Girls and guys please help me with this...................................?

Question

This girl was born and raised in USA in the Indian culture. Her father and my father are high school mates. I used to play with her when she comes to India for vacations. As now we both are in USA I started calling her. She was excited. We talked for hours. She told me everything abt her past ( abt her boyfriends, why she broke up, what she like and what she doesnt like etc) We talked for hours. She used to call me as soon as I come home. What she like and dislike seems to match what I like and dislike. She even told me what kind of kids she wants to have ( I mean what gender they should be ). I really really love this girl and I wanted to marry her. I proposed to her over the phone( probably the worst thing ever I did in my life). Then she said she wanted to date me. She invited me to a BBQ before I proposed. After I proposed she stopped calling me everyday but talk me nice when I calls her. What does it mean? Since she doesnt call me does it mean that its an unofficial "no"

She still talks to me nicely 'cos she doesnt want to hurt my feelings and loose relationship or does she really likes me but she wants to make me earn it. Guys and girls I need ur honest comments

Answer 1

Im indian. born and brought up in America. probably rushed. ask the parents. shes probably ressured. usually inidan fammilies arrange the marriage. why dont you ask your parents to talk to her parents.

Answer 2

Yeah, I think you blew it. Why would you ask her to marry you when you haven't even dated yet? And the whole phone thing just makes me shudder. I wouldn't give you the time of day after that. No, that's not true I guess. Maybe she's just a little freaked out and needs some time. Tell her you made a mistake and would like to date her first. You need to talk about what happened. It seems that you both are avoiding the issue. If she agrees to dating, take it VERY slow. And do not show that you are completely head over heals for her. But don't be a dick either. Just try to be normal. Put it in your head that she is a really good friend and that's it. Then SLOWLY start progressing it to bf/gf stuff.

EDIT- Don't do what the guy above me said. That's pretty extreme. I'd kick your *** if you asked my parents why I was avoiding you.

Answer 3

sounds like you bought a new book and skipped to the last chapter to find out how it ended!!!!! But seriously, dating is not a bad idea here, it's like a "get to know you" stage in a relationship, some of the strongest relationships start out as friends, you already have a lot in common, explore that further, popping the question after so short a time could have scared her a bit and made her apprehensive about your motives, I don't think I would mention the marriage deal again, I would let her bring up the subject no matter how long the wait, i suspect it will be well worth it in the long run, in the mean time enjoy each others company and in time your relationship will grow stronger if both of your hearts are in the right place with it. ALL MY HOPES, GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 4

If she did not want to talk to you at all she would have not picked up the phone. maybe it was to soon to ask for the marriage. Maybe she is scared and does not want to get seriuos with you to soon. I would advise that you talk to her and keep a line of communication open. Tell her it might have been to soon but would love to get to know her better and maybe in the future when both have been fully aquainted you can move forward. If she is willing to talk she will come out honest. Honest might sometimes hurt but it is the best solution.

Answer 5

How old is she? She sounds immature. I used to talk to a boy for long periods of time when I was young, but I didn't even want to date him. He was good to talk to but just not my type. If she is backing off, you have two choices. To back off too, or to come right out and ask her how she feels. Tell her to be honest no matter what, because you sure don't want to pressure someone into a relationship. You want and need honest love, not fake pity love.
Good luck!

Answer 6

You probably freaked her out by asking her to marry you so fast. Calm down! There's no rush. Try dating her and taking things slow.. see what it's like to be in an actual relationship with her. Then, after a year or two try proposing. Girls don't like to feel like you're rushing them into things.

Answer 7

I know all guys watch porn, but I'd be a little pissed off that the was doing it while talking to me...

Answer 8

i think she either wants more time as friends with you or she's nervous. Maybe she thinks ur going way to fast for her, u should ask her and let her kno if she wants more time, you'll take ur time with her. good luck ;)