Am i living a normal life???

Question

my aunt and cousin dont think i live a normal life because i spent my summer taking care of my 5 year old little brother and working too. they think my mom doesnt know what shes doing and that shes being to hard.They say all these things about her but they did my family so wrong that we shouldnt even been communicating. what they we're saying to me made me feel like they had better lives then me.so is what they're saying true

my mom is doing the best that she ccan as a mother. but they never acknowledge us as familyand never said happy birthday when we had a birthday and they never came to my brother or sister graduation.
should i jus cut them off completely???

im 16 by the way

Answer 1

your mom is very lucky to have you for a daughter they are jealous of you

Answer 2

You answered your own question. Just read it back a couple of time and it will dawn on you that these people do not have your best interest or your Mom's best interest at heart. They care very little if at all about your family. And you need to stop letting them know your family business. At 16 I had graduated high shool, got a full time job and helped my parents take care of my little brothers. I cooked and cleaned and ran errands. Today Iam successful in both my career and family situations. I am dedicated and devoted and responsible. Cut you're Aunt and cousin off. Eventually both will grow up let's hope that it happens before it's too late

Answer 3

Well first I have to ask how old are you? I'm 17 and I work during the summer and I take care of my little sister. I have been doing this since I was 15. Now I also go out some nights with my friends in all but I'm okay with staying in and watching her. I understand about how your family did you wrong cuz mine did too. But if you are doing what you want to do and your helping your mom out then I wouldn't worry about what they say. Your the one with the better life since you care enough to help out! Good Job!

Answer 4

Everyone has to live their life according to the way they want to - one person cannot judge whether or not the way we are living is right or wrong. What is wrong with taking care of your little brother? Nothing. You have a better life than the relatives that criticize you because you are learning to live the real world, a world that is not always so easy. I think you are a wonderful person for helping your mom and I would not pay any attention to the relatives that are critical of you or your Mother. It is NONE of their business.

Answer 5

In my personal opinion, your family shouldn't be telling you this, they should be speaking to your mom about it. I mean really, who wants to hear people talking bad about their mom??? Also, who's to say what NORMAL is anymore. When you are in a family sometimes you have to sacrifice. Thats what family is about. You are more than likely doin your mom a HUGE favor. I'm sure if she could she would send your little brother to daycare but that might not be an option right now. The question should be whether you are being appreciated and rewarded for all your help. And as far you working goes...I think its great that you are working and making your own money. I mean it takes up your time but when you do have free time you have money to enjoy whatever you'd like to do versus having to ask your mom. Working teaches independance and I think its great.......

Answer 6

Fantasia,
It's kind of hard to answer this ,but I will give it my best shot...To be "blunt" about it... Opinions are like "buttholes " every one has one and they all stink!! (LOL). If you feel like you are doing the right thing then I would not worry about what others think!It sounds to me that your mom is a hard working person trying to provide for her family the best she can.You are helping your mom out by watching over little bro.Remember this Fantasia;Talk is nothing but just that TALK !! These relatives need to place themselves in your family's shoes for a while,to experience what hardships your family had had to deal with,then and only then could they justifably "run their mouths".It's sad to know that there are folks that think that they are "better than everyone else" But I think that if these relatives have not experienced what you and your family have then they should not be so judgemental, after all if they don't wear a judge's robes or bang a gavel for a living,then its not up to them to judge you , your family or anyone else!!....NORMAL is a word hard to describe.. My only thought to give to you is go with what you feel is right for you and your family.Seeing is not Believing ,BUT Believing IS seeing!! So cheer up buttercup!! Life is a bed of roses but ya have to watch out for the "Pricks" that make life sometimes painful !! OK? Continue on doing what you have been doing and dont worry about what the relatives think!!

Brightest Blessings to you and your Family and to you the best of luck!! SPELLCASTER...... :)

Answer 7

Seems like you and your mom and brother are just fine. You do what you have to do as a family and your mom is lucky to have you and you are lucky to have her. We can always want more but you are okay. I am grown now but I had to help out a lot when I was young and it made me a better person and a better mother because I was more prepared in handleing situations

Answer 8

If you don't mind the way your summer is going and it works for your family, then the rest of them should just mind their own business. People are quick to judge others lives as a way to divert attention from theirs. All they are doing is stirring up problems and confusion. Don't let them do it. Just tell them..."thanks for your opinions" and go on with your life. I'm sure your mom appreciates your help and it seems like you all are just fine and happy the way you are! Stay that way.

Answer 9

You are working to help your Mom and know better than anyone else what she is going through. She is lucky to have you available to help her. You have plenty of time to get on with your life....and they shouldn't be "talking down" to you about your mother.

Sounds like you see them pretty clearly and you aren't obligated to them....you and your Mom are a team.

When you need some time of your own, then you can let your Mom know that...but there is no hurry. Your brother won't be little for ever either!

Answer 10

Family is family but it doesn't necessatily mean that you have to like them. I know that sounds harsh but its life. I have some experience in this myself and the way I look at it is like this...Just because they are family doesn't give them the right to look down on you and make you feel bad about yourself just because they don't agree with the way you live your life. If you are happy with the way your life is going then just forget what they say and continue to live the way that makes you happy. As I said I've experienced this myself and it turns out that the reason my family tried to make me feel bad about my life is because they had some sort of jealous streak. I've always believed that the reason people put others down is to make themselves feel better. So don't fret.

Answer 11

They are being very disrespectful towards your mother. She is your mother and as you said is doing the best she can. What is a "normal' life exactly? We all have different responsibilities and for them to judge yours as 'not normal' is wrong. If you are willing to help out with the family to me this shows that your mother is doing a wonderful job raising you. It is never a good idea to surround yourself with negative people. I'd break ties with them until they learn how to treat you and your family with the respect you deserve. They are not better than you.