My BF and I live together and have been doing so for about 2 years. We fight and argue like EVERY couple in America. It's normal but is it worth giving up my youth and friends to stay in this realationship?
2007-08-01 03:18:10 · 18 answers · asked by yazmin21 3 in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
Yes it is too young and let me ask you some questions? Do both of you have a career going? Do you know what the both of you want? Yes, its normal to get married early and become a statistic of why marriages don't last an average of five years. I hope you don't become a statistic because you wasted both you and your love time and money in getting a divorce. Wish you the both if you do get married.
2007-08-01 03:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by The Chaotic Darkness 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You said, "We fight and argue like EVERY couple in America". So apparently you have decided to live your life according to the standards of society even when it causes you to have an unhealthy lifestyle. So sure, go ahead and get married. Then suffer a few years of abuse, have a couple of children, get divorced, go through a long and bitter custody battle, and then do the whole process again with a new husband. That is the American way.
By the way, millions of people have gotten married at your age or younger. The real question is not if you are too young, it is if you want to continue in an abusive relationship.
Also, the correct word for an abusive relationship is not "normal", it is "common". It is like when there is a flu epidemic. Having the flu is not normal, it is common.
2007-08-01 10:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will answer this question as if I were giving advice to subordinates ( The hats we wear :-), NO, provided you have your career and/or your education on track. Where do you want to be in 3 or 5 or 10 years. Yes, I realize that this looks like a long time it isn't. you are now 20, look around would you like to be in a trailer with 3 kids when you are 25? and divorced collecting not very much child support when you are 30. (remember support is based on the income of the former spouse, And I will assume that your B.F. isn't a young doctor or successful plumbing contractor) Get your education, have your own life and you will a soulmate.
2007-08-01 10:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by coolchevy4x4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use your head ,follow your heart and don't look back ! I married my wife when I was 26 and she was 19 and will celebrate our 25th anniversary next year , We did not have a pot to pi$$ in or a window to throw it out but our love and our faith held us through our times of need and we are now reaping the benefits !
We have raised our kids and now that we are still fairly young we can celebrate our love for each other and go where we want
I think marriage and kids at a young age are great but you should answer your own questions with truthful answers and the result will be want YOU want , good friends will always be there for you whether you are wed or not !
Good luck !
2007-08-01 10:34:58 · answer #4 · answered by Ratchet1957 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are ready to get married after high school and some aren't ready to get married until their mid thirties. And marriage does not mean giving up your youth and friends - you should see it as something that adds to your life, not takes away from it. You have already lived with him for 2 years so I think you are probably ready.
2007-08-01 10:23:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I am in the same situation your in. same age also. Me and my boyfriend have been engaged for about 4 months. We fight everyday and he wont let me go anywhere or hangout/talk to anyone and has to be with me 24/7. I dont know how its going to work but if hes anything like that and your in a spot to where you can get out or slow it down a little bit do it! Im not exactly happy and clueless on what to do now.
2007-08-01 10:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by lulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all maybe wait a year my sister is twenty one and she wants to finish college. shes been with him for like 2 and a half years ( 3 in january) he just proposed and now shes planning onit to be in "09.Maybe finish college or if you have enough credits graduate in winter (if your school does that) Guess what? your not gonna loose your friends. as long as there isn't a bun in the oven wait a year to be engaed plan and tell everyone. How old is he. My sisters fiance is 3 years older so shes trying to do this asap! good luck ****** zuzu
2007-08-01 10:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by Baby Boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well . . . you're still young. It's not too young to be thinking about marriage, but it's too young to actually get married. You should stay in the relationship for a few more years to see how well you two get along. Good luck!
2007-08-01 10:28:52 · answer #8 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i wouldnt say that getting married at 20 is giving up your friends. if hes making you give up your friends then you dont need him. i got married at 20 and i still have my youth. if i want to go out with the girls i just tell my hubby "hey im going out with the girls, ill be home around 2, and if not ill call you and let you know" hes fine with that and im fine with him going out with the boys. we also go out together alot of times. but just because you get married doesnt mean that youre giving up your youth. but if you mean like dating around with other guys then dont get married. if you have any doubt about it, dont do it.
2007-08-01 10:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by blucent23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not too young if you are prepared, ready, and in love.. You will need to have a plan of how you will be supported (ie a job), a plan of where you will live (ie housing) and if these are in place, and you are ready for it....I say "Congratulations!"
2007-08-01 10:22:03 · answer #10 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋