yesterday i showed my mother one of my backups for colleges. she said that she liked it better than the one i REALLY want to go to. she told me that it was her decision because she was paying for it so i was going to the backup school. i think it is my decision which college i go to seeing as that decision affects MY life not hers. it is MY education and MY future. she has nothing to do with it. i told her that and she ranted that she is the elder and i am the minor and she knows more than i do so she wins. i said that is not true. we got in this huge arguement and then she tried to tell me that i wasnt going to college that she wouldnt let me. WTF?!?! which college i go to is MY decision right??
2007-07-31 21:46:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it is your decision, but if your parents are paying, they should probably have some say. it is different here in the uk, or at least it was when I went to uni, as it was free(ish)
anyway, explain your reasons why you want to go to the college you want to go to and why it is the better choice for you and your future
hope it goes well for you
2007-07-31 21:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by sarah_roo03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely your decision in the end.
I'm a parent now, and I've suddenly realised that I DO know things my children can't know because they aren't experienced enough. If my mom told me that when I was a kid I would have rolled my eyes and thought "whatever". But it's true. I've made mistakes, learned things, experienced things and I do know more than my kids - about some things.
So, find out your mom's reasons. If you really listen to her and tell her you understand what she's saying but you still want to go to the other college - well at least you've considered her point of view and not just said "no way".
2007-07-31 21:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by Janey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be your decision, but it should be discussed with your parents. Did she say why she liked the other college better? There may be a good reason for what she said. Why not look into that school, and see if it is a good possibility.
In the meantime, just let her cool off for a few days. She may calm down and change her mind. If not, talk to your father about it.
2007-07-31 21:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are to HONOR our Mothers and Fathers!
Are you?
Maybe you don't know as much as you think you do. The hand with the CASH rules!!!
If I was paying and I absolutely didn't want my daughter to go to a certain college...I would tell her to put her name on the dotted line.
So, since you want it your way...take my advice...sign on the dotted line.
If not...stop ranting and raving and be appreciative that you are even going. Think about how many kids want to go and can't.
2007-07-31 22:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by s7lmb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it is your decision what college you want to go to if you are the one that is going to pay for it. Beggars cant be choosers.
2007-07-31 23:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by MZ. Latina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its HER money! get over it! or find your own way to pay
2007-07-31 22:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by blondebaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋