I was with my ex for a year and a half on an off (we are both 25y/o). We broke up because of the strain of the long distance relationship on both are parts he is in the military. Since then I text him once every 3 months to drop a line to see how he is doing. He always responds to the text by calling me...which is cool. But this week he called me out of the blue and we just had a casual conversation for a hour and half.
I still love him but I do you think Im waisting my time trying to nurture this friendship/relationship.
I have not seen him in a year. But I do like to keep tabs on him being that he has a dangerous job in the military.
Please give me your insight
2007-08-01 04:54:17 · 9 answers · asked by ready 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no way! this sounds very cool. I don't think he doesn't want to talk to you. I think he's just respecting your space. I think he probably feels the same way you do I'd really encourage you to keep up the friendship/relationship. It could turn into something wonderful.
2007-08-01 04:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by shoefly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you clinging to the hope that you'll be together again, or are you just keeping in touch with an old friend? Be honest with yourself.
If you are hoping he'll come back and everything will be great, cut that out now. There is a slim possibility it could happen, but you can't count on it, and getting on with your life probably wouldn't prevent it from happening in the future anyway, unless you get married.
It sounds like you aren't wasting that much time--a few minutes to a few hours every couple months. There is nothing wrong with staying friends with your ex. Most people are incapable of doing that--that's why normally people cut ties with an ex--not because it is the best way. If you and your ex aren't the jealous type, and neither of you is hung up on the other so much that your lives are stalling, you can still be friends.
2007-08-01 05:02:08 · answer #2 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love this guy, then why would there be a question about nurturing this relationship? I think the fact that you have questions says everything. If you see yourself being with this guy when he returns then keep going; but don't lead him on if you aren't committed enough to see him through this rough time. I've never been to war, but as a guy I would rather know where I stand with my people back home rather than wonder on top of all the stress of people shooting at me and blowing themselves up...
2007-08-01 05:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult situation,but a relation ship is like a garden of flowers,needs to be nourished,given tender loving care,or eventually it will die,no matter now much u feel for this person,this would be different if u are the married and and children together,cuz their would be a bond between u ,and even this being the case,it still very hard to deal,with that situation,u both need to communicate more and see where your relationship stands,this way u will know what has to be done!good luck!
2007-08-01 05:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by jose_valle76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
undesirable situation and actual frightening, so good success a million. keep a checklist of each and every thing he has sent you. 2. besides as being ill, he's a coward and backs down once you assert "ok do it then". consistent with this, i could say tell him that if he contacts you EVER returned, you will checklist him. 3. possibly tell your friends your on line identity has been hacked, and close down all profiles and open new ones, new digital mail addresses and so on 4. in the united kingdom we've help for infants in misery, childline, samaritans and so on, in case you do no longer prefer to talk to somebody you be responsive to, they are able to grant suggestion and practise 5. Be brave, be solid and tell your parents. they won't like it, yet they'll returned you up, and if he knows that they be responsive to, he would be long gone for good. final of all, Please do tell the police, this guy needs to be made prevalent to the government formerly he particularly harms somebody
2016-11-10 22:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by kennebeck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you've got to ask yourself is whether the strain of a long distance relationship is worth all the trouble. If you can't go through with it all again, you might be better staying as you are. But if you love eachother enough to try again- go for it. Hope it all works out.
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2007-08-01 04:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keeping the friendly relationship going is fine, it may in fact be healthy and good for you. If you still have feelings for this guy and still care about him, then you should keep in communication and talking, but only as friends at this point. Don't try to escalate the relationship further at this time with your current circumstances.
2007-08-01 04:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by John S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick with it, I'm sure he is grateful to hear from you whenever you contact him. It must be tough out there and I'm sure hearing from you is a comfort. Seek only friendship for now, more later when there is time to spend some time together.
2007-08-01 05:00:23 · answer #8 · answered by World Peace Now 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you still have feelings for him deep down and haven't let go of him yet.
2007-08-01 04:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by Lover of Blue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋