Ive known him for 2-3 years, and he's like my best mate ever, we've dated on and off about 3 or 4 times. I know he has a crush on me again, because he told me. I'm not single and he gets depressed because i dont feel the same way about him etc.., i just feel like he's obsessed with me sometimes. He's still one of my best mates, and keeps wanting to meet up with me, but i just want him to move on, its so akward between us and I just feel like im avoiding him. What can i say to him to help him move on? I still want us to be good mates, should i avoid him and keep my distance fo a while? help please xxx
2007-07-31 23:33:37 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
whatever you do, he'll move on, be sure! Just be consistent in what you do and say and be regular to give him the signals you don't want him as a boyfriend. And never give him even a slight reason to think there could happen something between you, otherwise you'll be cheating on him.
I would say the problem might've been in your behavior so far. If you keep him close and let him think you feel flattered when he chases you, then it will stimulate him to go on with this. If you really dont want him as a boyfriend, and you really wish him all the best as you say, then cut him off in a polite and friendly way for some time.
And don't be sorry if he finds some girl else. And dont try to be close to him again - it will bring him past feelings. Let him fly. What is more important - this boy to find a mate and be happy or you to have him as a friend and wooer. Make your mind.
2007-07-31 23:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know he has feelings for you there is no way you and him can be good mates. He sees you in a totally different level and he might mistake your good friendship for something else. Sad to say but you might just have to avoid him for him to take the hint or just tell him that you love him as a friend and see him as a brother but nothing more.
2007-08-01 06:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by MZ. Latina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you are with someone, and not in a position to return his feelings. Tell him that it would be best for you not to meet up because it would hurt your partner. If he can't understand that, then he is really not your good friend anyway!!!!
2007-08-01 06:37:41 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to draw the line really clear between you 2. as much as you want to have a plutonic relationship, i think you have to face up to the fact that he can't do that.
2007-08-01 07:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋