i know alot of people have the stupid questions.. oh my boyfirend and i are in a fight.. or omg i like this boy how can i get him to like me but thats not what im asking..
ive been with this guy for 2 months (im only 15 here so...lol) and like hes cool and stuff but right when school got out he has been hanigng with stupid people. like the "skater" crowd in schools... and he smokes weed alot. like i can never get him to stop. i even somtimes say "pick me or smoking" and he goes its more confusing than that... and see i dont know what to do. whenever were on the phone he will be like, oh yeah i didnt smoke in a week! and im like good. then he would be like but tonight i think i am ... and it bugs me really bad that he doesnt even seem to care one bit that i hate it...cuz he keeps on doing it. i just wish that he would listen. im not breaking up with him because ... well i like him a lot! but anyone have any ideas what to say to him or what i should do?
2007-08-01 04:53:37 · 24 answers · asked by chris-teaa :] 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i never meant to say the skater group was like bad or anything about smoking.. most of my guy friends are skaters and i love them. it was just to give you an idea of who he hangs out with...
2007-08-01 06:14:50 · update #1
hi there, I don't really wanna make a decision for you but I hope you'll take my advice..you are only 15 and some might think that you are even too young to have a boyfriend but I guess I wouldn't say that to you. However, you have to be smart and make the right choices for your own good especially on choosing the right guy.
First of all, your boyfriend smokes weed and I don't think it is a good idea..(don't get me wrong, I don't mean to be judgemental). However, what you can do is give yourself and him a time frame. As of now, talk to him and tell him that you like him a lot and that you want what's best for him. Ask him to stop smoking weed, that's. You otta be straight and upfront sometimes, you know.
If he keeps on doing that kind of stuff, then I guess you'd better break up with him...coz if he really cares for you, he will know that what you are asking him is the right thing to do and it's not just for you anyway, it's for his own sake.
Goodluck and God bless!!
2007-08-01 05:03:25 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go girl! LoL. What I would say to do is instead of getting yourself wrapped up in a situation as confusing as this try asking an adult. Yah I know I sound like one of those videos about not smoking or not taking drugs, but it really does help! Try asking his mom or your mom for help. But then there is always the problem: his parents dont know he is doing weed. And that can ruin a relationship easily. But what you have to do is be the bigger person and stand up to him. You can't just let him like....uh...well, 'stomp all over you' saying "im gonna break up w/ u if you tell" but maybe his parents do no...i dont really know!! Anyways you have to try and convince him to stop. I could go on and on about things, but your probably tierd of reading already. I know im younger than you and you might think this is all stupid, but im serious! If he doesnt stop then it might get worse and if he STILL doesnt stop then maybe he isnt the right guy for you. I mean, your only 15. Good luck!!
2007-08-01 05:01:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Skaters don't always mean pot smokers: jocks, goths, and every other crowd smokes weed too. So don't be blaming clicks. Weed is the least drug you should be worrying about. I personally do not smoke, never have, never will, but its the person's choice to smoke it not yours. Making him choose thats kind of selfish, it would be like asking you to give up your cell phone. Just tell him CALMLY how you feel about drugs, and if he doesn't change or tries to make you join you, then its time to move on, but don't blame it on a click, thats a personal choice!
2007-08-01 05:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by tallgirl_2004 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had the almost same thing happen to me, also. my boyfriend hung out with the "skater" group and he smoked and drank but then when I started dating him, he stopped because he said that I helped him try and stop but all along I was just being myself. but you should keep asking him like "when was the last time you smoked/drank?" and then he will tell you, and then if it has been a while then say "im really proud of you" and "keep it up!" and that will encourage him
2007-08-01 05:01:58 · answer #4 · answered by Britney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to follow through on your threats, or else he is going to walk all over you, and not just on the drug issue. If he won't respect your feelings about drug use, then you need to dump him and find a better guy. You said you would. He didn't listen. That is not the kind of boyfriend you want. Let him go, keep yourself busy, hang out with your friends, give it some time, and then you'll be ready to find a more suitable boy. Good luck!
2007-08-01 04:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of dating are talking about? Since I have teenagers myself and they use the term "dating " in a different context. I consider dating - going out to a movie, a eating establishment, and then back home. Now my kids say dating is having a BF or GF at school, who holds your hand and so-on. That is not dating- that is being with someone, not going out with someone. Dating is going out. Why would you care if you do not have a BF. Your young enjoy your teenage years, they will go by fast. If you make any stupid mistakes now, you will regret them later in life - like in your 30's. Your little sister is making a name for herself in school and it is not a pleasant name. Do you want to be in the same shoes as her or do you want a more pleasant name with a better rep.
2016-05-19 23:37:44 · answer #6 · answered by emily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well I went throught the same thing with my last b/f. But he was a gangsta and loved his weed. And I didn't hate it at first it didn't bother me but I started to realize like, damn he is starting to pick me over the weed. I told him to me smokin weed is so juvenile. But in your case you are juvenile. Just let him know hey you need stop and plus there is always that fear he might get caught too. Tell him do you wanna be one of those old men still smoking weed and did nothing else thats pathetic. Just let him know.
2007-08-01 05:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Alyssa17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I have to ignore you age to answer. But, here it goes stop commenting on the weed. He knows it bothers you and the more you say something the more he is going to push your buttons with it. Hopefully, weed is just a faze he is going through trying to fit in with other people. Just fall back and watch and ignore him when he is trying to get under your skin, he will figure you don't care anymore and he will leave it alone or at least not mention it to you anymore.
2007-08-01 04:58:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie I know it's hard but you need to get out of there. You don't need to be dealing with all that hassle. It'll be hard to do and will make you sad, but will save you a lot of hurt in the long run.
Do you really wanna be with someone who values weed over you? And it sounds like he's doing it for your attention. If he says "oh I haven't smoked in a week... but I think i'm gonna tonight..." it's for your attention. He wants you to say "ohh noo, please don't smoke...." so that he has control.
Get out of there.
2007-08-01 05:01:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend, weed is not the devil, have you ever tried it, then maybe you would understand >_>
But my friend just went through the same thing, but it was coke and she's 15 and hes 20 (don't ask) and it just turned out to be that he was using her and it was a whole big fiasco.
If he doesnt respect you, then why be nice to him you know?
2007-08-01 04:57:57 · answer #10 · answered by Ana Makes Art. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋