If your diagnosis said without question and even with available treatment, 3 years was optimistic, should you still even look for someone? I mean, of course you would tell any potential significant other the situation, but isn't that just setting them up for pain?Yeah, yeah, it's their choice, but still they are going to be hurt if you are together when you leave this world.Of course the support would be nice, but that's pretty selfish,right?
2007-07-31 23:32:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, and also say you didn't have much in the way of family (like a dog and that's it).
Also, would you cash in your portfolio and savings (about 700k) and travel and just enjoy? Why save for retirement, right? This is all hypothetical of course.
2007-07-31 23:38:14 · update #1
Also hypothetically, say you were only 30 so you could still be physically active and surf in Fiji or snowboard the Alps. Why keep working?
2007-07-31 23:42:06 · update #2
Of course you would still see people, but don't short term relationships run the risk of you falling hard for someone? Or they you? That's not something you can really decide.
2007-07-31 23:48:58 · update #3
hell yeah. why not enjoy every day of your life to the max.
i would be honest to the person im dating though - so i dont set them up for heartache when they do find out.
you wouldnt want to get into serious relationships, but you would fedinately date - no strings attached.
2007-07-31 23:35:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Herb,
I'm sure everyone has a different take on all this. But yes by all means date. But be up front and tell the person the truth up front and let them decide if they can handle it emotionally.
Whether we are sick or healthy we need to connect with other people on some level. I have dated very ill men and I am a better person for it. I found it easier to really connect and talk honestly about love , life, and the meaning of why we are all here. We had a lot of fun and did things we probably would not do on a daily basis. I was happy to be there when it was time for them to leave us. I never felt hurt and betrayed. I was sad , but we some wonderful memories, and I know it was better than sitting around waiting for death to knock on the door.
Enjoy all you can, for as long as you can. Experience everything you always wanted to . That is good advice for even healthy people, we always think there will be time.
Live, Love and dance like no ones watching.
Peace and love to you
Ladyhawk8141
2007-08-01 07:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by ladyhawk8141 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's sound pretty selfish, but what can we do ?? if we just wait and wait without support from people who loves us we would'nt survive long enough, not even 3 years ,maybe less, with love and support and the love from people who love you, it would encourage you, maybe a miracle will happen, if they really love you, they wouldn't think you as a selfish person if you're dying rite??pain is part of life anyway.
2007-08-01 06:40:08 · answer #3 · answered by lily 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not selfish at all and yes i would date, a lot can happen in one night let alone the probability of three years! it would only be right to date! if you can make a difference in someone's life for a day, great...if you can make that difference last for three years, even better. maybe that person was lonely and never loved before and this would be the rock to build a foundation for them to realize they are worth loving :)
2007-08-01 06:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, but if u get on u should be honest and let know how it stands, they might choose to be a close friend and you might both benefit from that. or they may choose to love and lose, yeah they will hurt, but sometimes it is these things that shape us. i don't think that deliberately not seeking a partner will stop it from happening, sometimes it comes unexpectantly. and maybe that is what they are meant to achieve in this life. everything has a purpose. even the bad things, we learn from them, what we learn is sometimes our choice.
2007-08-01 06:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by ari 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I'd date but never let it get serious, have a few short relationships like. But I wouldn't get into anything long term
2007-08-01 06:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself would not date! Like you said I wouldn't want to put anyone through the pain! I think I would focus on getting my life together before I die. We never know what tomorrow will bring!
2007-08-01 06:39:31 · answer #7 · answered by B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I fell in love with someone with Cancer... and later found out..
I'd still love him, and I'd probably get with him.
I can't say that I would know what its like, to love someone, I'm still young, but.. Seriously.. if I was greatly inlove with someone, when they we're diginosed with Cancer, I wouldn't leave. Not one part of me, would want to. I say, yes. Date, live your life to the fullest of its abilities. =]. Just make sure the partner knows.
2007-08-01 06:36:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd make the most of the time i have left!!! date some1 so u have a support structure, travel the world, spend time with family etc etc all the things that matter most.
2007-08-01 07:13:49 · answer #9 · answered by babybear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes! I'd be partying all day and night, looking for chicks every other hour right until I die. Cancer isn't going to make my life pathetic.
2007-08-01 06:35:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋