OMG!!! WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?
2007-07-31 21:52:46 · 29 answers · asked by idk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ur a bad friend so chances are u will be a bad mom!
2007-07-31 22:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by Pretti iiN Piink 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all I am going to say that God has not punished you with a baby. Babies are gifts. Everything happens for a reason. God would not have allowed this baby to be created if he didn't want it to be. Now, you can get an abortion. The choice is yours just make sure you don't let anyone pressure you into making a decision that isn't yours. When I was 16 I got pregnant by my b/f of two years and my mom made me get an abortion. At the time I did not realize I had a choice. It did her no good, my b/f and I had two kids later down the road and got married. I am not saying you should do what I did though. Our marriage did not last because we were so young and he wanted to play the field. Anyway, what you did to your b/f was wrong but you guys are young and though she may not forgive you now when you are 29 like me both of you should realize that you were both very young and immature. I recently started talking to a girl that I was b/f's with when I was young. She slept with the manI told you about while I was pregnant by him. For a long time I wanted to wrap my hands around her throat. Today, she's on my Myspace. I don't care about the past. We all make mistakes, especially when we are young. You should be honest with your friend. Apologize to her and ask for forgiveness from her but don't pressure her. Give her space afterwards and wait for her to contact you. Tell the boy and his parents about the baby. It can go one of two ways. He'll step up or he won't but the parents are extra security. I know if it were my son I would make him step up. Then again, the parents may not want to believe you. It's a chance you will have to take. Of course you only go this route if you decide to keep the baby. If you decide not to then I wouldn't even involve the boy or his family. Just involve your own family. You don't have to tell your b/f of the baby but you do needto tell her of the deception otherwise you will go through life feeling guilty. I hope in some small way I was able to help you. Take care.
2007-08-01 05:19:51 · answer #2 · answered by Jules 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have made a LIFE altering mistake. One from which you may never be the same person you were before the desperate betrayal. I think I agree that telling/apologizing to all the parties affected by this act and the repercussions soon to follow, is the hardest but best thing for you to do for YOU. If you are truly sorry and have an explanation for your lack of scruples, you can seek forgiveness from all the people who you hurt and all the dreams you have destroyed.
At least 3 families worth of people will suffer the consequences of a girl with a broken heart and jaded with betrayal, a boy marked as a cheat with a child support case pending and a girl who may never trust or respect herself or men in general.
A lot of praying couldn't hurt, the support and forgiveness that only the Lord can provide will guide you on a more conscious
path and bring you some peace.
I wish you the best of luck and the strength and honesty to hold your head up and deal with it.
2007-08-01 05:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by angela r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down, maybe that's not right so just go to doctor for making sure you're pregnant or not. If you're really pregnant, you have to tell your parents first and talk to your parents about this problem and asking them for helping you make a good decision. Also tell him because he's worth of knowing this problem. But remember the baby doesn't do any wrong. And get prepared to take all the consequences of your action.
2007-08-01 05:06:28 · answer #4 · answered by g1rL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all what possessed u to do that to your "best friend". that is the most horriblest thing u could have done..
if u value your best friend at all, u will tell her the truth and let her know what a scumbag shes going out with. but maybe tell the guy first so he knows hes going to be a dad.
ur friend will, rightly enough, be annoyed with u and upset, but she has every right to be.. she probably trhought her life was perfect, great boyf and great best friend, and ur going to take all of that away from her.. so just be patient and give her space after u tell her...
i know u dont want to hear that u are the worst best friend, selfish etc but u are going to hear t5hat when it comes out so just make sure ur prepared for it.
i have every sympathy for u cos i wouldn like to be in ur situation right now, but i think u know u've made a horrible mistake and will potentially lose ur friend but right now u have to concentrate on u and ur baby... i hope u will be ok.
2007-08-01 05:05:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made your bed lie in it.
You weren't much of a best friend anyway
Tell your 'best friend' then hopefully she has the guts to kick you out of her life and the scumbag she called a boyfriend.
Asleast you will live knowing you told her the truth the same time as showing her what a ho and disloyal person you are.
And if you think he is gonna settle down with you and play happy family, just remember he cheated on her with her 'best friend' so being faithful ain't high on his list ......... mind you, you are both well suited
2007-08-01 05:02:02 · answer #6 · answered by angelrose0105 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first priority is the child, you have three options as i see it abortion, adoption or keeping the child. I don't know what situation you are in so i can't tell you the best option. As to your friend you owe it to her to tell her the truth if not for you then for her as she should know what her boyfriend did.
I can't say what you did was right but make him take responsibility for what he did he is equally if not more to blame since he was already in a relationship. Don't listen to people calling you a whore or whatever these things happen and if they are not careful it could happen to them karma's a ***** like that
Talk it over with someone who you can trust a guidance councillor and don't pay attention to people who you insult on the web is easy for them to be brave hiding behind an avatar.
2007-08-01 05:08:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all stop panicing....... Its not a sin and if it really is then you alone do not have to take the whole blame on yourself.
Calm down think properly what can be done...... but before that ask yourself what you want? are you ready for that child or something else....then search out for the possibilities.... talk to the guy and ask his opinion...... I hope everything will be fine.... all the best
2007-08-01 05:04:18 · answer #8 · answered by vicky007 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hony, why did you have SEX with you BEST FRIENDs BOYFRIEND?
She is your BEST FRIEND.
how could you do something that horrible?
anyway, get an abortion, tell your parents(I know it'll suck, but don't stress, cause it's life) and NEVER have sex with your best friend boyfriend EVER again. Now, you'll probably loose your best friend if you tell her, but if you don't you're gonna feel guilty ALL YOUR LIFE. Just tell her, she'll go mad,but don't worry, and never see that guy again unless you want
trouble. Why did you have UNPROTECTED SEX? Always use a CONDOM.. sweetie,you must know this is wrong and your life is gonna be CHANGED FOREVER. I hope you know what you're doing, and use common sense.. goodluck =)
2007-08-01 05:07:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are very wrong. You best friend's boyfriend is just playing with both of you. How on earth will a friend do such to her best friend? You are now pregnant wait for the baby and give play your responsibility. If this guy accepts this mistake and wishes to marry you then go ahead. He doesn't love your friend he seems to love you.
2007-08-01 05:00:14 · answer #10 · answered by dviakal78 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
welll first off if u truley dont want a baby then get the MAP still active for up 2 72hours after first sex if its past that have an abortion.
if u truley dont want either have the child loose the freind and maybe boyfreind and be an single mum
2007-08-01 04:56:11 · answer #11 · answered by GG 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋