Ladies please advise what to do with this girl.?

Question

She's about twenties (more than 16 years younger than me) still a virgin and her parents seems a bit strict, we got together sometimes and do all sort of things except penetration, lately she wants me to de-virginized her I explained that she should reserved it for her future husband but recently she asked again when will I do it but I was thinking that she might regret it when she finally found someone right for her.

If I asked a guy he will tell me to go for it so now I asked for ladies' opinions.

she's about twenty years old, not twenties, my error.

thanks everyone for your answers, I wait and see what will be the majority vote.

Answer 1

its really sweet that your thinking about her best intrests instead of taking this opertunity for granted but i think if shes really wanting to do this you need to ask her where you and her stand first because you may not know it but she may think your the guy.

Answer 2

She's about twenty, but most adults will agree that 20 year olds still are still learning and don't know a lot. Now, if shes 20 I'm guess you are about 36. You know that you should not be having sexual relations with her, much less intercourse. I'm not trying to bash you or anything because I salute you for not having done it yet. However, no one values virginity anymore. I salute her especially for being a virgin at 20. It isn't easy. You should be encouraging her to keep herself for her husband.

I also why you would prefer to be with someone 16 years younger than you. I am 24 and idea of being with someone 40 seems almost like a joke.

I will also say this: (from first-hand experience)

Young women are turned on my older men...A substantially older man such as yourself. When i was a teenager and I know lots of girls my age that would easily go for someone that is 10, 12, 15, 20 years their senior. But it goes without say that these relationships are always sexual. And its not good or safe. Young girls tend to think that older men are stronger and can tell that they are more mature. Older men have cars, houses, money, freedom, etc, the things that younger people want. We know that you are experienced in many ways and all of this can attract us to you, but that doesn't mean its healthy. Eventually both people have to realize that the age difference is too great and that you must separate. It will be hard, but the sooner the better.

I hope you don't do it. How would you feel about it if it were your daughter?

Answer 3

Maybe it will shock you, but she is the one who decides how far you both can go in this relation and times have changed since you were 20 years old...
She is not a teenager anymore, she is a woman.
Maybe you still think, that girls should not ask for sex openly, but honestly, times have changed.
She wants to make love with you, because you make her feel good. I don’t understand that fuzz you all make about it. Sex is absolutely natural and it seems just ridiculous to ignore one of the most essential feelings and needs in a persons life.
Reserve herself for her future husband? But, if she doesn’t want to reserve herself for anybody and prefers to live the heat of the moment? What, if she gives a damn about all this pressure women and girls are suffering from day by day?
If you won’t give her what she wants, she will resign soon and find somebody else who will not think twice to give her what she asks for.
What happens to you? You should feel happy, because this woman seems to like you very much and wants you to be her first real lover in her life.
Don’t push her away because of stupid ideas of morality, as you will make her unhappy and force her to find another guy, probably one she doesn’t even have feelings for, to get make her dreams come true.
Wouldn’t it be so much better to do it with somebody you can trust and somebody you like a lot?
Not everybody sticks to the traditional role men submitted women, some women wish to decide by themselves over their mind and body and like to live their life the way they prefer.
Just make sure, that it has to be safer sex always.
That’s my opinion.

Answer 4

Since this question is only asked to the ladies I am not giving you a direst answer. But indirectly let me tell you that if she wants you to have sex with her go ahead. Since she is 20 she knows what she is doing. It seems she wants to have sex And since she wants only you to de-virgin her she is permitting you. May be she loves you and feels that you are her future husband.
Go ahead. If both of you love each other . MAybe if you dont do it to her she may be inclined to approach someone else to fullfill her desire.
According to you it may seem wrong but if you really care and love her fulfil her desire

Answer 5

I think ur conscious of guilt feelings later... right now it had already started to prick you...don allow her to do things beyond her imagination..wht if tis leads 2 sumthin big in future? By chance she tells sum1 a friend r anybody and d matter is out in public boy ur lost ...her parents can even file a case on ya for such action wid their innocent daughter...i think u r equally nt matured...she's small n wants to experience new things because ur showing her d way n giving her d chance... Instead u can educate tht little girl shape her thoughts in a better way...if u turn her into a better person u get all d credits of a good human being! otherwise just avoid her save ur respect.

now its ur turn to make a perfect choice..

Answer 6

look i think u just leave her. As it is she is too big 4 u and is not of gud character. u just ignore her and wht grantee is there that she will not put in some problem. if in case she gets____. i hope u understand wht?? then she will only make u responsible 4 that. just get out of her. she is just not happening and by the way u r too young 4 all this crap. so just chill out dude and be happy, let her go to hell. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

Look, If she is ok with it do it dont dissappoint her, I will tell you onething, if she desperately needs it and if you dont give it to her, then she might leave you and search for someone who may be bad, So to avoid such problems in future go ahead and fulfill her expectations.

Answer 8

if you think that she must reserve it for the future. you already know that ure not gonna be with her. shes gonna have her own boyfriend her age.
so no dont do it.
guys obviously say go for it. coz most guys use girls for fun.
dont use her. respect her. maybe she is still young to understand
or immature.

Answer 9

I totally understand where your reserves are coming from....because that is my only regret on having sex....was that i didn't wait for, my now ex....I cared alot more about him than any other man I've ever slept with....so I applaud you for being concerned....however perhaps you are the guy she feels most like giving it to....and she is a grown woman who is mature enough to make that decision, so in a sense you do have to respect her wishes if she is truly serious...she's asked twice. ask her to think about it seriously and if she comes back a third time oblige her....she wants it to be you

Answer 10

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Answer 11

Tell her to make sure you are the one she really wants to loose her virginity to. If she really loves you,she will agree. If she is just doing for the expierance she will regret it. Ask her that if she gives it up to you, does that mean that she wants to marry you? You have to let her make her own decisions from there.