ok, this guy says i am the one, but i don't feel he is the one, i am scared that i won't find him, what do i do
2007-08-01 04:00:32 · 20 answers · asked by angelleticangel2008 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't fall desperate. Don't take the first one who says he likes you.
It means you have to be patient and hold out longer. Especially if you're only 19 or 20 years old. Some people don't find "the one" until they're 30.
If you are in a hurry and take the first guy that looks your way, you are looking for nothing but a marriage from hell.
2007-08-01 04:04:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax, there is no "the one". There are "the many". For every person who desires a partner, there are MANY people in this world who would be great partners for them. If there were only one, the chances of ever meeting them, in this world of 6.6 billion people, would be astronomical.
Don't settle. You are not a good match for your current partner if you don't really dig him. He may really like you, but why shouldn't he be given the opportunity to meet someone who is as crazy about him as he is about them (and that's not the case with you).
Move on...there's nothing wrong with being single. Your life will be as fabulous as you make it whether you are in a relationship or not...but wouldn't you rather be open to meeting a more suitable and well matched partner that you're just head-over-heels about, rather than sticking with someone because "he'll do".
Would you want someone to just settle for you?
2007-08-01 11:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The worse thing that you can do is settle. It is human nature to sometimes feel like you will never find the right one. Trust me, I have been there before. But, to be honest with you if you let go and just believe that you will find the right one you will. You dont want to regret years down the road what if I just let him go, where would my life be right now and how my life would be different. Trust me, your a woman you will know when you find that special one. It will feel right and you will never have to question it.
Best Wishes
2007-08-01 11:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jaycee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that about marriage :-
Do not marry a person that you know that you can live with only marry someone that you cannot live without .
So you just have to waite and you will find the right person on the right time .
2007-08-01 11:09:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope that you are honest with this guy and let him know that the feeling of you two being "meant to be" is not mutual at the moment and if he still wants to be with you then maybe you could stick with him for a while you never know sometimes the very thing that we seek is right under our nose and we do not even see it until it is too late. honesty is always the best policy and communication is very necessary.
2007-08-01 11:07:29 · answer #5 · answered by Reyna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares? You dont LOOK for the one. The "one" is someone that just so happens to BECOME after you give them a chance.
You could be walking away from so many potentials that would make you blissfully happy because you are looking so hard for someone or that something. Let me tell you.
The minute you stop looking, it will come.
Relax. Enjoy who you're with. Dont mislead them... just date them, go with it, be happy, and when you relax your mind, the "one" will show up. it could be right under your nose when you dont even realize.
2007-08-01 11:13:46 · answer #6 · answered by Julie S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the trouth Im not verry good at this but all I have to say is that you make the choice to stay with him or keep looking hoping that you would find Mr. Right
2007-08-01 11:07:08 · answer #7 · answered by pyaso14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, NEVER, settle. How would you feel if the love of your life told you that he just settled for you because he wasn't sure the right one would ever come along?
You owe it to yourself and to the other person to let them go if they are not the one.
2007-08-01 11:03:49 · answer #8 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This whole "one" thing is utter crap. I don't know why people obsess over it - either you're compatible with someone or you're not. If you don't feel this relationship is right for you, then that's that - however he feels about you, if you're un happy in any way it isn't going to work out.
2007-08-01 11:04:15 · answer #9 · answered by Spazzcat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want to always ahve the feeling that you "missed out" then accept that he is the one for right now. It is not fair to him if you do stay. Never accept what feels wrong!
2007-08-01 11:06:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋