Years ago, my mother and I had a bad argument about what I would major in in college. She wanted a doctor. I wanted to study music. She got so ticked off at me, telling me I was wasting my time studying music, that I said the hell with it and didn't go to college at all. Now, my mother, who is now 73, says the argument never happened and that I made it up and I must have been on drugs at the time. She's calling me a liar. And, on top of it all, my younger sister, who wasn't even there, is calling me a liar, too and screamed at me for accusing my mother of something that "never happened". How do I handle this? What would you do?
2007-07-31 19:21:04 · 9 answers · asked by jare bare 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like ur mother doesn't want to have to deal with the issue. Or maybe she is telling the truth, and does not remember. Is she senile, even a little? Is ur sister angry with u? If ur mother chooses to be in denial..... there isn't much u can do. Speaking for myself, it wouldn't bother me to "let it go," and not bring up the subject with them anymore. I would know the truth. U can't force anyone to deal with an issue, if they don't want to. However, that leads to a lack of intimacy between u. BTW, what kind of woman would call her son a liar? If u just don't have peace about it, and have to explore it, ask gentle probing questions in an effort to get to the truth for ur self. It may be a no win situation..... their loss.
2007-07-31 19:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept the fact that 73 year olds aren't as sharp as they once were. She probably just doesn't remember. Agree to disagree and move on. Study whatever you want, sounds like you're an adult now, you can do it.
2007-07-31 19:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by ldybugg1752 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just shake it off. It sounds like a weird circumstance if your mother all of the sudden does not remember it. As for your sister--she sounds like she needs to stay out of the situation. It's not that big of a deal anymore, especially if it has been a while. ..
2007-07-31 19:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go.
It was the past. Move on to better things. Not worth arguing about. Your mom is getting older and you don't need your pride to get in the way of your love for her or your sister.
You know the truth and thats all that matters. Move on.
2007-07-31 19:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by RC Collns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm hmm well if ur mother was the only one there then its tough im sure it did happen and maybe shes just not rememebering as for ur sister she really has no right to tell u off she wasnt there not her buisness but i would just stop talking about the past and move on
2007-07-31 19:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by cb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just chalk it up to female stupidity. Women always have to be right. Just let it go and let them think what they want. You know it happened and thats all that matters.
2007-07-31 19:24:25 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forget it. If they think you are a liar then don't speak to them.
2007-07-31 19:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let it go, go on with your life
2007-07-31 19:24:59 · answer #8 · answered by David G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop stressing....it doesnt even matter anymore...are you happy with your decision, okay then..nothing else matters
2007-07-31 19:30:09 · answer #9 · answered by sckr4luv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋