what do muslim girls look for in a muslim boy?

Question

are there still muslim girls who don't indulge in premarital sex? are muslim girls in canada or the uk still virgins when they get married... i am seriously having my doubts... and what do they look for in a man... i was writing a research paper and found out that 78% of all muslim gils between 18 and 23 prefer looks as the most important feature. thats shocking and very sad.

Answer 1

i noticed the same during my stay in england... they are messed up in the head

Answer 2

I am indeed sad to hear about your findings if they are true. Yes, Muslims are being influenced a lot by the so called Western freedom. You speak for the Western Muslims, I would say that even in many muslim countries things are not very rosy.

I would go one step forward and include Muslim boys in this as well. They are equally bad when it comes to choosing partners. Both girls and boys look for beauty (that is not SO bad) and wealth (which is worse) above everything else. Going after looks slone shows some level of immaturity but going after money shows greed. As we all know Islam places piety before anything else in these matters. However, if you have an option among pious proposals then of course you would choose the richer or the prettier, thats only but natural. But yes, I have seen some families going after money so much that they even disregard how the money has been earned. HOwever, this is also true that it is always encouraged to find your mathch from people similar to you (in status, looks, money). This makes things lot easier and facilitates adjustment for both the spouses. May Allah guide us all to the straight path.

Answer 3

ur findings are truly sad, but i'd like to tell u that i know a lot of muslim girls who aren't so materialistic..Your research results are generalizing beyond reality. You are talking about half a billion girls of different nations and cultures. Im sure if you take the test on other religios groups you'd find the same. a real muslim wud always look for faith in their spouse, because a person who is truly pious would never do something to hurt their significant other. and i'd like to note that there are many non-practicing muslims, especially in the west. and about the premarital sex thing, im sure that might be true in the western countries, but believe me in the middle east its not like that, even christians dont indulge in premarial sex over there.
As a muslim girl, i think religion comes first, then personality, then his financial status (is he able to make a living), and finally looks and social status, etc...

Answer 4

Wow, that really sounds shocking. Im from the UK and to be honest i really cant speak for others,but i hope they would not go that far. the problem here is some are so eager to say they are a muslim but their actions contradicts themselves.

Anyway i just wanna know why people look for wealth when they want to get married?

Answer 5

First of all the most important muslim girl/woman will look for in muslim boy/man is his devotion or faith to Allah whether he is strong/good or not
2)what is his last education and whether he is attractive or not
3)whether he is employed or unemployed
4)who are his father,mother and grandfather whether they have good position in the society or not
5)what is his behaviour whether he is polite,honest,respect other,ready to help other,high responsibility,no drugs,no gambling etc
I convince that a good muslim girl will not involve in premarital sex,because virginity in Islam is sacred and adultery/fornica
tion is strictly prohibited.(will have great sin).Is your research valid?If it is true I think they have been tempted by satans because they have a weak faith.It is caused by their weak parents' control and education and also they live in a bad environment which treated freesex as normal situation.

Answer 6

lady, i'm caught I an identical spot. I even have brothers how is 15,sixteen and 18 and does an identical issues as your difficulty does(as properly the porn element) yet nevertheless i'm getting yelled at. (i'm 14 and likewise a muslim) .the ultimate answer is :every time you know your mum and dad are going to grant your a lecture, interrupt them. have faith me it somewhat is the only soliton. as quickly as my mom going to grant my a lecture with regard to the adult males I dangle out with and the form of cloth I placed on around them. the only element I did replaced into I interrupted her. It not the ultimate way in spite of the indisputable fact that it's the only way. ???

Answer 7

3. Six criteria for Hijaab. According to Qur’an and Sunnah there are basically six criteria for observing hijaab:
Extent: The first criterion is the extent of the body that should be covered. This is different for men and women. The extent of covering obligatory on the male is to cover the body at least from the navel to the knees. For women, the extent of covering obligatory is to cover the complete body except the face and the hands upto the wrist. If they wish to, they can cover even these parts of the body. Some scholars of Islam insist that the face and the hands are part of the obligatory extent of ‘hijaab’.
All the remaining five criteria are the same for men and women.
The clothes worn should be loose and should not reveal the figure.
The clothes worn should not be transparent such that one can see through them.
The clothes worn should not be so glamorous as to attract the opposite sex.
The clothes worn should not resemble that of the opposite sex.
The clothes worn should not resemble that of the unbelievers i.e. they should not wear clothes that are specifically identities or symbols of the unbelievers’ religions.
4. Hijaab includes conduct and behaviour among other things
Complete ‘hijaab’, besides the six criteria of clothing, also includes the moral conduct, behaviour, attitude and intention of the individual. A person only fulfilling the criteria of ‘hijaab’ of the clothes is observing ‘hijaab’ in a limited sense. ‘Hijaab’ of the clothes should be accompanied by ‘hijaab’ of the eyes, ‘hijaab’ of the heart, ‘hijaab’ of thought and ‘hijaab’ of intention. It also includes the way a person walks, the way a person talks, the way he behaves, etc.
5. Hijaab prevents molestation. The reason why Hijaab is prescribed for women is mentioned in the Qur’an in the following verses of Surah Al-Ahzab:
"O Prophet! Tell thy wives and daughters, and the believing women that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when abroad); that is most convenient, that they should be known (as such) and not molested. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful." [Al-Qur’an 33:59]
The Qur’an says that Hijaab has been prescribed for the women so that they are recognized as modest women and this will also prevent them from being molested.
6. Example of twin sisters. Suppose two sisters who are twins, and who are equally beautiful, walk down the street. One of them is attired in the Islamic hijaab i.e. the complete body is covered, except for the face and the hands up to the wrists. The other sister is wearing western clothes, a mini skirt or shorts. Just around the corner there is a hooligan or ruffian who is waiting for a catch, to tease a girl. Whom will he tease? The girl wearing the Islamic Hijaab or the girl wearing the skirt or the mini? Naturally he will tease the girl wearing the skirt or the mini. Such dresses are an indirect invitation to the opposite sex for teasing and molestation. The Qur’an rightly says that hijaab prevents women from being molested.

Answer 8

Well I can't speak for all Muslim women but I personally I look for iman, taqwa, manners and respect.

Answer 9

i taught at a school high in moslem population and all the girls swore wore hajab and talked insecently about their seual conquest some as young as 11-12
all the women i knew at uni that were moslem also had boyfriends and indulged in sex
i found it bizarre that they wore the hajab to gain respect almost veiling their true actions

Answer 10

yes it is sad
but i beleive most of them still look for how his fath is and all
personally i would see a guy in his faith then hw he looks like

and yes there is alot of muslim girls who dont indulge in perimartial sex in uk
i

Answer 11

I agree that your findings are sad. It would appear that a guys status, wealth and looks have taken presidence over his Iman (Faith). May Allah protect us from this fitnah. I'm so happy to have my fiance... she is awesome and loves me for my faith and intelligence as much as anything else. Allahu Akbar!!!