My ex & I broke up 3 months ago. It was a bad break up, he was a jerk and a hurt me by cheating and being verbally abusive. I really loved him, but knew it was best we part ways. I think about him often and miss him dearly. He has called and I've ignored his calls cause the conversations wouldn't be helpful. I did respond to one of his messages by sending him a text once. However, I sent him an email yesterday letting him know that I don't have any ill feelings towards him but that letting go was the best thing for me to do. I told him I hope that his life experiences enlighten him, and for him not to think I was making an attempt to get back his life by sending the email but just wanted to let him know how I felt.
He didn't respond, I wasn't looking for 1. But was it ok to do send him that? If so how do you think he took it? I was in conflict about doing it for a while but it just seemed right to me.
2007-08-01 03:46:56 · 14 answers · asked by jpg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he cheated, broke your heart, its over. you said your final thoughts and now move on. you were in the right to tell him that. sorry you are going through this, but it will get better. i promise. you deserve better than that.good luck.
2007-08-01 03:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by Jack 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him to fix your car ever again. You're a grown woman, fix your own car! Have your feelings and express them however you want. Get all of the anger you have for him out of your system. Go find a copy of the song "You Oughta Know" by Alanis Morissette and sing it at the top of your lungs until you feel better! After you do this, start to focus on moving on with your life. Spend time planning the life that is now in front of you. Resolve to live it exactly how you want to! Learn to forgive him or he'll have power over you forever. You won't be able to forget the pain he's put you through, but you'll learn to take that anger and pain and turn it into something positive in your life! Good luck :)
2016-05-19 23:11:02 · answer #2 · answered by neva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with it. You said your peace. Perhaps you just needed closure. The only problem is that every time you contact him you potentially open the door for him to contact you and to abuse you more. So the best thing you can do now is to never talk to him again, and actually move on with your life. The sooner you do that, the sooner you'll get over him and find a better man. Good luck!
2007-08-01 03:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's good that you sent an email if you felt like sending it. You were honest with him and there's something to be said for that. He probably felt stupid for calling you after he read your email so I wouldn't expect a response from him. you did the right thing because you went with your gut feeling on this. Good job and props for you for realizing that it wouldn't work and didn't work and you were just giving him some closure. Props to you for honesty!! :)
2007-08-01 03:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by Siren_Cin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not big on any communication with ex, but if you said you definitely didn't want him back...that may be a good thing....
Don't expect a response, that would be a greatest thing because he would have read and understood what you said....
Cheated and verbally abusive but you still loved him.....I don't understand that and hope I never do....but you are smart for leaving
2007-08-01 03:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by dick_ache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fine if it helps you on the road to closure and if it seemed right to you, it should help you in that regard. I wouldn't expect him to be "enlightened" all that much- anyone who has the capacity to verbally abuse and cheat on a loved one may be emotionally stunted, but at least he'll know how you feel.
2007-08-01 03:52:17 · answer #6 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were doing okay by not responding and your text message was just too much information. I believe he probably thinks you're still having issues over the breakup. In the future, don't be so technical and deep, Just get to the point and walk away.
2007-08-01 03:52:25 · answer #7 · answered by pradavee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok that you did that. You needed closure. I wouldn't send him anymore emails though and don't talk to him. Just move on and be happy. If he text or emails you, ignore it. He sounds like a jerk anyway. Good Luck :)
2007-08-01 04:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was OK to send, if you meant it and it wasn't a cry for attention from him, which I think was your intent, bc if it wasn't you wouldn't care about a response bc you said what you needed to say to him, and it didn't need a response, now hopefully the ex can accept and respect your decision and leave you alone.
2007-08-01 03:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by Im Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it was a bad idea to just try and forgive what was said before you too broke up. Just dont let me back in or it will just end the same
2007-08-01 03:51:25 · answer #10 · answered by ggiro861 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋