i don't know what to do...
I am 30 yrs old and in a 5.5 year living together relationship, we have our problems but we work them out, anyway I want to have kids and we have talked about this over the years and have agreed, ok this year we will have kids but it never happens, there is always a reason why the kids thing cant happen that year. My point is, i'm over it and I'm pretty sure I want to leave and go out on my own, but I feel scared cause that would mean I would be starting all over again, but if I stay i know I will be wasting another year with this person. He says he wants marraige & kids but nearly 6 years later, I'm over it. Has anyone else been in the same situation and left the relationship?
2007-07-31 21:29:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have talked to him & we are currently broken up, i told him I need time to work out what i want to do, he has basicly begged me to stay, but I dont know if anything will change, ive heaard it all before.
2007-07-31 21:36:33 · update #1
Yes, I had a 12 year relationship and had to leave. Don't let him waste any more of your young years. If he has not made up his mind in 5 1/2 yrs., he will never make up his mind. Evidently, he is just happy not going any further. Move on and find a man that will want to make a commitment.
By the way, it was not that hard to start over.
2007-07-31 21:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a situation like that. She wanted more kids and I didn't becasue I fell out of love. We eventually divorced and I got custody of my Son whom now has graduated from College. So I am all alone now. It feels weird being alone. My son is going to join the Airforce and when he leaves I'm really going to feel the pinch.
I'm 48 years old, divorced and not sure where to go in life. Start another family? She would have to be a very good lady for me to do that. I'm 100%Service Connected from VA and I enjoy my freedom, but It does get lonely where I have been considering a family all over again, but with whom is thequestion.
Good Luck
Al
2007-08-01 04:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi- I'm sure it's a painful realization that he's had ample time to decide to take the plunge but he keeps backpedaling.. you've been patient but your biological clock won't tick on forever. After 5 yrs, it's time to cut your losses with this noncommital guy. You deserve someone that is crazy about you enough to want marriage & starting a family together. At your age there's still guys out there that have the same goals as you. My advice is stay strong and look for love elsewhere. Best of luck ~
2007-08-03 01:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by milk dudz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel about it. Maybe he doesn't feel ready for all the responsibilities that will come if he gets married and starts a family. His heart may not be in the same place as yours is. I agree that you might be wasting your time with him, especially after 6 years. It might be hard at first, but there are other fish in the sea. I'm sure you can find someone who is mature enough to handle the responsibilities and keep his word after he has agreed to it.
2007-08-01 04:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have decided to leave him, just take the consequences of your decision. Don't worry, maybe he's not the one for you. If he's the one for you, at last you'll be together. Time and world always go on no matter what happen in your life,use your time wisely. Just move on and open new life. Love yourself. Do whatever you want to do. Have fun. Join new club,for example gym to meet a lot of new friends, maybe you can meet the one there besides that can making you healthy^^ Today is a present, so enjoy it and feel thankful about it. Tomorrow is a mystery, just dream for your future^^
2007-08-01 04:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by g1rL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not leave him if you love him. Important now you are with him. Dont worry about other thing. It can happen any time. If you leave him you will regret the whole life. But be smart and try to talk with him about that again and again especially talk to him whenever he feel good.give him the right reason.Wish you good luck.
2007-08-01 04:35:13 · answer #6 · answered by Sinatha 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well I've not been in this type of situation...but if after 5.5 years he still wants to wait....you may just have to ask what is keeping him....I also find it ironic that your nick is happy when this situation makes you unhappy...I understand the feeling scared to start a new because I have that issue too
2007-08-01 04:33:41 · answer #7 · answered by TPete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say talk 2 him
u hav 2 marry now or ur out!
thats it no more
starting all over is nvr bad as long as u start it out right
2007-08-01 04:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by Chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should find another one. you will waste your time.
2007-08-01 04:36:18 · answer #9 · answered by miraclebeliever99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋