Can anybody tell me,what should the child's age ideally be during adoption?

Answer 1

I don't think age matters. It is the stable, loving and secure home-life and a legal surname that matters.

Answer 2

I like. Dawacky L's answer.
I remember things when i was one or two. Adoption got started for me when i was 5. All done wrong.....tons of lies.
Only an abusive father was the reason i wanted to go into a 'home' where he would not hurt me anymore. (long story). As i have worked with children for many many years, there should be no age limit but there is. There is a choice of age because of certain reasons in people's lives. Maybe this person needs to think about adoption very carefully before they take the steps in doing so.
Maybe they should do a certain age child for foster care first.
This way, they will learn about themselves of what they can handle to give a child the proper care. Do foster care first, then adopt...........best of luck

Answer 3

It depends on you & your family.

When the girls joined our family, our biological sons were 13 & 15. The girls were 7 & 10.

I think ideally, the adopted children should be younger than any other children living in the home. They should at least be younger than the oldest already living in the home...and if it's a sibling group, the youngest of them should be younger than the youngest currently living in the home (example of my convoluted sentence...currently living in the home might be children age 16, 10, & 7...this family might adopt a sibling group of kids age 13 & 5).

I think it's good for the oldest to stay the oldest & ideal for the youngest to not stay the youngest.

One thing we didn't even consider, though, that seems so common sense now...adoption by its very nature disrupts the birth order of someone. In our situation, we didn't disrupt the birth order of our biological kids, but our oldest adopted daughter was no longer the oldest & this took some adjustment for her!

My advice to you is to consider any children currently living in the home. Also take into account what you can truly handle. Most of our foster kids have been teens & that has worked beautifully for us...we had a 3 year old that ran us ragged (we love her & loved having her, but we were wiped by the time she left). In our family, we'd do better with older kids. In a friend's family (she has two boys 5 & 9), they'd opt for younger kids -- younger than their youngest.

Take into account your energy level, your mindset (since our kids are older, we find it easier to deal with older kids), your place in life (how much ruckus you can handle, etc) and make a decision that will work for you. If it won't work for you, it won't be an ideal situation for the new child(ren).

Read as much as you can on adoption & adopting kids at different ages. Go to http://www.tapestrybooks.com to get a bead on a reading list. See what you can borrow from the library & begin your journey!

Answer 4

Everyone looks for the young child, the children above the age of 5 are the ones that might not ever get a family. If you are looking to adopt, do life a favor and take an older child and give them a chance for a real life. Good luck, good bless.

Answer 5

What, now we want to parent only children who do not have a memory?? This is what many posters are saying. That is cold.

ALL children deserve and need a permanent family who love and cherish them. There is no "ideal age". It is the age the parents feel qualified to parent that most matters. People should make informed decisions, and learn everything they can about every age they are considering. There are many forums and adoptive groups who can give first hand information on their experiences. Parents should do their homework by researching the various issues for each age group. Each age has its immense benefits, and draw backs. We simply cannot look at children only in one way.

Answer 6

Younger than 18.

Ideal for whom? For the parent? Or for the kid? Consider the difference feeling wanted and loved would make to a troubled 16-year-old ward of the state who never gets hugs or hears "I love you."

Any aged child who needs a home is at the ideal age for adoption.

Answer 7

I think it depends on what you feel you could handle. Ideally? There is no answer. Most people adopt infants because it is easiest for the infants to go through the adoption process, and they are less likely to have an attachment problem. It can be harder to adopt older children, because they may have attachment problems. Also, fewer people adopt older children. You can still find a wonderful child that is, say, 5, but it may take them a long time to fully trust you.
Hope this helps. :)

Answer 8

IMO adoption is a failure. there is no right age...
but given the tendency's that are out now after they can talk right then they seem not to be able to place the child in a family so before then would be the best place to start i think..
the reason i say that the adoption is a failure is it has higher rates of child abuse then normal very much higher and there is no on going checking after the adoption orders are singed this is something that i think needs to be fixed

Answer 9

to the two clowns that answered this question first. that is straight crap. it's not about remembering it's about having this feeling your not with the right people. the day after i was adopted(adopted 2 hours old) I had stomach problems and to this day when i get stressed out i still have stomach problems. I get muscle spasms in my stomach that feel like i'm having a heart attack. research is crap because they never actually talk to the kids they just base it of of every normal child and say in general none of them can remember anything or feel anything. that's why alot of us adopted kids have alot of problems cause once we reach a certain age. they forget about us and that's usually when we need the theropy the most. if you want to adopt a kid then do it if you don't want to adopt a kid then don't but don't try to pick a kid based on weather or not your ride is gonna be easier or harder because all of us have problems at some point or another.

Answer 10

Early age of the child will be ideal.Early age means less than one year.Both of you will enjoy much with a little boy/girl at this age.Your bondage will be better.Looking after a baby of age 5 months or so is very easy and you will enjoy the time with the little one.There are some vaccines for immunisation at early age only.So if you adopt an older baby you cannot immunise him/her properly.Babies dont have memories but You should tell him/her when he grows up how you looked after him/her.
Best of luck

Answer 11

You shouldnt judge the eligibility of adoption by a child's age. They all deserve a fair chance. Babies however won't give you any problems until they get older and understand that they were adopted. Children that are older will give you more problems in the beginning cause they will want their parents, but they will come to love you over time, and your less likely to have problems out of them as teens. Older children that are already in their teens will be unruly and probably not calm and warm up to you until they are grown. So either way you will have problems. But don't let that affect your decision. You should meet with them and if you get a good feeling you should go for it.