I had to stop taking birth control for health reasons so I asked my BF to start wearing a condom from now on and he refused. He called me selfish and either I get back on the pill or we won't have sex. What gives?
2007-07-31 19:47:15 · 29 answers · asked by JuDyLicious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not selfish for regarding your health over his sexual desires. If he doesn't accept you and your choices, then hes gotta give, or tell him he's not going to be getting any from you anytime soon.
2007-07-31 19:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by masshole 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Drop him. Find a new boyfriend someday who will respect your desires and have the same life goals as you do, such as finishing school without a baby. And btw, even if he uses a condom, they are not 100% effective. They break all the time or come off inside you. YOu will probably end up pregnant anyway. And the pill is not 100% effective either, and it sure doesn't protect you from getting HPV which leads to cervical cancer in women. You know what, you sound smart and like you are goal oriented, wanting to finish school, etc,...your best bet would be to abstain until are ready emotionally and financially and romantically to have a baby. That means when you are in a long term relationship and you know the guy isn't going to run if you get pregnant. Marriage is the best situation for pregnancy, even if it is old fashioned.
2016-05-19 21:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is selfish and inconsiderate not to wear the condom. I would tell him that there is no sex. If he is truly there because he cares for you he will be ok with not having sex and he will wait until you can get back on birth control. If not, there are more men out there with the same body part that functions the same if not better!
2007-07-31 19:51:06 · answer #3 · answered by busyliz 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He's developed expectations (sex without the annoyance/change in sensation of a condom) that you are unwilling or unable to fulfill.
You have expectations (he using a condom so you reduce health risks) that he isn't willing to fulfil.
I say you both need to sit down, explore and discuss all the pregnancy prevention options, perhaps seeking expert advice. If you remain at odds after that and there is no workable compromise, either you two risk becoming parents or it's time to go your seperate ways.
2007-07-31 20:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by Deathbunny 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a young man and single and know what your boyfriends problem is, he is a selfish jerk who does not really care about you your health or your long term future. Any man who acts like that is only there for his own pleasure. If I was you I would start looking for a new man because if you give in and keep him around it will only get worse he will give you less on all levels and expect more. he will end up treating you more like a possession than a person.
2007-07-31 20:01:15 · answer #5 · answered by Driver 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he has ALOT of respect foryou, unless he makes a good amount of income a month and has a shiny ring and you're ready for 18 years of being a mother go for it. If there's no reason why he can't wear a condom other than the fact that he doesn't want to, just dump him. Find a man who has more respect for you, you deserve alot of respect, not some cheap stick who uses the guilt factor into getting what he wants.
2007-07-31 19:55:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
honey he is the one being selfish he should care more for your health!! it may not feel as great with a condom but he can get over it! just hold out sex on him he will give in eventually we have more will power!! <3
2007-07-31 20:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by Beautiful B... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously the one who is selfish if he is more concerned about not wearing a condom than he is about your health. I would run as fast as you can from the guy.
2007-07-31 19:52:07 · answer #8 · answered by Living in BFE 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is engaging in a power of wills. He is the selfish one. NO CONDOM. NO SEX. You need a new boyfriend. A woman deserves to be protected from disease and pregnancy. He doesn't sound mature enough for sex. I put my foot through a guy's chest when he wouldn'd listen to me. When he picked his a s s up from the other side of the room...he realized who was in charge...and it wasn't him!
2007-07-31 20:00:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
HA! If he won't wear a rubber, you better not open your legs for him!!! Unless there's some type of birth control/STD prevention, then sex is out of the question. You tell him that... because you know what? You've got what HE wants, and you're not Burger King; he can't have it his way. Make sure he understands that.
2007-07-31 19:51:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
lol, selfish b/c you're concerned about your own health? I think he's being pretty selfish here by not understanding. trust me, you can out last him on the sex part... cutting a guy off is the worst possible torture.
2007-07-31 19:51:17 · answer #11 · answered by Team_Balla 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋