She is totally dedicated in her job Refuses to marry, well provided finacially spritual but refuses religion , enjoys calls and daily sms .coming home no no no:
2007-08-01 04:26:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Infectious Diseases
Are you badgering this daughter? If you are, you won't get very far. She's a doctor so probably knows more about HIV than you do. She will take a test if and when SHE decides to. What's all this REFUSES to marry? Who is trying to make her marry someone? Sounds like it's against her will - and if she's HIV+ marriage is probably not the most sensible course of action at the moment. You're a parent so worry is second nature to you. You've brought her up to the best of your ability and she's now a grown woman of 37. Cut those apron strings and leave her to make her own decisions. If she needs help she will turn to you in her own good time. Pestering her won't do you any good at all. You won't be able to help worrying about her but as you can't do a thing to solve this problem, be neutral and say nothing.
2007-08-01 05:22:24 · answer #1 · answered by chris n 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
At 37 your daughter is well beyond the age of legal adulthood and should be in control of her own life and life decisions. It is silly to think at her age that she needs to be "managed" when she is obviously doing well for herself... financially stable and has a career... If she has no desire to be tested for HIV or to be married, there really is not anything you can do about it except to accept and love her as she is.
I understand as a parent the desire to protect our children and to want the best for them, but since she has made her decisions, let it be. If she is happy and relatively healthy right now, then be happy for her and let her enjoy what life she has right now.
If she is HIV pos. then not getting married and not being sexually active IS the most responsible thing for her to do. Relax and enjoy the time you have left with your daughter and please stop trying to manage her life! Be there when she needs you finally (and she will) , and until then just enjoy her and her company, even if it is only daily phone calls and ims.
2007-08-01 07:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by dedum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A good Doctor has following points.. *His social or communication skills with the patients which constitutes both verbal and non-verbal (body language) communication...As our profession is a Community Service. *He should be a role model (a doctor who tells his/her patients to quit smoking should not be seen smoking outside the hospital 5 minutes after the patient leaves.. where's the intergrity in this right?) *He should be able to communicate in a way the patient understands (not going off on the properties of amino acids... etc. etc) as this may come out as arrogance *He, IDEALLY should follow up on his patients ... give them phone calls to see how they're doing *The doctor should be WILLING TO TEACH!!... this goes along very well with preventive health care. The doctor should give the patients the fishing rods, rather than the fish. If a doctor knows how to teach his/her patient what to do and what not to do, the doctor will be able to help the patient change his lifestyle for the better so that the patient doesn't have to keep coming back. *>And last but not the least he must be INTELLIGENT, UPDATED, And Most Of all ETHICAL. Dr Suraj A K
2016-05-19 23:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really wish I could understand more of what this says. But from what I can conclude it seems that your 37 year old daughter may be HIV+ and well if she doesn't want to be tested then there's not much you can do.
Pray, Hope and maybe try to talk to her about it.
Goodluck.
2007-08-01 04:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by s van 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ther is not alot you can do about your daughter except support her emotionally. She is dedicated and apparently married to her profession. She may be very in touch spiritually but not have time for formal services as her life is dedicated to helping others. I assume if she is HIV positive she contacted in through her work. So she is like a sister of mercy--just love her, listen to her and love her for she is living her dream. She is ministering to others-her whole life is a ministry - she is dedicated to helping others. Sounds to me like she is a candidate for Sainthood. None of us want our children to be a living sacrifice but how wonderful if they are--whether it is a soldier, a Dr., a peace corp volunteer, a missionary. Be proud. Pray for her. Be there for her.
2007-08-01 04:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by Southern Comfort 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
A little hard to understnad, but it sounds like you have a single, 37 year old daughter who is a doctor and refuses to get tested.
OUCH.
The sad thing to have to accept is that
there is nothing you can do.
Except, of course, call her boss.
Immediately.
And to heck with her reaction.
You're right, that's it.
Other than that, you cna't manage a 37 year old woman.
She's supposed to do that herself.
2007-08-01 04:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
sorry dude but ya have no choice but to get over it and let her lead her life she is past grown and a doctor to boot she has more info than most about HIV
2007-08-01 07:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
bit confusing to understand the question. Is it your daughter you suspect is +ve and if so why do you suspect it. She is old enough to make her own decisions and respect her privacy and if its you then the same for you
2007-08-01 04:33:28 · answer #8 · answered by Wendy 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Does she suspect she is HIV positive, or are you just concerned about her lifestyle?
2007-08-01 05:43:42 · answer #9 · answered by christnp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be available for the possible future challenges
Pray
get counselling from your pastor so you can handle that which is not in your control
2007-08-01 04:36:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋