coming back and I wonder if I should say something??
2007-08-01 05:20:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes of course the door is closed,but when my kids ask where is Uncle and his Gf I don't know what to say!!!
2007-08-01 05:31:26 · update #1
Your house. Your kids. Your rules. And your husband needs to support you on it. End of story.
2007-08-01 06:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
If they're doing it when the kids are asleep and they can't be heard, that's one thing. What the kids don't know won't hurt them. But if the kids are awake or the bathroom is right next to the kids' room, it's VERY inappropriate.
You need to speak to them before they arrive. Explain to them that there are certain things your children don't need to know about and you're not ready to give the birds and bees talk yet. Tell them that their behavior last time rasied some questions that you couldn't answer.
Remember: your house, your rules.
2007-08-01 13:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is inappropriate. The kids should not be in the bathroom while adults are showering, even if there's only one person in the shower. When they come back, you should tell them to the lock the door and tell your kids that they need their privacy.
2007-08-01 12:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by Avie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is disrespectful to you and your husband, and the kids...but they are probably too young to realize why that would be inappropriate. My boyfriend and I love to shower together (not do anything necessarily) but we talk and stuff before we go to work but i would never dream to do that in someone elses house. I think it makes everyone else feel awkward. I would just have your husband say something to his brother that you don't want to make a big deal out of it, but please don't shower together in my house bc you don't want to have to explain that to the kids. Hope it works out!
2007-08-01 12:54:32 · answer #4 · answered by Kristie S 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Just say they are taking a shower and leave it at that. It really does not have to turn into a big deal. They are not doing anything IN FRONT of your kids. Lighten up.
2007-08-01 13:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IMO: It is inappropriate in front of a 4 and 6 year old.
It's your house and you are perfectly within your rights to set some "house rules" next time they come back for a visit.
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2007-08-01 12:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think ur overreacting. Cut your brother in law some slack! he has to be a parent full time, he wants a little adult time. Tell the kids that he is having private bathroom time and he will be back. I don't think its appropriate at all, he needs some me time and maybe thats the few minutes he escapes when hes in the bathroom. its not liek his kids are watching them. i think its sweet.
2007-08-01 13:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's fine. My son is four and my husband and I take showers together. He hasn't said anything about it. As long ans the kids aren't in the bathroom with them, there is nothing wrong with it.
2007-08-01 12:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Were they taking a shower or where they 'taking a shower'? First should be okay; nothing wrong with non-sexual nudity at any age. Second should not be okay; *sexual* nudity is *not* okay in front of small children.
2007-08-02 11:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Close the door to the bathroom and the kids will never know.
2007-08-01 12:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by M v 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, I do not think it is proper for your children to see their un-married uncle take a shower with his girlfriend. We have had un-married friends at our house and I even show them where bedroom 1 is, and where bedroom 2 is, they have never objected.
2007-08-01 12:31:59 · answer #11 · answered by Tea C 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋