He dumped me coz am not skinny and i dont do anything to get those skinny figures.he treated me so so bad for the past 2 months still i dont want to leave him.
we were together for 4 years ...and it feels so sad...i would have to do everything alone without him...every single thing would remind me of him...god this feels so sad...how will i ever get over this feeling...i never wanted to leave him...He acts so happy and not bothered when i see him in college...and i am so sad all the time.Moreover i see him everyday in college.I have been crying often now and everyone in college also knows about it and when they look at me with those sympathetic glances i feel even more horrible.i cant get over it.
2007-08-01 04:31:42 · 29 answers · asked by star 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey misha! first of all why are u crying? stop it immediately!
first things first- take things this way- in any relationship that spans for such a long period gives a pain in neck when it goes to shambles! so don go crappy over that! its all the natural..after all u need to stabilize after shedding those tears!
and for the part of dumping please note that he has dumped you because u deserve a "better guy" n u are too good for him that he was not able to handle you!
see the light in the accidents that occur to you coz life is beautiful n there are too many things to be explored!
feeling sorry for something like this is a bit awkward! well it hurts alot initially but u need to get strong and learn n not to kneel down and beg!!
well u see him daily in the college thats even better! smile at him n look fresh, stare directly in to his eyes n feel brave! it will take some time but u need to get past all these things.
you are crying and letting people know bcoz u want to be at the sympathetic end! shake that feeling n start your life afresh!
the more you celebrate your life there is more to celebrate in your life- oprah said this and its beautifully true!
hope u will set out for a new beginning and new life!
u will do it! go for it!
2007-08-01 20:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by aerohoney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it always hurts when a long relationship ends. It always makes you feel a little lost and alone. But the truth is, you really don't want to invest your love and time in someone who doesn't want it anyway, right? Think about it. It may be hurtful for a while, but if he wasn't happy and he was treating you badly and disrespectfully then you're better off without him. I am currently ending a marriage of 17 years. I never thought that would happen. I'm a little lost and really don't know what to do with myself, but I do know that the marriage is not a happy one and despite all my efforts it's never going to be. So, I would rather go through this now than be unhappy for the rest of my life. You're very young and have everything in front of you. You will come through it just fine. Good Luck!!
2007-08-01 04:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by jwsou812 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, poor baby. :(
You can feel embarassed if you want to, but you have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. This guy treated you horribly lately, especially dumping you after 4 long years, because of your outside appearance.
And the fact that he sees you upset and doesn't seem to care makes him more of a jerk - if anyone should be humiliated, it's him, for being such a low human being.
I know it's going to take a really long time for you to get over him - 4 years is a really long time. Make sure you've always got friends and other supportive and happy people around you - surround yourself with people who make you feel better about yourself, not worse.
If you want to, see a therapist or a counselor. If not, that's fine too.
Everything will slowly stop reminding you of him - I know, I was the same way after my last boyfriend broke up with me. So many things reminded me of him. But eventually, I promise it'll go away. You'll find someone else to care about, but in the meantime, try not to think about this guy too much - he doesn't even deserve your thoughts.
Good luck <3
2007-08-01 04:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You know, I'm going threw the same thing. Its going to be okay and yes in time you will be happy again. Believe me. Alot of pain comes out of love. But some how we can find our self's getting out of holes... I know it may sound hard to even make a grin. When I split up with my ex boyfriend I felt as if I was going to die and that's all I wanted to do. I'm sure you don't even want to read things like these. Just try be positive. Some how I never really wanted to do even that but we get threw it very slowly and painfully cause that is love. Well its been a year without my ex and sometimes I feel pain about the memories but not as hard as the beginning because I still have those lucky memories. Yes it still hurts more than I could even say. But we can't stay this way, we must move on. Believe me, you may just find someone even better cause really we are still young. Lets move on together. What I do to ease the pain is find things to do. When you feel up to it just do some cleaning, take a shower, fix yourself up and just go some where fun. Free your mind with music and just do what you enjoy. Just maybe if he sees you happier he will wounder and come up to you one day and ask what did you do to yourself. Its fun to see their faces. Hope you feel well soon and remember to keep your mind on things that don't involve him.
2007-08-02 19:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by Heather N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, what you're feeling is just normal for a person who lost someone close/dear. Its the same feeling when a loved one dies or goes away for good. You must have been so close to this person that it seems like your world is going to end without him. But hey, I have good news for you! You are a worthy person.. you still have a life, you have family and friends... in short you have everything to get you going in this journey called life. You may cry for a while, but don't stay there forever. You still have a great life ahead even without this person whom you said treated you badly for the past 2 months. I am sure you will meet someone who deserves your love and care.. someone who will love and accept you for who you are.. despite your imperfections.
YOU CAN GET OVER IT!
To help you get over him, I say you get yourself busy with worthwhile activities in school.. how about sports? Meeting new friends? Appreciating arts and nature? How about spending more time with your family and closest friends in the meantime? You can do it... after all these I am sure you'll come out as a better person.
Good luck
2007-08-01 04:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
for once just try to forget him and go to college as if its ur first day smile at everyone have fun with ur friends and if he comes arround jus avoid as if its sum1 u dont know.
or else 1 fine day when he will be engrossed in sumthing talking to his friends or eating sumthing or nething just got frm the back tap on his shoulders and when he turns just give him a tight slap this will help u gain back ur self esteem and jus tell him this is answer for all the bad that he did to you and also tell him u are happier without him coz its better to be single than being with a devil like him and find a guy with whom u can roam arround and have fun in front of ur ex and make him jealous u can use any of his enemy for this it will be a very bad thing for him show him u are very happy and u are not just sulking trying to get over him.
2007-08-04 19:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by sexykitten_r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
feeling humiliated iz a natrual reaction 2 rejection. don't feel sad b/c tat jerk alwayz dated u 4 how u looked outside. he never saw the inside u. u r a gem 2 people who luv u like ur family nd frnds. don't bother abt sumbudy who never cared 4 u. the 4 yrs wich u spent wit him iz wasetd b/c he's a total jerk but don't waste all the cuming years. it's time 2 let go of him nd find sumbudy who truly cares 4 u nd who can c tat u r a beautiful person inside- out. i know it hurts now but trust me, time will heal all wounds. u r single now so keep urself open 2 new possibilities. look around u nd u will find so many people who care 4 u. don't let him rob u of ur self respect. put on a smile nd b brave. u won't get the sympathetic glances anymore nd try smilin b/c u never know who might b fallin in luv wit ur smile. u deserve sumbudy much.much.much better.try 2 spend more time wit ur frnds nd let time heal all wounds.
2007-08-01 09:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by muskaan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure its okay to feel bad. it would be unatural if you felt any better than you do. it just means your human with real feelings. I just got out of my 3.5 year relationship this past november.
Here's what I did.
I allowed myself to feel like **** for one week after the break up. ONE WEEK. I slept in, I moped, I *gasp* ate crap food.
And ONLY ONE WEEK.
after that, I kicked my *** back into my routine and began to imagine all the things I could do on my own. I eventually began looking forward to them, and now I have accomplished a lot of them..
Yes. There will be moments where you will reflex into wanting to talk to him - or tell him the tiniest part of your day that would make him laugh - because for the past 4 years its what you've been doing all along.
But your young, and with so much life ahead of you.
Look upward and onward and give him his space. It's what he's really saying. Give him his space.
Dont call, Dont write, Dont talk, Dont look.
Focus on You.
Easier said than done, I kno, But I did it too. So I kno it can be done.
Good luck sweety.
**** the nay sayers!
2007-08-01 04:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by *Mrs. Butler* 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You were together for 4 years. Were you skinny then? Where were his brains then? He is just fickle if he is going to wake up suddenly and call you fat. Forget him and get on with your life.
Hold your head high and walk around with confidence. Sympathetic glances will vanish. Not only that, that stupid boyfriend also cannot get anymore kicks out of your misery.Not one tear should be shed for his sake anymore.
2007-08-01 06:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by artqueen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know and its been 5 months with my last 4 years relationship. Now I'm fine! When a guy lost interest...It's nothing you can do! go away (I've been in Hawaii for 4 months now) .. Seriously, move!!! go some where. I was worse than you. I lived with him!!! i even thought of killing myself.. but i was blessed with friends that stood beside me 24/7 and i went on line and brought 1 way ticket and left...I'm still hurt, still trying hard to be single again, done lots of exercises .. lost 40 pound!! I look HOT again!!! cheer up, plenty of guys are out there..just open your eyes and feel more confident! Its really nothing no one can do now to stop your emotion. Do what you gotta do and do what makes you happy...let it out..i did it and thought i was insane...hahha..hope you feel happy..think positive..
2007-08-01 04:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋