Can you be married in the Eyes of God but not the state?

Question

I am a Christain and my b/f and I live together. Knowing this isnt right, but knowing in my heart we would be married tomorrow if we had the money to have the wedding we want that could include our families (more my desire than his) makes me feel better about being here. I dont think God holds it against people because they cant afford things. So my b/f suggested finding a preacher and having him marry us in a church without a license. His point is to be married in the eyes of GOD, but not the state. Has anyone ever done this and as a Christian would that make living together right? We would feel married and we would have done it in Gods home.

Not sure what nurse betty thinks but we are a woman and a man, not homos as she called them.

Answer 1

Yes.

Answer 2

This can be a bit touchy for some. Depends on whether you want the truth or to hear what will make you feel better about living in sin. Not trying to be mean here.

Jesus said to pay back to Cesar what belongs to Cesar. This was for us to obey man's laws, so long as they don't interfere with God's laws.

Your wanting to get married but have no license does not go against God. Living in sin does though. If you rectify the wrong you've done, get married in the law of God and man's law, then you can have a clean conscience.

I understand having the wedding and all, what woman doesn't want that. My husband and I lived together before we got married. We decided to have the JP marry us. Our families were more relieved that we did what was right in God's eyes instead of having a big wedding. The point was to do it right. You can always have a big party when you can afford it. If we only waited to do things when the $ was there most of us wouldn't have been born.

Just do it. Having the license will also protect you and him from any relatives coming out of the woodwork if anything should happen to either one of you, such as a car accident, and legal dessions have to be made.

Answer 3

Titus 3:1 "Put them in mind to be subject to principalities and powers, to obey magistrates, to be ready to every good work"

Here is the deal. God does not honor verbal or emotional marraige without the committment of some form of government.

In other words, if you're in a 3rd world country, and the legal way for marriage is to throw rocks on each other's heads, then God honors that. It's according (as the scripture says) to obey the law of the land.

While on the flip side, there are untold Christian married couples who are married "by law", but emotionally divorced, which is pitiful and just as bad.

You cannot, scripturally, be married in the "eyes of God and not the state". God honors the "state" as the guide for marraige. Hope that helps.

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Answer 4

When Jesus said to give the Ceasar what is of Ceasar, and to give God what is of God, I do not think he was talking only of taxes. Pay the fees for the marriage license to the Ceasar (goverment).

Besides that, the authorities that are in goverment exists because God allowed them. You must obey them unless them order something that is against God. Then you must follow whatever the state requires to marry because marriage is inline with God's will.

Can the preacher marry you without the license? Are you proposing to have the preacher violate the law?

Answer 5

particularly it somewhat is much less difficult to be "legally" married with the aid of in basic terms claiming so it somewhat is termed basic regulation. The Church obeys the regulation of the land and desires "the paper." Church does not % any documentation because of the fact the bond declared in Church formerly God and those amassed may well be greater suitable than sufficient. interior the previous i'm particular there have been many that have been certain in basic terms as you defined because it replaced into demanding to get hitched on the frontier. yet, apparently sufficient each way of existence has some style of marriage ceremony.

Answer 6

Well, I am in this very situation. I want to marry, but if I do I will loose my insurance. If I loose my insurance, I am condemning myself to a wheelchair for the rest of my life. I don t believe my father in heaven would want that for one of His children, if it didn t have to be. The people that have been running this country lately cannot know the word, as far as I can tell. So how can I follow the law of the land, when the laws of the land change to suit those in power. This country has become Sodom and Gomorrah all over again.sorry...it s frustrating

Answer 7

I have to disagree with you. There is scripture that supports my answer. Open your bible to 1 Corinthians 7:9 and it reads But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. In reference to your finances I have to ask if you and your boyfriend are following the kingdom principles for increase it is written in Malachi 3:10 Bring ye all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in mine house, and prove me now herewith, saith the Lord of host, if I will not open you the windows of heaven and pour you out a blessing that there shall not be room enough to receive it. Malachi 3:8 reads Will a man rob God? Yet ye have robbed me. But ye say, Wherein have we roobed thee? In tithes and offerings. Ye are cursed with a curse: for ye have robbed me, even this whole nation. If you are not tithing you should try it it works. If you are tithing then both of you need to come in agreement in prayer for a financial break through and God will do it. Whatever you do get it right with God quickly. God's word is his will so you don't have to question how he feels about it just read his word and you will know his will, it is not his will that you live together unmarried. I pray that this helps you. Be Blessed!!

Answer 8

First off, what it marriage?

Secondly, there is nothing in Scripture that gives a minister the right to "perform" a marriage, and no "state" has the right to recognize a marriage or not.

Just because some legal and theological entities take to themselves such "rights" does not make it right.

If you are living together as husband and wife, then you are. You became "one flesh" when you began an intimate relationship.

If you want to please your family with a church wedding, then do so.

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Answer 9

If you live together, chances are the state considers you married under "common law" rules. For example, if you signed a lease together or even just call each other husband/wife, that may be enough to be common law married.

Answer 10

Jesus basically said to love god and screw the state. Don't worry about what the ungodly world and it's evil rulers think, do what is right in god's eyes. That's what David Koresh did.