Most of my friends have done it already and say it is amazing. My bf keeps telling me how great it feels and that he loves me. I have thought of it but I am scared of something going wrong like a unwanted baby or an STD. I don't know what i should do. Id love some advice cause i really need it.
2007-07-31 19:47:37 · 65 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-07-31 19:48:45 · update #1
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2007-07-31 19:49:00 · update #2
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2007-07-31 19:54:58 · update #3
Okay first of all, it is great that you are asking advice on a very delicate matter. Remember, whether you get the advice from your friends, your pastor or priest, your mom or from some stranger from the internet, as long as it is good, sincere advice then it's okay. So, don't mind people who dis you for asking advice here. Now, about your problem. At 15, sex should be the last thing on your m ind. I'm not going to tell you that sex isn't great because I would be lying if I did. But please, do not start engaging in it at that age! Sex is best experienced in the context of marriage, cliche' as it may sound, take my word for it. Also, all the things you are worried about are realities that you would really have to face when you start having sex. I am pretty sure that at 15, your bf will not be able to support you and your baby if you suddenly get pregnant, no matter how much love he has for you. And I am betting that neither will he go through all the trouble of getting you treated if you do contract STD from him.
Remember, there is absolutely no reason for you to start doing something because everyone else is doing it. If that was the case, then we are no better than lemmings jumping off cliffs, right? Use your head, I feel that you have a good one between your shoulders, and save your purity for marriage! Take care and God bless!
2007-07-31 20:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by jayp 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think that you should wait, what is the rush. While it may feel good, the first time won't because it will hurt.
Also, is there really a rush for you to grow up so fast. You should be the only one to make that decision for your self since it's your body. But do it for all the right reasons, because you really are in love. When we are young we don't love in the same was as when we are older, relationships are much more different when we get to be a little bit older.
When we are younger boys will say that they love you, but mostly they just want to have sex. Because it's as your boyfriend stated to you, it feels good to them.
Never allow others to make you feel that you have to do some thing just because they have already done it.
Also you are so right things can and do go wrong, there are std's out there and they are both bad as well as deadly. If however you decided to go ahead and have sex with your boyfriend, Please make sure you are on the pill. Also make sure that you buy some condoms and make sure he wears them. And no you don't need a baby at this stage of your life.
If you think that you are ready to have sex, then you go and buy the condoms. If when you go to buy the condoms it makes you feel embarased then that should tell you that you are NOT ready to have sex with any one.
I say you should buy the condoms as it is better that you provide them than any guy, since you will know that no holes have been put into them at all. There are some people in this world who do things such as this, so you need to be the smarter person and be aware.
I hope this helps you.
2007-07-31 20:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is right for YOU? Being scared of unwanted baby or STD is a very mature response, not to mention you will be sharing your body in all of it's glory with another human being.
Are you on birth control and will he wear a condom? Will this be sneaky sex in the back of the car? Are you ready for the next level this will take your relationship? Because once you go all the way, you don't go back. At 15 it will become the focus of your relationship.
It is a very difficult decison to make, and I'm sure you are feeling a lot of pressure as well as curiousity and physical reactions that make you want to go forward. Just don't do it until you are ready!! My boyfriend at 15 actually punched my arm because I said no still after 9 months together! I walked away that night and didn't look back! And a few years later I did make the decison to say yes and it was still too soon. Don't do something you may regret later. It is a wonderful way to share yourself and fulfill the love you hold for your partner, but it is not the only way.
2007-07-31 20:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready to accept the possibility of getting a STD or raising a child then you are not ready to have sex. You have to be ready to accept the consequences for your actions to be ready to do the act. If your boyfriend really loves you he will wait for you. You are young, you have a future ahead of you and there are going to be more guys, and lots of years to have sex. Sex shouldn't be a responsibility that you should want to worry about so young. Raising a baby is hard to do no matter how old you are. It is hard work. Not all STD's are curable and they are not pretty to have. It could be permanent if you get the wrong disease. It is sounds fun and looks like the way to go to fit in to the crowd and have something to talk about at lunch with the others, but it has alot of consequences that no one thinks about until it is to late. Then your life changes and you have to adjust and you will wish that you waited. Once a guy has sex with you once, there is a good chance he will back again, and he could be bragging about it to his friends. It could cause rumors to get started about you at school. It is more drama than the 30sec orgasm that you could get during sex. WAIT!!
2007-07-31 19:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by busyliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you are emotionally, finacially and mentally ready for the consequences of sex(STDs, HIV, babies...etc.)then not, you're not ready. Don't let other people pressure you into something you think you'll regret and as for the boyfriend situation just tell him "If you loved me you wouldn't use that tired line." The whole boyfriend saying "if you loved me you would" line is as old as time and you could probably do a lot better than a guy who uses such a stupid line anyways. I myself am 21 and a virgin, mainly because I know I'm not ready to deal with a possible STD. Don't give others the power to pressure you into do something you don't want to do.
2007-07-31 19:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by Shannon A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not do anything YOU don't feel ready for, and whatever you do, don't let your boyfriend or your friends pressure you into it. Something could very easily go wrong. If you do decide to have sex, make sure that you are ready to accept the possible consequences, including pregnancy, STDs, or a heartbreak later on down the road. A break-up would definitely emotionally hurt more after you'd lost your virginity to him. I would strongly discourage having sex at this age. Best of luck with making your decision.
2007-07-31 19:52:50 · answer #6 · answered by mysemicharmedlife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 15 years old, you have every right to say no. No one in the world can answer if you are ready, only you can. If you are scared to get an STD or an unWANTED child, don't do it. Of course your boyfriend is going to say it feels great, and that he loves you, he is probably using you. This is the real world, do it when you are ready. Good Luck!
2007-07-31 19:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by Caitlin T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not ready, when we are ready for something we don't have doubts the way you do. Tell your boyfriend that if he really loves you he is going to wait until you are 100% sure of that. Don't let your friends put pressure on you, it's their problem if they want to have sex, and it's yours if you don't want. Live your life without complications, you don't want a baby just now or a STD. If your boyfriend breaks up with you because of that, then he doesn't love you. Love is not sex.
2007-07-31 19:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by Sarita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.
don't do it.
At 15, kids do not know what they're doing when it comes to sex. Your first time will probably be a huge disappointment if you're not ready and not doing it for the right reasons.
Please do not have sex just because your friends are telling you it feels amazing(they are most likely lying-your first time hurts). AND do not let your boyfriend pressure you.
If he really loves you, then he will wait until you are comfortable and ready. However long that may be.
Remember that you want it to be special. Your body is a special gift.
2007-07-31 19:58:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u're ready when u're confident abt it, not scared, clear abt ur choices and sure u wont regret it later on..also u should find the right person to do it with so it does not feel like a big mistake afterwards...personally i feel 15 is too early..wait till u're 16 at least...or until its legal.....and to avoid having a baby or any std u should ALWAYS...i repeat, ALWAYS...use a condom no matter what....thats the best option..also u could use birth control but tht has some side effects...and a spermicide too..... watever u do...make sure to enjoy it completely...dont do it becuse u feel pressurized to do so..or becuase everyone's doing/done it.....do it if u want to...take things slowly....take time for foreplay....be relaxed..and u'll definitely enjoy it a lot...have fun!!!
2007-07-31 19:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋