Would you rather people talk bad about you behind your back or to your face?

Answer 1

I'd rather they didn't talk bad about me at all.

Answer 2

Depends on who it was. If it was a stranger or someone in a class or at work, I could care less what they said unless it was something I needed to know. If it was a stranger, I definatley wouldn't give two sh**s about what they thought.

The only time I would want it to be said to my face is if it were my best friend or my boyfriend or something, because on those levels, the communication should be more open to begin with. If they didn't talk to me, the relationship could be lost as a result.

Answer 3

I'd respect a person more if they were in my face telling me directly rather than talking behind my back

Answer 4

Well, mostly I would prefer they came to me with whatever problem they had with me, but it doesn't really matter either way. I work with a man who lies and says bad things about "the girls up front" all the time. He can't even tell us apart, job wise. He blames her stuff on me and my stuff on her, at some point I just realized that he was a ridiculous and infantile person whose behavior is to be ignored, maybe he will get a better job and go away!

Answer 5

If people criticize you, then its not that bad a thing since if they are taking the time and risk to talk bad then they might think you're interesting.

But sometimes I would like people to talk behind my back, since it would give me much time to improve myself and avoid getting in an argument with the offender.

Answer 6

People are going to talk about you no matter what. Those who have guts will confront you face to face. The cowards will talk behind your back. I don't base my self-estee or self-image in what anybody else says concerning me. I am who I am, and nothing they say can change or effect that.

Answer 7

If they can't say something to my face why should it bother me. I can understand someone being frustrated with me and saying bad things about me as the vent to someone else. I think this probably helps the person, rather than say something to me that he or she might regret and could cause a bigger problem.

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Answer 8

Behind my back. I'm in the fire department and this kind of stuff happens all the time. I've learned that I really don't care what other people have to say about me and that if they say something truly offensive and it's important enough to bring to my attention, one of my friends will.

Answer 9

People are going to talk about you regardless so it really doesn't matter. I think their taking the cowards way if they do it behind your back but if they do it to your face it will hurt your feelings and the Bible says not to offend. So it really doesn't matter.

Answer 10

Either way it can bite if said or done by those who are close to you.

Although, to be forthright and honest and express a view or opinion is not bad by itself; I think it matters more why people say the things they do, more than what they say.

Most times when people speak ill of others in secret or outloud, it is merely an attempt to elevate themselves in some way - it's more about the person speaking than the person they are speaking bad about.

Answer 11

To my face...that way I can affirm or deny the allegations, and hopefully enter into a meaningful dialogue about why the person is offended by me. Hopefully, we can come to some kind of understanding so there is no longer hard feelings.